Coyoteloco Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Hello, so when i was at class, my phone started ringing and it was her house number, i didnt answear cause i was in class and i couldnt. Also today when i got home, i opened facebook and she uploaded some pictures at around the time i didnt pick up, like not so bad pictures just her with her girlfriends, im i overthinking things? is this just coincidence? should i call her back? or just keep up the no contact? Background info: Shes my highschool sweatheart, been together for 5 years, this is the first time we ever break up, and its been 1 week of no contact, 1 week of limited contact, and 3 weeks of the break up so far . . . We broke up because she said she was confused...
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 should i call her back? or send her a text asking if she called me, or what she wanted??
Car10e Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 should i call her back? or send her a text asking if she called me, or what she wanted?? I wouldn't do anything yet. See if she calls more, that might mean she really does want you back
Breck Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 should i call her back? or send her a text asking if she called me, or what she wanted?? Sleep with her friends. 3
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 "Sleep with her friends" <--- seems good, and i might do it in the future lol. Ok to the topic. So you suggest i dont text her or nothing today, just leave her there and see if she calls again ?? Or should i send her a text like this "got a missed call from your house.. something happened?" please feedback !!! she called me 5 hours ago and i was at the university
Breck Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 "Sleep with her friends" <--- seems good, and i might do it in the future lol. Ok to the topic. So you suggest i dont text her or nothing today, just leave her there and see if she calls again ?? Or should i send her a text like this "got a missed call from your house.. something happened?" please feedback !!! she called me 5 hours ago and i was at the university God no! Don't say that. Ignore her. If it matters she'll call you again. Or tell her you were busy checking out her Facebook pics. Tell her to take more photos of her friends. And can she not be in them. Be an ass. It won't get her back immediately but it will give you the upper hand later when it's time to reconcile.
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 ok.... so i would like a second opinion about this lolololol 1
soccerrprp Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Here's a thought...did she ask you a question that warranted a response? If not, continue ignoring her. I'm in a similar situation with an ex, but I respond only if asked a specific question. My situation is different, I think. We are trying to see if we can be friends...yah, yah, the dreaded "let's be friends thing.." But, if you want another opinion, other than maintain NC, answer only if asked a specific question and if it is nothing short of her suggesting, saying that she would like to see you again... otherwise, don't fall into the trap of small talk for small talk's sake....
Car10e Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 "Sleep with her friends" <--- seems good, and i might do it in the future lol. Ok to the topic. So you suggest i dont text her or nothing today, just leave her there and see if she calls again ?? Or should i send her a text like this "got a missed call from your house.. something happened?" please feedback !!! she called me 5 hours ago and i was at the university Don't do anything today...If it really is important she would try to contact you again.
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 okay, so i dont really know what to do, i was thinking of maybe texting her, she didnt ask me anything because i didnt pick up, she told me when the broke up happen, that she wouldnt ask me to be friends because she knew we couldnt be friends knowing what we feel for each other. i might text her just to be polite
Breck Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Don't do anything today...If it really is important she would try to contact you again. Bad advice. Sleep with her friends tonight. Don't delay! You are single now. In a couple of days you'll be back with this broad and then sleeping with her friends would just be inconsiderate. 1
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 ok man i already thought about that, im coming back with her only if she sets me a threesome with her blonde friend 1
Car10e Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Bad advice. Sleep with her friends tonight. Don't delay! You are single now. In a couple of days you'll be back with this broad and then sleeping with her friends would just be inconsiderate. Yeah good one.
witmadskilllz Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 This kinda seems like false hope whether the call was important, or to make up etc. However, it's your call whether you want to rebuild this bond or walk away from all this now and stay NC and move on. They say 'trust' is like a vase, once it's broken and though you can fix it, it will never be the same again. I take it that you guys are probably in your early 20's, but here's my 2 cents, go fourth and prosper. Lot's of things to look forward, better days to come by still.
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 ok so whatever you guys say, i texted her and 10 seconds later my phone was ringing, it was her, she told me that it was indeed she the one that called me, and she was crying while we talked, asked me how was it going and how was i handleing this, and some more things about my life, i kept it short and answeared her question but not giving too much info, even made her laugh with a coment, kept the call 3 min long like some page suggested to keep it. I think she miss me alot, it was nice to talk to her lets see how things go from now on. Ok now she just sent me a text message and is talking to me in facebook, she says if all of this is working, mmmmm... i dont know
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 ok, so i answeared "yes i think we couldnt be together anymore with the things that were going on"
Breck Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 ok, so i answeared "yes i think we couldnt be together anymore with the things that were going on" Not bad.. would have preferred you ask her if one of her hot friends is single and avoided talking about the relationship.
Gulf-Delta Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 This kinda seems like false hope whether the call was important, or to make up etc. However, it's your call whether you want to rebuild this bond or walk away from all this now and stay NC and move on. They say 'trust' is like a vase, once it's broken and though you can fix it, it will never be the same again. I take it that you guys are probably in your early 20's, but here's my 2 cents, go fourth and prosper. Lot's of things to look forward, better days to come by still. Relationships are like broken bones. If the heal, they're stronger than before
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 lets hope we get back together soon i miss her like crazy, and from what she said me yesterday i know she does too. "Relationships are like broken bones. If the heal, they're stronger than before " awesome!
Matt145 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Be very very careful and dont get your hopes up. My ex did this to me only to change her mind again 4 days later. She might only be saying this because she misses you and she might not realise that she really doesnt want you back when you meet up or start talking again properly. All i can say is do what i never did, play hard to get and be cold dont be all nice to her. Dont screw it up like i did if she really does want you back you will only get one chance to win her back.
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 ok thanks for the advice, i dont really know what is my plan right now, but for today i got other importants things to do. So maybe tomorrow ill get to see whats my plan. cheers
haribogumsnickers Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 am i overthinking things? is this just coincidence? should i call her back? or just keep up the no contact? Yes, you are over-thinking but that's normal. Try to limit that. Coincidence with Facebook? Doesn't matter, still over-thinking. Call her back if you really want to know WHY she called. Nothing wrong in asking since nothing changed, not together anymore. And keeping the no contact just to show that you don't care actually shows that you do care. Unless you want to salvage what's left of the relationship, then keeping up the NC shouldn't be a problem.
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 ok man, so what about if i wana save the relationship, should i keep the no contact, she called me yesterday and we talked for aprox 3 min, she was crying while we talked, then texts me asking me if our break up was working or not. I want to get her back, what should i do now? keep no contact?
soccerrprp Posted August 21, 2012 Posted August 21, 2012 ok man, so what about if i wana save the relationship, should i keep the no contact, she called me yesterday and we talked for aprox 3 min, she was crying while we talked, then texts me asking me if our break up was working or not. I want to get her back, what should i do now? keep no contact? So, you want the relationship to continue? Resume? Did you have a serious talk about her feeling "confused?" I'm not certain, but it seems that she's been making the contacts, so sounds like she wants you back or is really uncertain about the break-up. If you believe in the rules of NC, you should maintain NC until she says she wants you back. In your mind, do you think she's done that? Better question: Are you CERTAIN you want her back? If so, I would ask her to have a serious talk about the relationship BEFORE you will even entertain getting back. Play it cool. Don't let your guard down and sound like you have already decided. I would have the talk and then take some time to think it over. A few more days of NC. Let her know that you are thinking it through. Then get back to her and give her your decision. I hope this is helpful. This is the part of the NC circus that i am not too certain about myself. But, if she shows interest, is the one that broke NC, and you want her back, it just sounds silly not to communicate. Good luck.
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