EnDaTra Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Hello everyone This is my first post on this forum and i will need some help and advising regarding one situation. 3 months ago i got transferred at a new store in my company as a store manager and ever since there has been a flirt with a woman in my work, which at the beginning i was ignoring maybe i was playing the game a bit but not that much. Then after some time things started to get a bit more serious and at some point when a colleague of mine told her than on the weekend i was with a girl she got really jealous. Things started to get more and more serious and at some point she started dating with someone else although i think its a lie she did that only to make me jealous. Long story short last week me and her went out we had a great night full of passion but we didn't had sex (i gave her some oral). She said from the beginning of the date that there was no chance we would had sex that night and at the point i started to get a bit more serious with the oral she told me to stop so i realized that she actually didnt want it. Long story short again the next day she was a totally different person she appeared to have no interest in me although we still discuss a lot at work and she still appears to enjoy my company. She changed the way she replied to my texts , no flirting from her side etc. Her claim was that she couldnt face me every day at work and we had to stop, also that i have to focus on my job since im new at this. Also she told me that she lost the attraction to me one month ago. I need help with this because she is in my mind allmost all the time. What could make her change her mind in one day (most probably me but i felt it that this was a great night for her as well)? Is it possible that she would keep hitting on me 1 month after she lost her interest just to prove that she could make me want her? What can i do to win her back? She is married with 2 children and her husband is away for two months and she will be away for another 2. and I am single plus im her boss I am not experienced with women at all. and first thing i want to understand is why she acted this way
spiderowl Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I don't know why either of you acted like this. She's a married woman with a family so why is she dating anyone? Why would you want to date a married woman? She sounds mixed up, to say the least. Whatever she was looking for she didn't find with you. Presumably she's realised she's taking a big risk and that her husband might find out. You are both taking a risk dating a co-worker, but especially if one of you is married. She is probably a risk taker who tries something new and then quickly tires of it and moves on. I don't think you can expect anything sensible from someone like that. Why don't you concentrate on women who are not already attached? 1
mortensorchid Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Hey, she flirted with you because she wanted to. Needs a little distraction from her mundane existence with her husband and kids. Don't let it go any further than that.
Author EnDaTra Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 Thanks for the advice people!!! Yeah what i really wanted to know is if i ****ed up at that night which i think i would know. Although i dont really know you guys your answers have allready changed the way i feel.
InJest Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 You must phone the husband, and tell him everything. 1
Author EnDaTra Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 I dont want her to get to job beaten after all im the boss and there is work to be done
InJest Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 She won't get beaten. If you really want to be with her, you should tell.
Author EnDaTra Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 Nah i think im gonna pass on that!!!! Now that i have a clear mind i know that is not what i want and that i will cause complications in my job! All i had in mind was sex in case that wouldnt affect our job but i have noticed that it already has although there has been no sex ( i cant imagine if it had). still plenty of women available around so why stick on something that will make things in my life and job more complicate
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