youngnlove89 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 After he didn't talk to me for 4 days while he was gone, it was the last straw that broke the camel's back. I'm mad at him. He texted me once or twice during the 4 days. That was it and it wasn't anything special. This isn't the ONLY reason I'm upset with him, but this was just IT for me. Is it okay to give him no reason to why I'm ignoring him? He has already tried to call me and I've ignored him. I'm afraid if I hear his voice, I'll just forgive him and continue on this relationship with someone who is emotionally unavailable. He has commitment issues. I can't do it anymore. Of course, if he gets worried I'll tell him I'm okay. But that's it. Is this okay to do?
Sameold Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I would tell him why first to be honest, just ignoring seems unfair 1
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 I would tell him why first to be honest, just ignoring seems unfair What do I say? I want short and simple. I know he is going to fight for me back and I'm scared of that
jmjacobs31 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I would send one text or email saying you are going NC and to not contact you anymore. This way you wont need to feel back for ignoring him anymore. After you send that text I am sure he will text back wanting a response but don't do it. Stay strong!
confusedx10 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 if he is an ******* then say its over. but if you love him and get annoyed you should talk about it. you should think about it and make the decision when you are thinking clearly. you might just want to break up now because your emotions are high and youll regret it later
Leigh 87 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 First of all - CONGRATULATIONS! I am SO proud of you for having the stregth to walk away!!!!!!! You absolutely should go no contact. I always tell people to remember that it is THEM, not you; they could really like you, but just not feel the spark. It does not mean your not good enough or that if you were prettier, funnier, and a better women all around, that he would like you more; you either feel " it" for someone, or you don't. Often times, people feel " it" with people who are less attractive, less educated, and less interesting than other girls they DID NOT feel " it" with. It is really just luck! Because you have integrity and are a good women - if you feel like it ( not that you ow him ANYTHING), you could send him a brief text or meet him in person even, simply tell him: " I really wish we could be happy together, but your not as into me as I am into you, and I would like to be free to find a partner who wants a future with me, and think you should find the right girl for you too" ...When my partner is away, he calls every day when he has phone reception. He is in Thailand at the moment, and at midnight once he got up and walked around just so he could talk to me on facebook chat. He has messaged me every day on facebook, after day 3 of the trip. He tells me how much he misses and loves me every time. Sure, we will easily go a couple of days without contact now that we have touched base for the last 2 - 3 days of him being away, but your boyfriend showed he did not miss you at all. ....Again, remember it is not YOU as a person. He obviously thinks your good enough and a nice enough person to enjoy being around you most days! You just lack the spark that is true of love, therefore he is not compelled to truly be into you. Good luck, please let us know how it all unfolds!
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 First of all - CONGRATULATIONS! I am SO proud of you for having the stregth to walk away!!!!!!! You absolutely should go no contact. I always tell people to remember that it is THEM, not you; they could really like you, but just not feel the spark. It does not mean your not good enough or that if you were prettier, funnier, and a better women all around, that he would like you more; you either feel " it" for someone, or you don't. Often times, people feel " it" with people who are less attractive, less educated, and less interesting than other girls they DID NOT feel " it" with. It is really just luck! Because you have integrity and are a good women - if you feel like it ( not that you ow him ANYTHING), you could send him a brief text or meet him in person even, simply tell him: " I really wish we could be happy together, but your not as into me as I am into you, and I would like to be free to find a partner who wants a future with me, and think you should find the right girl for you too" ...When my partner is away, he calls every day when he has phone reception. He is in Thailand at the moment, and at midnight once he got up and walked around just so he could talk to me on facebook chat. He has messaged me every day on facebook, after day 3 of the trip. He tells me how much he misses and loves me every time. Sure, we will easily go a couple of days without contact now that we have touched base for the last 2 - 3 days of him being away, but your boyfriend showed he did not miss you at all. ....Again, remember it is not YOU as a person. He obviously thinks your good enough and a nice enough person to enjoy being around you most days! You just lack the spark that is true of love, therefore he is not compelled to truly be into you. Good luck, please let us know how it all unfolds! Thank you, but if it's the right thing then how come it feel soo wrong. He still hasn't called me. I'm starting to think that he ended this before I walked away. I'm really upset right now and all I want to do is talk to him, I just want him to want me.
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