2muchlove Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I'm finding the more strides I take in moving on, the more I dream about her. Does that mean I'm only fooling myself into thinking I'm making strides or does my subconscious mind have to catch up? The dream I had last night was ridiculously vivid. It kind of tore my heart out again. If anybody is good at interpreting dreams feel free: I dreamed that I saw her FB for the first time since I blocked her (over a month ago) and there was a dude with her in the picture. This dude looked like a cross between slash and diane keaton with some serious love handles. The type of grungy dude that she normally wouldn't even notice or consider dating no matter how cool his personality is (Yep she was pretty shallow.) But apparently they were together. Anyways I called her or she called me out of the blue and I ended up over at her place. Then we both started getting intimate. The dream skipped around from there from place to place. And in these places I was still striving for her attention and hoping she would come talk to me. She never did so I tried to get close to her until I realized she was avoiding me. The rest is fuzzy but I woke up feeling pretty ****ty because of it.
Sav Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I'm finding the more strides I take in moving on, the more I dream about her. Does that mean I'm only fooling myself into thinking I'm making strides or does my subconscious mind have to catch up? The dream I had last night was ridiculously vivid. It kind of tore my heart out again. If anybody is good at interpreting dreams feel free: I dreamed that I saw her FB for the first time since I blocked her (over a month ago) and there was a dude with her in the picture. This dude looked like a cross between slash and diane keaton with some serious love handles. The type of grungy dude that she normally wouldn't even notice or consider dating no matter how cool his personality is (Yep she was pretty shallow.) But apparently they were together. Anyways I called her or she called me out of the blue and I ended up over at her place. Then we both started getting intimate. The dream skipped around from there from place to place. And in these places I was still striving for her attention and hoping she would come talk to me. She never did so I tried to get close to her until I realized she was avoiding me. The rest is fuzzy but I woke up feeling pretty ****ty because of it. I had dreams 2 years after my break up. I can tell you it will pass. Maybe Im just slow in giving up but yeap they ended for me
weallfalldown Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Darn......bloody dreams hey.... it's obviously still all there in you sub concious my man. I have had thoughts and dreams about her, it, whatever you wanna call her... with other men, better looking, perfect bodies..........but, i'm sure she does with you....i gaurantee it... hope it didn't unsetlle you too much? keep the faith .....
Author 2muchlove Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 I had dreams 2 years after my break up. I can tell you it will pass. Maybe Im just slow in giving up but yeap they ended for me After two years though were you over it? And how long was the relationship with the ex. Darn......bloody dreams hey.... it's obviously still all there in you sub concious my man. I have had thoughts and dreams about her, it, whatever you wanna call her... with other men, better looking, perfect bodies..........but, i'm sure she does with you....i gaurantee it... hope it didn't unsetlle you too much? keep the faith ..... I've been unsettled enough. I can't think of anything else that can do it more than it has already happened.
Sav Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 @ 2muchlove: It was my first love and our relationship lasted for 4 years. That's why it took so long . Besides I kept in constant contact with her and all which made things muddier. So as long as you follow NC, it will pass pretty soon. No worries and goodluck! 2
jdids247 Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Of course it's common! That person was a part of your life and knew you in ways that other people didn't. It's been a little more than a half year that I/we broke off our 6 year relationship with a one year engagement with about 4-5 months of NC. My dreams were very livid even at around the 3-4 month mark. Funny thing is, I had a dream about her last night that seemed all too real. I think specific things trigger these dreams. Last night I went and saw a friends newly born son. We lost a baby last August to a miscarriage and I get nervous holding a newborn because our child would be 4 months old today. That triggered my dream about her last night where she wanted to reconcile and start a family like we had originally planned.
Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I have those as well, from what I read somewhere, it's a way for your subconcious to try to let go and heal itself.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 I expected dreams. They've been much more frequent and intense. It's driving me crazy. The better my day goes the more intense the dream. It's as if my subconscious has to grieve during sleep since I didn't do enough of it during the day.
Tree_Salmon Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I expected dreams. They've been much more frequent and intense. It's driving me crazy. The better my day goes the more intense the dream. It's as if my subconscious has to grieve during sleep since I didn't do enough of it during the day. I actually look forward to them now. They get pretty crazy. Use them as inspiration to move on. One day they'll just stop.
Hawaii50 Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 your unconscious doesn't grieve...it's your conscious mind that isn't letting go, and is being represented by a reoccurring her. before you go to sleep, relax completely, and ask yourself a question or two to be answered in your dream. this might take a day, a week, or longer. but keep doing it. You will (most-likely) have more symbolic dream that will be more easily dissected by your conscious mind. again, relax completely and ask a question or two repetitively in your head. the next is to just be open with the things you see/feel.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 I actually look forward to them now. They get pretty crazy. Use them as inspiration to move on. One day they'll just stop. How do you use them as inspiration? The only dream I had about her that inspired me to move on is the one where she had herpes. That woke me up with a grin from ear to ear.
Author 2muchlove Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 your unconscious doesn't grieve...it's your conscious mind that isn't letting go, and is being represented by a reoccurring her. before you go to sleep, relax completely, and ask yourself a question or two to be answered in your dream. this might take a day, a week, or longer. but keep doing it. You will (most-likely) have more symbolic dream that will be more easily dissected by your conscious mind. again, relax completely and ask a question or two repetitively in your head. the next is to just be open with the things you see/feel. What kind of questions do you mean? Can you give me an example?
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