SoulSearcher22 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Had my first dream in about a week of her after almost a month of NC. The dream took place where we met and she was with her ex. Felt terrible waking up. Extremely hurtful. I miss her so much and I wish she didn't end things the way she did, like a coward, but...i want these dreams to stop!!! just felt like typing something out
Canadian731 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Sadly, to speak bluntly, your sub concious is a douche bag, it seems like the more you don't want to think about something you will. I know it hurts now and the dreams are completely normal, just remember that eventually you will be over it and ready to find someone more compatible. It's funny I actually saw a picture of my ex yesterday after 2 months NC and she doesn't look anywhere near as good as I remembered, not sure if she gained a few or what. But now I think of that picture when I see pretty girls and I'm amazed that I could ever think nobody would ever look better then me in my head.
lunat1ccc Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I know what you mean. I used to get dreams these dreams after I broke up with my ex, and I hated how I felt after waking up. I felt hurt, sad, and simply just wanted to call her. But it only gets better. The frequency of these dreams will be less and as time progresses, it won't stir up with your emotions. Continue to be strong!
Author SoulSearcher22 Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 I hear yah...They are already few and far inbetween. Just want them to stop cold turkey...like she did to me...lol. Thanks guys
g450 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Sadly, to speak bluntly, your sub concious is a douche bag, it seems like the more you don't want to think about something you will. I know it hurts now and the dreams are completely normal, just remember that eventually you will be over it and ready to find someone more compatible. It's funny I actually saw a picture of my ex yesterday after 2 months NC and she doesn't look anywhere near as good as I remembered, not sure if she gained a few or what. But now I think of that picture when I see pretty girls and I'm amazed that I could ever think nobody would ever look better then me in my head. Yep. In my case I have two decades of memories with my XW and although I am remarried I have to admit, sometimes I do have dreams about her. The dreams were usually pretty strange. I have no idea what they meant, if anything. And I do know my XW has also gained weight. She looks nothing like I remember her and honestly I try to block thoughts of her out of my mind. It's not health in a new marriage to be thinking about your X. Im sure my current wife probably still thinks about hers even though she says otherwise. I consider it human.
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