bigred0489 Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 We broke up about two and half months ago, for the second time. We still spoke occasionally, via facebook or text. I got a phone call one evening from her, she was upset, she missed me and wanted to meet up. I was overjoyed seeing as she was the one that did the dumping (we were together for two years). I said we could chat during the week and organise something. Low and behold, she was cold, distant. She had met somebody else the same night she called me. Anyway, I went onto facebook and sent her one last message, telling her how much she meant to me and that if she was truly happy with her new man then i had to respect that and I wished her all the best. Her response? "it'd be nice to meet up at some point" and then she changed her relationship status on facebook. Gutted is an understatement. Absolute kick in the nu*s. She was in Africa for a month on charity work, I was alright during this time, didn't get in touch at all and such. When she came back, I blocked her on fb for my own sake, I didnt want to see the photos she would put up, I was a huge part of her fundraising activities and it would kill me to see her out there enjoying herself. She got back, and then a week later (5 weeks of NC) texts me. "He, thought id say Hi How are you? Got back last week, been feeling pretty ill though :(" I was all over the place, angry, happy, the works. I didn't reply. That was four days ago, today at work I get another message. "Hey, not trying to pester you or anything, just that i'll be up in ******** saturday/sunday if you wanted to meet up at all, finally got some time off work :)". I cant explain the way I feel. She has moved on, why is she insisting on doing this to me? I still miss her terribly, I think about her all the time. But i want, i need, to move on. If i thought it were because she still has feelings towards me i would be there in a flash, but i doubt it. She's probably being friendly, or trying to reassure herself that Im ok and she did nothing wrong. What should I do? Even if i dont reply or say no, Even just knowing she's up here will wreak havoc with my mind. For the record, she has her fair share of issues. She has an eating disorder, has had a pretty rough upbringing (alcoholism etc is rife in her family as is depression). She was like this with her ex when we were together, and it eventually caused a huge rift, I wasn't convinced she was over him, kept trying to meet up with him... Anyway, any help/advice appreciate. Especially from the ladies out there that have been in her shoes before...
Chi townD Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Breadcrumbs dude, ignore it. Her texts scream at me that she wants you in the "friend zone". Ignore it and move on dude. If she REALLY wants to see you, she knows where you live. 1
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