The Houdini

[Crila16]

Just need someone's opinion. I've only been dating this guy for a little over 2 weeks...and no not madly in love, but really like him a lot. We were having a lot of fun. We went to dinner on one date, went running together and made dinner on another, lots of cuddling, hand holding, talking. We just clicked. He txt'd me everyday, even if to just see how my day was going.

 

Last Wed, he asked me out for Sat. On the Fri before the Sat, he was at a golf outing near his parents, which was almost cancelled due to rain. He asked if it were cancelled, could he see me Fri night and he wouldn't stay at his parents? I said we could do Fri instead of Sat. An hour later, I get a txt, golf back on cause rain stopped...let's keep Saturday. I said "ok, good luck with golf.Then after his golf outing he txt'd and said "Hey babe, how's your Fri night?" I was at dinner with friends and asked about the golf.By the time I got back o him, it was late, so I wasn't alarmed he didn't respond back.

 

Saturday, I didn’t hear from him all day. I knew he had been at his parents and his favourite aunt was in town. I knew it because he had told me the wkend before, and I was surprised he even wanted to see me on Saturday knowing she was in town. I finally txt around 4:30pm and asked if we were still on. He txtd back immediately and said he was so sorry, still had a lot of family at his parents, he’d been trying to leave, but wouldn’t get home until late, could were schedule for Sunday. My heart sank and all of a sudden, without warning, all I could think was, this guy who can’t stop holding your hand, hugging me, holding me, wanting to get to know me, txting me...just isn’t into me. Otherwise, he would have called to cancel properly. I jus ttxt’d back “no worries.” Thinking it was over. It usually is once a guy starts letting you down.

 

Around 10pm, he txt’s me and said “I wish I was with you! Had a fun day with the family,though too much wine. How’s your night?” Of course, i got happy again. I responded with “Hanging with Friends. See you tomorrow."

 

I haven’t heard from him since...just gone. I also know for a fact there isn’t a recent girlfriend or ex. I don't know. Is it that he's just not interested all of a sudden?

Edited August 14, 2012 by Crila16

[InJest]

You were the one that blew him off.

[AlexCross]

Just need someone's opinion. I've only been dating this guy for a little over 2 weeks...and no not madly in love, but really like him a lot. We were having a lot of fun. We went to dinner on one date, went running together and made dinner on another, lots of cuddling, hand holding, talking. We just clicked. He txt'd me everyday, even if to just see how my day was going.

 

Last Wed, he asked me out for Sat. On the Fri before the Sat, he was at a golf outing near his parents, which was almost cancelled due to rain. He asked if it were cancelled, could he see me Fri night and he wouldn't stay at his parents? I said we could do Fri instead of Sat. An hour later, I get a txt, golf back on cause rain stopped...let's keep Saturday. I said "ok, good luck with golf.Then after his golf outing he txt'd and said "Hey babe, how's your Fri night?" I was at dinner with friends and asked about the golf.By the time I got back o him, it was late, so I wasn't alarmed he didn't respond back.

 

Saturday, I didn’t hear from him all day. I knew he had been at his parents and his favourite aunt was in town. I knew it because he had told me the wkend before, and I was surprised he even wanted to see me on Saturday knowing she was in town. I finally txt around 4:30pm and asked if we were still on. He txtd back immediately and said he was so sorry, still had a lot of family at his parents, he’d been trying to leave, but wouldn’t get home until late, could were schedule for Sunday. My heart sank and all of a sudden, without warning, all I could think was, this guy who can’t stop holding your hand, hugging me, holding me, wanting to get to know me, txting me...just isn’t into me. Otherwise, he would have called to cancel properly. I jus ttxt’d back “no worries.” Thinking it was over. It usually is once a guy starts letting you down.

 

Around 10pm, he txt’s me and said “I wish I was with you! Had a fun day with the family,though too much wine. How’s your night?” Of course, i got happy again. I responded with “Hanging with Friends. See you tomorrow."

 

I haven’t heard from him since...just gone. I also know for a fact there isn’t a recent girlfriend or ex. I don't know. Is it that he's just not interested all of a sudden?

 

You blew him off.

[Crila16]

What? No I didn't.

 

He txt'd and said "I wish I was with you! Good family day though. Too much wine. How's your night?"

 

I said "Hanging with friends. See you tomorrow."

 

How is that blowing him off? He blew me off for Saturday. I was hurt. I had to ask him what the deal was for Saturday night. He said "Sorry...still with family, can we do Sunday." Then he never came through and I never heard from him on Sunday. Haven't heard from him since.

[Crila16]

And as for this part.

 

"Hey babe, how's your Fri night?" I was at dinner with friends and asked about the golf.By the time I got back o him, it was late, so I wasn't alarmed he didn't respond back.

 

I was at dinner with my friends and got his txt an hour later. He txt'd me around 9pm and i txt'd him around 10pm. I said "I'm at dinner with friends at a restaurant you would really like. How was golf?" I never heard back. Didn't hear back all day Saturday until 4:30pm when I txt'd him and asked if we were still on for Saturday night?

[AlexCross]

What? No I didn't.

 

He txt'd and said "I wish I was with you! Good family day though. Too much wine. How's your night?"

 

I said "Hanging with friends. See you tomorrow."

 

How is that blowing him off? He blew me off for Saturday. I was hurt. I had to ask him what the deal was for Saturday night. He said "Sorry...still with family, can we do Sunday." Then he never came through and I never heard from him on Sunday. Haven't heard from him since.

 

He was trying to initiate a text conversation and you were salty from the night before so you blew him off with that text to punish him.

[Crila16]

No. I think you're misunderstanding.

 

Friday night...he asked about my night. I asked about his golf and told him about the restaurant. He never responded back. I let it go.

