jmjacobs31 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Its been 4 months since my ex of 12 years broke up with me. The first 3 months or so were horrible! I lost 20lbs, could not sleep, and felt like I was starting to go crazy! The past month or so things have been getting a little better. I have been keeping my self crazy busy and have been spending a lot more time with friends and family. My friends have been amazing and without them I would not have made it this far. I've had very limited contact with my ex. Only dealing with him very business like when I need him to help with our/now my dogs. Once I am a little more financially stable I wont need him to help with the dogs anymore. I still miss him but not as much as a couple months ago. I am still sad that we could not have worked things out but when I see him I almost feel sorry for him, and that gives me a little smile on my face. I know I still have a long road to getting back to what I use to be but I feel that I am on the right track. I can't wait to see where I am in 4 more months! 1
dss Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Its been 4 months since my ex of 12 years broke up with me. The first 3 months or so were horrible! I lost 20lbs, could not sleep, and felt like I was starting to go crazy! The past month or so things have been getting a little better. I have been keeping my self crazy busy and have been spending a lot more time with friends and family. My friends have been amazing and without them I would not have made it this far. I've had very limited contact with my ex. Only dealing with him very business like when I need him to help with our/now my dogs. Once I am a little more financially stable I wont need him to help with the dogs anymore. I still miss him but not as much as a couple months ago. I am still sad that we could not have worked things out but when I see him I almost feel sorry for him, and that gives me a little smile on my face. I know I still have a long road to getting back to what I use to be but I feel that I am on the right track. I can't wait to see where I am in 4 more months! My ex of 10 years broke up with me 4 days ago im devastated
Author jmjacobs31 Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 My ex of 10 years broke up with me 4 days ago im devastated Believe me I was devastated! He pretty much broke up with my with out warning, didnt want to try and work on our issues, and tried to sleep with someone he works with almost instantly. He kicked me out of our home and I had to live with a friend for two months while I tried to find a place to live. I could not eat, sleep of function properly. I felt like I was going crazy so I started to see a therapist. My Therapist if fantastic and has helped me see I was in an unhealthy relationship. Its not been an easy 4 months but I each day does get better. I still have many struggles and I wonder if I will ever find someone to love again. I am sorry you are going through this. I know how much it hurts!
Canadian731 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I think that dumpees really should know what is going on in the head of the dumper, they know days, weeks or even months before that things aren't working, most of the time they deal with the break up before you are even broken up. In terms of my breakup with my ex of 4 years. I know now that she wasn't sure of what she wanted and probably thought things have moved too soon for how old we are, she didn't have the integrity to tell me that she wasn't feeling like we were working at that time, so she ended up cheating as a way out. It is really sad because she will hav to live with the guilt of that for the rest of her life.
Author jmjacobs31 Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 I think that dumpees really should know what is going on in the head of the dumper, they know days, weeks or even months before that things aren't working, most of the time they deal with the break up before you are even broken up. In terms of my breakup with my ex of 4 years. I know now that she wasn't sure of what she wanted and probably thought things have moved too soon for how old we are, she didn't have the integrity to tell me that she wasn't feeling like we were working at that time, so she ended up cheating as a way out. It is really sad because she will hav to live with the guilt of that for the rest of her life. I would have loved to of known a little bit of what my ex was thinking when he broke up with me. Since he didn't give me much, just that he wasn't happy I made my own conclusions. Weather they are true or not I don't know. I have accepted the fact that I will most likely never know the reason he ended things. I know he does have a lot of guilt for what he did to me and that does put a small smile on my face, although I know he has no idea the pain I have endured. After our break up I realized he checked out of this relationship a long time ago which made it easier on him then me when we actually parted. Luckily he waited till the day after we split to try and sleep with someone else instead of cheating on me.
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