zerovandez Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 So 2 weeks ago I met this girl through my best friends girlfriend. Now we've met one time before and I did notice some kind of attraction but I didn't act much on it. So this time around, we end up meeting at her place for drinks. We spend all day and night wandering bars and pubs. Everyone had a great time. I did feel more connection and attraction with her even before we got really drunk. So by the end of the night, we were the last 2 standing. She takes me back to her place and the rest is history. But, we didn't do much. I didn't allow it. I'm not that "dude." We woke up a few hours later and she was still in my arms. It felt right to me and her body language suggested the same. So my friend picked me up the next morning and I kissed her good bye. I friend requested her with a message that went something like this "Hey, I had a great time last night. I didn't want you to think that I'm "that" kind of guy. Here's my number, we should hang out." She replies, "LOL you're funny! What happened last night?" I said, "I wasn't trying to be funny, we should relly hang out haha! Nothing happened last night, we just slept. I'm not that easy...." She accepted the request but I have not heard from her since. Until this past weekend, Kind of... Our group of friends was supposed to go out and I hear that she asks if I was going to be there. Someone said that I wasn't so she didn't go either. I thought that was a good sign. I'm interested but nobody know's. Not sure how to find out if she is as well. So at the present, I wanted to message her on FB, just asking how she is what she's been up to, maybe get a little flirtacious...Is this a good idea? I believe we're supposed to all go out this weekend as well but not sure. She's total opposite of what I want physically; blue eyes, blonde hair, total CA babe lol. Funny thing is , I think she feels the same; I'm opposite of what she wants in regard to physical appearance. I'm Asian, she's white. But I don't care about that at this point. What should I do?!
MrCastle Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I don't understand why you didn't escalate that first night but I guess to each their own. I definitely would have taken it as far as it could go but that's just me. She fell asleep in your arms and you kissed her goodbye? What are you waiting for? She's interested in you, you're interested in her. You better make a move before she thinks you just want to be friends.
Author zerovandez Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 To be honest, I was piss drunk out of my mind, and I was up since 4am that morning. I was beat. Yeah I dropped the ball, I passed out lol. So yes to the message? How's this sound... "Hey pretty lady! How's it going? Havent' seen or spoke to you in a while. Your weekend went okay?" Yes? No?
MrCastle Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 To be honest, I was piss drunk out of my mind, and I was up since 4am that morning. I was beat. Yeah I dropped the ball, I passed out lol. So yes to the message? How's this sound... "Hey pretty lady! How's it going? Havent' seen or spoke to you in a while. Your weekend went okay?" Yes? No? Yeah that's fine. Sometimes I get silly depending on the girl and my chemistry with her, and I'd throw a joke in there somewhere, something to make her laugh. I probably wouldn't include the "haven't seen or heard from you" line though. Don't let her think you've been counting the days or something
Author zerovandez Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 yeah I guess I should. I've got nothing to loose. I just don't chase women, personal thing of mine I guess. Oh well, message sent. We'll see what happens...
MrCastle Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I just don't chase women, personal thing of mine I guess Haha, yeah I used to have that mindset. Long story short, I chase them now.
Author zerovandez Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 Wow she replied instantly lol. But nothing that would suggest anything other than friendship. She just says, Oh yeah...what's up with you? I've been working on weekends.... I might have to actually put in some work on this one...haha!
chickydoodle Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Keeping in contact is good. Maybe ask her out??? I have a friend in the same boat. She doesn't know if our friend is attracted to her cuz he never initiates anything, not even FB questions or posts. She says he always answers but she thinks it might just be him being polite. You said there was attraction on the first date. So let her know you like her. Look she's probably asking herself the same questions you are. Ask yourself these questions. Did she smile at you? Did she keep the convo going? Did she laugh at your jokes? Did she seem to show genuine interest in what you said? How was her body language? Did she want to be around you? Did she initiate any contact after the date(s)? Do you want to see her again? Now go ask her out. By the way, remember opposites attract.
Author zerovandez Posted August 14, 2012 Author Posted August 14, 2012 so we chit chat for little bit on FB. Most of it short and brief. I did manage to find out that she has visitors, and working most of this week, she's a nurse. I didn't exactly come straight out and ask her on a date, I wanted to see what her availability was like first. But I'm sure I'll see her this weekend because we have mutual friends....
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