MarCas Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Hey there everyone, I have quite the situation on my hands and I would appreciate some advice. In the beginning of June I got to know C that worked out at my martial arts gym. I had seen her before but never talked to her until the day we worked an event together. We hit it off and went on a date that night. Since then we had been connected at the hip. I told her that I don't date women who have cheated and she admitted to have cheated once on the nicest guy she ever had. A year later she gets into another relationship where the guy cheats on her all the time and she claims that was her karma. I have a lot of female friends, especially my one good friend N. C told me that I couldn't speak with N anymore if I wanted to be with her. After much reluctancy I cut off ties with N, but things were never the same after those arguments. We kept arguing over the most small things. She breaks up with me a week before my Bday claiming she needs space to work on herself. I initiate NC but she claimed she made a mistake. She is very pushy about spending my bday with me, because she probably thought me and N were going to hook up. So we meet up and have sex. The next day she breaks up with me again claiming the same things. I initiate no contact. I later find out from her that the next day she left to southern California to stay with an old friend. All the while she is there she keeps texting me how much she misses me etc. She claimed that she was not having sex and that she was staying at the guys moms house. She said she expected me to hook up with N but it wasn't any of her business since we were broken up. I assured her that I wouldn't cross the point of no return if she didn't. Fast forward to this last friday. I went to a football game and C kept bugging me to answer my phone. I call her back when I get home but her phone is off. 2 days go by with her phone being off so I drop by her house to talk to her dad. She was arrested at his house for 4 felony charges including domestic abuse. I see it as her karma. The guy texts me from her phone to not pick her up at the airport because she is in jail. I ask him if they had been having sex and he gives these backhanded answers, not just a straight yes or no. I tell her dad that they were more than friends according to this guy and he refuses to believe it was anything sexual because she was staying at his moms house, not his house. I don't know what to believe. I Am a bit iffy about this situation. If we were to get back together I would definitely have to have sex with another woman, that is if the guy is not lying. Even then I doubt things would ever be the same so it will end in a final break up. I just wonder why wouldn't the guy give me a straight answer-- Maybe he was trying to push us apart and lied? I just want to know the truth. How would you handle this situation?
TaraMaiden Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 She was arrested for 4 charges of domestic abuse - and you're worried about her sex life, when you're not even dating her....?!? I'm sorry - are you nuts?? Priorities man, priorities! (Nobody looks good in day-glo orange!) 1
Author MarCas Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 I cant really do anything about her being in jail. She gets released tomorrow from jail but she is 8 hours away. If she was lying to me the whole time then that is incentive for me not to care.
TaraMaiden Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 If a guy I was interested in was arrested on 4 felonies including domestic abuse, it wouldn't matter to me if he was a pure virgin - I'd be high-tailing it out of there as fast as my car could carry me! Sod the 'sex life' - I wouldn't care - he wouldn't have me as a benefit! 1
Author MarCas Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 She is actually an extremely successful for her age.
TaraMaiden Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 What the hell does that have to do with it? Didn't stop Mel Gibson or Charlie Sheen, or Naomi Campbell, did it?
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 I told her that I don't date women who have cheated I just want to know the truth. The truth is that you were lying. Any offenses of hers are well beyond the point of their being noteworthy.
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