Author USMCHokie Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 Give a concrete example of this. I could give lots...ranging from something as trivial as a longing glance towards you...to something as substantial as a relationship with you. And everything in between, to include sex, a first kiss on a date, or even someone just saying yes to a date. All of these non-verbal gestures/acts can be a gauge of your desirability to the opposite gender.
threebyfate Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I could give lots...ranging from something as trivial as a longing glance towards you...to something as substantial as a relationship with you. And everything in between, to include sex, a first kiss on a date, or even someone just saying yes to a date. All of these non-verbal gestures/acts can be a gauge of your desirability to the opposite gender.Come on Hokie, we could link walking down the street to attraction playing Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon but I'm not going down that rabbit hole. You know exactly what I mean. 1
Author USMCHokie Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 I ever tell you how much I love your ass? I find her hands particularly attractive.
Author USMCHokie Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 Come on Hokie, we could link walking down the street to attraction playing Six Degrees of Kevin Bacon but I'm not going down that rabbit hole. You know exactly what I mean. Meh, I too have lost interest in this...there's no point in me trying to rack up my post count when you're right here racking it up with me... But at least I came away with some new thoughts and ideas.
Anela Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Note part of my definition of appreciation is hearing it here and there. As an example, pretend I like my hands (don't really care about them in real life ). If someone's forever complimenting me on my hands, it starts to get annoying. I understand this. I used to get annoyed by men who would compliment me on my accent, since it was something that wasn't really special about me (in my opinion) - it came from where I'd lived for years. When I was a toddler, I was a little California girl, complete with the accent. I can also see how I used that annoyance to deflect attention that I couldn't handle, though. I didn't have confidence in myself past things like my accent: I knew there was much more to me, either likable or annoying - I wanted someone that I could feel comfortable around, and those were the amusing, kind guys. They may have liked my "nice little figure" that I kept hearing about, but they liked me, too. (Although it was apparently not enough to ask me out, unless I inadvertently pushed them away, like Daniel, when I was feeling stressed, and didn't realize how much he "liked" liked me.) Anyway, I couldn't handle the attention at all. Now, I appreciate the compliments - I still feel shy, but I don't get angry. I understand that people are being sincere, that it's something different for them, and if I can relax, then they will get to know other good things about me, that come from me as a person. I saw Cracker jack's compliment to me, in regards to my voice, and he made my morning. I enjoyed hearing everyone. It was also nice to be more than words on a screen, for a little while (someone once told me that was basically all I was, and it hurt, because I never see people that way). ^^This also ties into having enough internal validation to be able to meet someone halfway. I've received all sorts of compliments and support when it comes to my artwork in the past, but I can't seem to even get started now. I have all the support in the world, from people who love me, but I can't get past this stupid block. It's embarrassing. The same goes for the way I relate to others: I know that I'm not gorgeous, but I won't believe compliments until I can see it in myself. When I was younger, I didn't need the validation to draw, paint, dance, etc.. I was motivated by my own desire to do more. I couldn't handle people, but I could work hard in other ways. I'm sorely missing that part of me. ...and I'm talking too much tonight. You seem to be very focused on verbal communication of validation/appreciation. What are your thoughts of actions reflecting validation/appreciation? This reminds me of the love languages: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/261042-love-languages-how-would-you-prefer-receive-love
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