BDranger Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Some back story - came back home from my first deployment and met my best friends sister. Thinks go well for a while, she is calling and texting all the time, all the regular signs are there. I have her come to my marine corps ball as my date and before she left she kisses me admits feelings and feels I rejected. We make it up, decide to date and she invites me down for a 5 day weekend. Things are all going well but once I leave apartment to go back to base things go down hill. She firsts says she is afraid of relationships and words that describe it, then its she has school and work (this day to this day) and we're 4 hours apart it cant work. She then gets angry and misreads messages I send her and after some more time she says she met someone and he makes her happy and for me to just let it go. I went strict no-contact and I recently deployed for the 2nd time after this (which she knew about). So, her message reads as follows: "Hey, how ya doin?" I did not respond. I read these boards, I know she could be bored, having a guilt trip, having man problems, just wants to generally play games with me, etc etc..... Oh and the time frame is knew her about 8 months before things broke, tried talking for about 2 and then no contact about 6 months now. I think it sounds like the average female dumper story, I just want to be sure I am doing the right thing. How I feel towards her? I know what my emotions say, my mind tells me my emotions are wrong. Love you LS guys and gals!
lovejoy41 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 (edited) Don't respond. You're doing too good to break NC now. 6 months NC is really good. I'll be glad when I get there. It's only been 2 1/2 weeks for me but I'm good. He treated me so bad that I don't even desire to break NC at all! Your ex is probably throwing breadcrumbs or like you said feeling guilty about how she dumped you. Amazing how dumpers do this and think that after time has passed they can contact you with a casual "What's up?", "Hey", or a "How are you"? smh Stay in NC, the woman that you deserve will come along soon. Edited August 14, 2012 by lovejoy41
EgoJoe Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 First off, OP, thank you for your service. Secondly, good job. You're keeping it real. Bad news: She is an immature ego-driven game playing transitory emotion emitter. Unpredictable and yet oh so predictable based on the former. I think she is best left alone to her own devices. It is actually the kindest thing you can do for her, in my opinion. So, don't think of it as rude, think of it as allowing her the opportunity to engage in introspection. 1
AlexfromBoston Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Some back story - came back home from my first deployment and met my best friends sister. Thinks go well for a while, she is calling and texting all the time, all the regular signs are there. I have her come to my marine corps ball as my date and before she left she kisses me admits feelings and feels I rejected. We make it up, decide to date and she invites me down for a 5 day weekend. Things are all going well but once I leave apartment to go back to base things go down hill. She firsts says she is afraid of relationships and words that describe it, then its she has school and work (this day to this day) and we're 4 hours apart it cant work. She then gets angry and misreads messages I send her and after some more time she says she met someone and he makes her happy and for me to just let it go. I went strict no-contact and I recently deployed for the 2nd time after this (which she knew about). So, her message reads as follows: "Hey, how ya doin?" I did not respond. I read these boards, I know she could be bored, having a guilt trip, having man problems, just wants to generally play games with me, etc etc..... Oh and the time frame is knew her about 8 months before things broke, tried talking for about 2 and then no contact about 6 months now. I think it sounds like the average female dumper story, I just want to be sure I am doing the right thing. How I feel towards her? I know what my emotions say, my mind tells me my emotions are wrong. Love you LS guys and gals! Semper Fi brother....personally, I would advise that you inform her exactly how you feel and let her know that you would be happy to give her space if that's what she desires. If she does contact you let her know that your feelings for her are too strong and if she doesn't share the same sentiment, then you simply could not stay in contact with her. If she tries to play games make sure you cut her out of the equation completely.
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