jgregory4614 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Yeah...I said it. I just going to play it cool. I'm not going to dig for info about what she's been doing. I'm not trying to get back with her either. Just small talk and nothing more. Ill let you guys know how it turns out.
Author jgregory4614 Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 Everything went good. I did what I said and stuck to the small talk. Didn't have an akward moment either. We asked each other about our jobs, and how everyday life in general is going. Needless to say, we haven't talked in a while so the conversation was a bit long. I never asked her anything personnal which may lead to things that I might not want to find out about and she never asked me anything personnal either. There was some eye contact but no flirting which I never pushed the issue. In conclusion, It would not be a problem for me if we could become friends. I don't envy her or want to be with her either. I think I'm finally at a crossroad of options in my life. I have a chance to be what I want and do what I want. This feels like a chance to better myself in life. Do the things I've always wanted that I wasn't able to do for the past 8 years we were together. The thing is guys, if you can talk to your ex without being torn up about your break up or you feel like you cant go on without them, just think again. You can go on without them! I'm living proof. 1
Tyler. Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 Everything went good. I did what I said and stuck to the small talk. Didn't have an akward moment either. We asked each other about our jobs, and how everyday life in general is going. Needless to say, we haven't talked in a while so the conversation was a bit long. I never asked her anything personnal which may lead to things that I might not want to find out about and she never asked me anything personnal either. There was some eye contact but no flirting which I never pushed the issue. In conclusion, It would not be a problem for me if we could become friends. I don't envy her or want to be with her either. I think I'm finally at a crossroad of options in my life. I have a chance to be what I want and do what I want. This feels like a chance to better myself in life. Do the things I've always wanted that I wasn't able to do for the past 8 years we were together. The thing is guys, if you can talk to your ex without being torn up about your break up or you feel like you cant go on without them, just think again. You can go on without them! I'm living proof. Well good for you man, i'm glad for you. You're at that stage when you can see everything clearly and you can make logical decisions. Lot's of people idolise their ex, they think that he/she is the most perfect person in the world. But after you go out there and meet other people you realise she wasn't the only one and there are lots of better people out there. I'm happy for you man, keep it up.
Author jgregory4614 Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 Your right Tyler...I found it easier when I'd talk to random people. Doesn't matter who I would talk to. Men, women, attractive women, not so attractive women. Every person I would talk to helped a little bit each time. I got to meet some really good people along the way. For some of you, try this. In time this helps. After a while you will fill a change in yourself. 1
Soxfaninfl Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 . The thing is guys, if you can talk to your ex without being torn up about your break up or you feel like you cant go on without them, just think again. You can go on without them! I'm living proof. I can't. I prefer no contact. My ex wife was my first love, and it still hurts after 2 1/2 years. We were together for 11 years.
Gaprofitt Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Yeah...I said it. I just going to play it cool. I'm not going to dig for info about what she's been doing. I'm not trying to get back with her either. Just small talk and nothing more. Ill let you guys know how it turns out. Good luck! I'd die to have dinner with my wife who's been gone for 1.5 months. I'd just love to talk to and listen to her. I miss her voice badly.
Tyler. Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Good luck! I'd die to have dinner with my wife who's been gone for 1.5 months. I'd just love to talk to and listen to her. I miss her voice badly. But that's not the same as jgregory, you obviously have some feelings for her. First you have to understand that it's over, then you can meet her later. You may even get back together but not as long as she's on your mind. This is because as long as you get back together when you're not over her, not much is going to change after your failed marriage. You have to open a new chapter. And if after that you guys get back together, treat it like a new relationship rather than getting back together.
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