 

Saturday. Waited to hear from him all day. Not even a txt to say he couldn't make it. I had to txt him and ask. He said he was sorry, but could we make it for Sunday. I was hurt and just said "No worries." Later Saturday night he txt and said "I wish I was with you. How's your night?" I said "Hanging with friends, see you tomorrow."

 

I absolutely did NOT blow him off. He blew me off.

[AlexCross]

No. I think you're misunderstanding.

 

Friday night...he asked about my night. I asked about his golf and told him about the restaurant. He never responded back. I let it go.

 

Saturday. Waited to hear from him all day. Not even a txt to say he couldn't make it. I had to txt him and ask. He said he was sorry, but could we make it for Sunday. I was hurt and just said "No worries." Later Saturday night he txt and said "I wish I was with you. How's your night?" I said "Hanging with friends, see you tomorrow."

 

I absolutely did NOT blow him off. He blew me off.

 

I think he thinks the hanging with friends see you tomorrow was a blow off. Thats my opinion.

[WhatYouWantToHear]

I swear to Buddha that texting is going to be the downfall of civilization. Its going to end up starting World War 3 because someone misconstrued what another texted.

 

Pick up the phone and use it as god intended--call him and hash this out in real time with your voices.

[InJest]

Yeah, the 'see you tomorrow' text was blow off, whether you meant it to be or not. Look how many of us misinterpreted...is it that hard to think he might have misinterpreted also?

 

You haven't tried contacting him either, so maybe he thinks you're mad at him, which you seem to be. You sound kinda crazy, especially after only two weeks.

[AlexCross]

No. I think you're misunderstanding.

 

Friday night...he asked about my night. I asked about his golf and told him about the restaurant. He never responded back. I let it go.

 

Saturday. Waited to hear from him all day. Not even a txt to say he couldn't make it. I had to txt him and ask. He said he was sorry, but could we make it for Sunday. I was hurt and just said "No worries." Later Saturday night he txt and said "I wish I was with you. How's your night?" I said "Hanging with friends, see you tomorrow."

 

I absolutely did NOT blow him off. He blew me off.

 

Break up with him you are not a good match.

[veggirl]

Yes the "hanging with friends. see you tomorrow" came off as aloof, rude, and as a blow off.

 

Why didn't you contact him the next day after you said "see you tomorrow"? I mean you sound bratty in the text, I think it's up to you to contact him. He sounded genuinely sorry for having to cancel Saturday night, why did you assume he is not interested anymore?!

 

You sound really paranoid. You have known this guy for 2 weeks. It doesn't sound like he has done ANYTHING wrong.

 

What time were you gonna meet up Sat? You txt him at 4:30, maybe he was still trying to get away, maybe he was gonna txt you at 5pm. Who knows? I think you're freaking out for no reason and he has caught onto that, esp with the 'tudey "hanging with friends. see you tomorrow" when he sent you a genuinely nice message.

[Crila16]

OK. Well. He FINALLY just reappeared and txt'd me. He said.

 

"Hey. Sorry I've been MIA. Crazy wkend and start to week. What are you up to tonite? Free at all this week?"

 

I don't think he thought I was blowing him off. I think he's trying to turn me into a fun time girl. I just would have thought if he had plans with me for this past Saturday, that by 4:30pm I should have heard from him to cancel. We were supposed to get together around 6pm. I had to contact him to find out what was going on so I didn't waste my Saturday night and had time to make other plans.

 

Then he asked me out for Sunday and never contacted me for Sunday. The Sunday before he contacted me at 10:30am.

[Crila16]

...and when he txt me later on Saturday night...i had my friends over. He txt'd and said "I wish I was with you" Well he could have been with me. He was supposed to have been. It's his fault he wasn't. All I expected was a curtosy call or txt. That's all. Then Sunday, he asked me. I said I'd see him on Sunday...and I never heard from him until today.

[AlexCross]

...and when he txt me later on Saturday night...i had my friends over. He txt'd and said "I wish I was with you" Well he could have been with me. He was supposed to have been. It's his fault he wasn't. All I expected was a curtosy call or txt. That's all. Then Sunday, he asked me. I said I'd see him on Sunday...and I never heard from him until today.

 

Which is why you sent that short snotty text, to punish him and lash out at him

[veggirl]

Oh okay, I didn't realize he made plans with you for Sunday as well and then never contacted you on Sunday. That's crappy.

 

I'd move on.

 

Did he ever explain that?

 

"busy weekend" is not an explanation I'd accept. Did you respond to his inquiry for this week?

[Crila16]

you're right. I was a little bratty...but I felt he deserved it.

 

Anyway...again, it's not that I'm in love with this guy. I've only known him 2 weeks. I just liked him and was having a good time. I didn't understand the keeping me hanging over the wkend. I thought that was mean. I had just been dating a guy for 2 months prior, and he did a similar thing to me and totally disappeared and really hurt me badly. I guess I am a little paranoid and fragile about the blow off thing. I just was upset that I just went through this recently, only to have it happen again with this guy.

[Crila16]

Thanks Veggirl.

 

Yes. I responded. I just said I was busy tonight and tomorrow night but would have to stop by at some point to pick up my favorite movie. (that he has at his apt still). He <shocker> txt'd back immediately and said "for sure!" That's the quickest response I've gotten since the weekend.

 

I didn't want him to think I was mad and that he got to me. I also don't think he understands that I'm NOT stopping by tonite or tmrw night. I guess I kinda left him hanging. When I do finally stop by, I'm going to ask him to leave my movie at the security desk in his lobby so I can swing by and grab it.

[fishtaco]

Passive aggressive behavior is not a good way to start a relationship.