Forever Learning Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 (edited) Like what ? Ok Smarty Arty Pants, here's the items that others mentioned, that I thought were personally interesting to ponder and not necessarily solely applicable to Johan's new love, but perhaps moreso for my life and love life. I think it's easy to project one's insecurities onto the new person you're seeing. It's called the honeymoon phase for a reason, and the feeling of being crazy in love is one of the best things in life. As long as one is able to see and assess the situation clearly. We have a saying in software engineering: "When all you have is a hammer, everything looks like a nail." Considering future goals is a great way to direct the present. It's great to know where one is going instead of just drifting aimlessly through life without a clue. Those are the things I liked on this page. That doesn't even include what Ninja in Pajamas wrote, because I always find something useful, enlightening, and of interest in what he writes as well (along with many things Elswyth mentioned). Want to pick on me some more Artsy Fartsy? Edited September 7, 2012 by Forever Learning 2
Art_Critic Posted September 7, 2012 Posted September 7, 2012 Want to pick on me some more Artsy Fartsy? Uncle.... you win 1
Author johan Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 I'm sitting in Chicago O'Hare, eating a house salad and seafood bisque, drinking a Stella, waiting to board leg 2 of my flight to go see her. For her it's 3am, and she's sound asleep on the new bed she bought for us to share. The next couple of weeks will be an adventure for us both. I admit I'm a bit nervous, although also really excited for the reunion. We both are. That brings up a concern, actually. We've been dying with anticipation, and we've really built this up to where I'm afraid of the let down when we find that seeing each other again is only great and not spectacular. I will be tired after all from the flight and the time difference, and way out of my element. And we might be surprised to find that we need a little time to get reacquainted. It's been on my mind, but I didn't bring it up. It was only in the back of my mind. We'll see. It isn't a bad problem to have. She's an angel, and she loves me, I know, even though we don't say that. I don't worry about "us". Those three words seem a little cheap to me, to be honest. With her anyway. Saying it feels like putting a mundane label on something really extraordinary. Like gluing a Ford emblem on a Ferrari. I could imagine being together with her for a long time and never needing to step back to remind ourselves of that obvious fact. "I love you." "No sh*t." 8
Art_Critic Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 I'm sitting in Chicago O'Hare, eating a house salad and seafood bisque, drinking a Stella, waiting to board leg 2 of my flight to go see her. For her it's 3am, and she's sound asleep on the new bed she bought for us to share. The next couple of weeks will be an adventure for us both. I admit I'm a bit nervous, although also really excited for the reunion. We both are. That brings up a concern, actually. We've been dying with anticipation, and we've really built this up to where I'm afraid of the let down when we find that seeing each other again is only great and not spectacular. I will be tired after all from the flight and the time difference, and way out of my element. And we might be surprised to find that we need a little time to get reacquainted. It's been on my mind, but I didn't bring it up. It was only in the back of my mind. We'll see. It isn't a bad problem to have. She's an angel, and she loves me, I know, even though we don't say that. I don't worry about "us". Those three words seem a little cheap to me, to be honest. With her anyway. Saying it feels like putting a mundane label on something really extraordinary. Like gluing a Ford emblem on a Ferrari. I could imagine being together with her for a long time and never needing to step back to remind ourselves of that obvious fact. "I love you." "No sh*t." Just have fun.... and tell her all about me ... oh and tell her you love her..
Art_Critic Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 By the way.. cool post... I love the way you think... 2
Author johan Posted September 15, 2012 Author Posted September 15, 2012 Just have fun.... and tell her all about me ... oh and tell her you love her.. I already told her about you, Art. That came up on the first date. She was surprisingly not the least bit jealous. Ha ha ha.. 5
amaysngrace Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Have a safe trip and have a great time. :bunny:
freestyle Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Congratulations, Johan! ---I'm very happy for you! I didn't see this thread until tonight, else I would've said it sooner. (I rarely come into the dating forum here--I'm in a LTR) Sending positive thoughts your way. 1
jobaba Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 First time reading this thread. Good luck to OP. I think it's great that you are able to remain a sensitive and emotional character. I've given up on that kind of storybook romance and reciprocal emotional connection. But I know it will work out for you. 1
carhill Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 Nothing like flying to visit a love. I remember sitting in the same airport on a snowy New Years Eve 15 years ago waiting to fly to Warsaw and on to Lviv. Great memories. Safe travels and best wishes
runner Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 have a little make out as soon as you two get to the car. if a car isn't involved, just pull her into a dark alley and, get reaquainted 3
Eternal Sunshine Posted September 15, 2012 Posted September 15, 2012 This type of story book romance is what I have been waiting for. Johan waited a long time and I can too.. I tried the logical approach and was never happy. Wishing johan a lot of this :bunny: 2
Els Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 Have fun, johan! I think it's normal to feel a little nervous and afraid of not living up to expectations, prior to a LD reunion... I certainly had my fair share of that during my 2 years of LD. It does take a little while to reacquaint, get over the initial awkwardness, work through the jet lag, etc... But if it's meant to be, the next few weeks will be AMAZING, and you'll be posting here about how you wish you didn't have to leave, then. 1
Mrlonelyone Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 Good luck Johan. I hope it all works out for you! I'm sorry if it has happened to you. I hope one day you'll find a woman (or man? Sorry, I haven't been keeping up with your history ) who will be happy to take the time to get to know you for you, rather than judging you based on your history and externals. If it's the right person woman or man won't matter to me.
