Mary Oak Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I need advice on how to keep conversations with my ex girlfriend light and not focus on us or my needs. I try to just talk about random life events and it always comes back to us. She doesn't know if we will get back together. ANd I have told her that I am ok with "I don't know" for now. I have to be, because I really want to be with her forever. I have let her know that there is no pressure coming from me and I actually need time to work on some of my issues. I feel like she is putting pressure on herself to make a decision and if she continues to feel pressure, her decision will be no. So, I try to make conversations light and easy. It is jsut so hard when I am sitting there talking to her and all I can think about is how bad I want her back. ANy suggestions, not to push her away and bring her closer to my way of thinking?
Tree_Salmon Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Don't overthink it. Just imagine she's someone you're not interested in. No sexual expectation or romantic ones. Soon as you treat her like anyone else she will start to get curious.
Author Mary Oak Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 Good advice for sure. My love just keeps seeping out... lol
Tree_Salmon Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Good advice for sure. My love just keeps seeping out... lol We've all been there. Think of it this way, the more you fight the more she will run right now. What if you were in her shoes and the first thing you see someone do is uncontrollably spew out emotions. You have to be able to control that. It's part of being a mature man. This is advice for the long run. Be cool and love her but don't be a sap. You have to believe that you can live with or without her. Because you can.
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