lil hoodlum Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I want a boyfriend who can call me up everyday and talk to me. I want a boyfriend who can text me good morning and good night. I want a boyfriend who can take me out on the weekends and do fun things together. I want a boyfriend who says he misses me when were aren't together. I want a boyfriend who says he loves me everday. I want flowers, simple gestures, and heart-warming surprises. I want to feel loved and wanted by someone. I want to be told I'm what he's been looking for. I want to be able to trust him and be trusted by him. I want to prosper in a relationship, move in, get engaged, get married and have a family. I want romance. I want needy eyes and candle lit dinners. I want excitement, I want the LOVE to be mutal, I want passion and everything a relationship should be. I don't think I'm asking for much, all those things should be there in a relationship that is heading for long-term. All those things should be there when someone loves you. Ok I have to comment, I have consistently done all of these things for my ex/girlfriend except the engagement/married/family part. I was going to propose 10-11-2012 or 12-12-2012. It still wasn't enough. My heart is absolutely crushed. I thought she wanted the same things also, well at least that's what we talked about the engagemet/marriage part. Oh and yes, I kinda am the bad boy. Used to be a real bad boy years ago. It never got me anywheres except for women with no priorities or goals in life. Sorry to hijack, but there are still some of us guys who do exist. And no, I do not think you are asking for too much. You shouldn't have to settle for less than what you believe you deserve. It sounds like you are the kind of woman who knows what she wants and you shouldn't have to explain why or apologize for wanting what you want. I know this must be hard for you. Keep your chin up and believe that someday you will receive what you seek!
RogerWallace111 Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 (edited) ^ the bad boy who also does all that **** is the lethal combo ! even though I, like you, still lost the woman... it seemed for a long time like being the deeply-loving sweetheart / driven badass with the past dirt (never any violent **** but i'll leave it at that) kept me in some position where I would never lose her. anyway, the tough part is, finding a guy who's the hopeless romantic, yet also self-respecting, strong for you, has **** going for him, etc. the type i am proud to be any girl can find some sniveling guy who will do anything for her. and same with girls for guys. in fact my goal is to find a girl who's incredibly sweet & really needs me, yet can maintain a sense of independence and personal value. the last one might have been a little too needy... **** even her ending things was more or less out of fear of me leaving her/not marrying her Edited August 15, 2012 by RogerWallace111
dinosaur Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I left my boyfriend tons of times for this! And every time he'd claim he'd "improve" or decide that he suddenly wanted to be "official" and he'd always change his mind. I was at the 1.5 yr point when we got back together and he acted like the perfect boyfriend for a short while, and just went back to his old ways. He's not going to change, sorry - give him up. You deserve someone who wants to commit to you, thinks about you, and wants to be with you. I never wanted like a dozen roses or anything like that, but it would have been nice to get phone calls when he was away or at least for him to initiate things other than sex for once. Good riddance, girl! Don't go back - he's not worth it. I spent another year and a half on that relationship and it was a waste of 3 years.
Fitnerd Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I agree with the others, you made the right choice! You'll regret not doing it in the future if you don't do it now. I applaud you for thinking ahead! And trust, there ARE hopeless romantics out there! I don't think I can consider myself one (especially next to Chi townD) but doing small gestures every day is something I also love doing. And I hope that I find someone who would the same for me one day
William. Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I dunno i suppose this is off topic and really just about me, but the idea seems to be similar with the main one in this topic. Today, my girlfriend of a few months decided that we weren't meant for each other and how she is looking for someone who wouldn't argue with her because she tries to be so perfect so that there won't be anything to disagree on, and how she wants to live her own life. I mean sure i suppose some of that stuff is reasonable but is that really how this chapter ends for me? P.S She's 14 and i'm 18 but she's no ordinary 14 year old i.e got quite the amount of wit and intelligence yet i now believe, lack of understanding
Author youngnlove89 Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 I dunno i suppose this is off topic and really just about me, but the idea seems to be similar with the main one in this topic. Today, my girlfriend of a few months decided that we weren't meant for each other and how she is looking for someone who wouldn't argue with her because she tries to be so perfect so that there won't be anything to disagree on, and how she wants to live her own life. I mean sure i suppose some of that stuff is reasonable but is that really how this chapter ends for me? P.S She's 14 and i'm 18 but she's no ordinary 14 year old i.e got quite the amount of wit and intelligence yet i now believe, lack of understanding You are seriously going to hack my thread for a 14 year old?! WOW. you are 18 and that is illegal. Start your own thread and get off mine please. She is 14 and not the one! Sorry to burst your bubble. EW
lil hoodlum Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 ^ the bad boy who also does all that **** is the lethal combo ! even though I, like you, still lost the woman... it seemed for a long time like being the deeply-loving sweetheart / driven badass with the past dirt (never any violent **** but i'll leave it at that) kept me in some position where I would never lose her. anyway, the tough part is, finding a guy who's the hopeless romantic, yet also self-respecting, strong for you, has **** going for him, etc. the type i am proud to be any girl can find some sniveling guy who will do anything for her. and same with girls for guys. in fact my goal is to find a girl who's incredibly sweet & really needs me, yet can maintain a sense of independence and personal value. the last one might have been a little too needy... **** even her ending things was more or less out of fear of me leaving her/not marrying her No, I still lost the girl. I guess after 4.5 years I just wasn't good enough for her. First time I have ever wanted to marry someone too! She totally screwed up my world. It is taking me awhile but I am getting my mojo/cofidence back. I am still in shock and disbelief over everything. But I guess it is true that everything happens for a reason. Maybe the next girl will be the one! To be fair though, I am a human and have made a few mistakes. I have take these mistakes to heart and have learned from them. The next girl had better watch out because I will be coming on from a much better place.
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