FitChick Posted September 16, 2012 Posted September 16, 2012 A little late for this trip and I'm sorry I didn't think of it sooner, but you need to buy this book, The Cure For Jet Lag. It really works and there is science and not marketing or myth to back up the recommendations. Read the reviews. It's expensive but you can probably buy a used copy. I have the earlier edition, Overcoming Jet Lag, which is out of print, and plan to buy this updated edition. You only need to do the program on the eastbound part of your trip because that is where you lose a night's sleep. You have to adjust your eating habits a few days before travel but it's worth the inconvenience. I once ignored the advice and it took me days to recover, unlike when I follow the advice and hit the ground running when my flight lands. I don't bother carrying the book with me, just copy the pages I'll need for the time zone and bring them on the plane. Hope everything turns out well for you. I've been there, done that and plan to do it again if I can just find someone worth all the hassle.
Forever Learning Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Well I just wandered back over here after not having been here for most of September. I would love to have an update or someone direct me if another thread has been started on this with an update. I am on my phone so a bit hard to search and navigate around here. I sure hope Johan and his lady are as happy as they can be. This is such a wonderful thread. I love your posts here Johan. 3
ladyabstrused Posted September 29, 2012 Posted September 29, 2012 Hey johan, I just finished reading 14 pages of your thread here and I'm all excited, happy and smittened for you! I honestly agree with a lot of the posters here who said you should go for it. Because as long as you feel it's positive, you should go for it, take chances. And you sound like someone smart and wise who would know better if there was to be something going wrong. It seems that things are going well between you and this girl, I sincerely wish you all the best and hope things work out well and lovely for the both of you! Think I could be experiencing a somewhat similar situation as yours, as much as I did not really want a LDR for I have experienced enough of it, life throws me someone else who is really really far away and seems like it's going to go there. But you've inspired me now! Take care and have a blast, johan! Looking forward to hearing more sweet posts from you here. 1
Forever Learning Posted October 3, 2012 Posted October 3, 2012 Ok, you've had enough time to unpack, bucko. Spill the beans or I'm calling Fonzie. Don't drive me to drink milk and Pepsi in anticipation. Or date Potsie. I told him I have to wash my hair this weekend. Scoopage, post haste! Or at the very least, crumbs. 4
Trimmer Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 Ah, this always happens. They go off and get a girlfriend, and pretty soon, they're too busy to return calls, they don't show up for band practice any more, and before you know it, Ringo is out cutting singles on his own. End of an era. 9
Forever Learning Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 (edited) Ah, this always happens. They go off and get a girlfriend, and pretty soon, they're too busy to return calls, they don't show up for band practice any more, and before you know it, Ringo is out cutting singles on his own. End of an era. Johan always reminded me a bit more of Lennon. But now you mention it, I do see his inner Ringo. I bet he played a hellava drum solo for that sweet lady of his Edited October 5, 2012 by Forever Learning
Trimmer Posted October 5, 2012 Posted October 5, 2012 Johan always reminded me a bit more of Lennon. But now you mention it, I do see his inner Ringo. I bet he played a hellava drum solo for that sweet lady of his Ha ha... Sorry, I was thinking Lennon - he split with his new lady, and then poor lonely Ringo had to go out and try to make music on his own because he didn't have the band any more (Photograph, You're Sixteen, etc.) Kinda stretched the metaphor, I know, but I was just winging it... 1
Forever Learning Posted October 6, 2012 Posted October 6, 2012 Ha ha... Sorry, I was thinking Lennon - he split with his new lady, and then poor lonely Ringo had to go out and try to make music on his own because he didn't have the band any more (Photograph, You're Sixteen, etc.) Kinda stretched the metaphor, I know, but I was just winging it... Leave it to me to f*ck up a good metaphor LOL I have a feeling Johan decided that his relationship is no longer any of our business. Good call Johan! 2
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