KeepMeInMind Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I'm fearful that I'll never have the bond, connection, so much in common, total comfort (let myself go) around him, with anyone else. I've never felt something so deep and so powerful. But it's over, and it's out of my hands, and I quit. Has anyone else lost what they felt like was the love of their life, only to find someone else who you felt the same way about? Or you even felt more strongly about?? Please say yes!
Lizzie60 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 That 'love of my life' thing is the most ridiculous concept. There is no such thing.... We evolve, we change... so does our taste, our expectations.. etc. What we want in our 20s is totally different of what we expect in our 50s... That's life!!! 4
freestyle Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I'm fearful that I'll never have the bond, connection, so much in common, total comfort (let myself go) around him, with anyone else. I've never felt something so deep and so powerful. But it's over, and it's out of my hands, and I quit. Has anyone else lost what they felt like was the love of their life, only to find someone else who you felt the same way about? Or you even felt more strongly about?? Please say yes! Yes---after years of being hung up on "the one who got away"---I met someone who just blew my mind. So it IS possible. I know it's hard to think that way, when you're buried in grief, but rest assured.........life can surprise you. Lizzie's right, too---what works for you when you're one age, may change as you grow and mature. 1
CarrieT Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I have had several "love of my lifes" and am now in my late 40s, truly believing I have finally met the man with whom I can share the rest of my life. Looking back on the ones I married and the ones I lived for YEARS, I thought at the time that they were the "loves of my life" and was convinced when I lost them that I would never find another like them... That is actually true on some levels. The one you lost will fill a part of your heart that can't be duplicated, but -- and here is the good part -- when you love again, you realize there are other parts of your heart that fill and love more deeply and bigger than before. 2
Author KeepMeInMind Posted August 15, 2012 Author Posted August 15, 2012 Thank you, all, for the replies! It sure helps a hurting heart.
2sure Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 It just feels that way right now. Life changes, you change, everything evolves. Ive had several great loves. As my life changed, so did they. People together a long time can change and grow together, that's beautiful. For me, looking back there is some fondness for a few and a few WTFs for others. It doesn't help right now, but maybe you can expedite your healing by knowing that you will love again. Look forward to it. Unless you have a broken man picker. Totally different.
Author KeepMeInMind Posted August 16, 2012 Author Posted August 16, 2012 A broken man picker..lol..I like that. I'm just in a bad place right now (actually, I'm doing pretty good, but the worrying about future love thing I would call a bad place) because the way it ended, it didn't really end. No closure. Things out of my control ended the relationship. So I still feel about him and us the same way I did when we were together. I wish it wasn't that way. I wish I could say I changed or he changed or "we" changed. I will change, but not fast enough for this!
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