OCCDAVE Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I chatted with this girl heather who I met through a site.Seemed like after exchanging numbers her interest died out fast .about a week ago I get a text from her to my surprise.well we stayed in contact all week and talked but mostly text (which I can't stand).thursday night she told me she's going to her friends party I figure eh what the hell and said maybe I'll see you there.her reply I'd love for you to come and gave me the details .i show up she was excited to see me despite her looking tipsey.she claimed she was so busy then I said so have I but kinda obvious you weren't interested .she said I had a lot going on but I'm so glad u came.fast forward later in the night we began making out after that seemed she couldn't stay off me.i didn't make much of it like I said she was tipsey I even said come Tomo u won't even know me.fast forward today she made good on her word to text me we chatted a bit then she said text her I didn't few hours later she started up another convo Another point I'm trying to make next time we meet should I tell her no kissing cause I dunno where to go now?
KathyM Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Sounds like YOU'RE the one acting disinterested and playing games. Sounds like you started out on shakey ground to begin with. If you want the relationship to progress, then call her up and ask her out on an actual date, and don't act disinterested or like you couldn't care less if she sees you or not. You have to show actual interest in a person if you want the relationship to progress. Enough of this PUA crap of feigning disinterest in order to develop attraction. It doesn't work. It just confuses a woman and makes her think you don't have much of an interest.
Author OCCDAVE Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 I see well she's going out of town but I set up a date for when she gets back.i guess what had me confused what the making out so fast .I guess I tried not to act overly interested cuz I didn't wanna come off as clingy/needy
KathyM Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I see well she's going out of town but I set up a date for when she gets back.i guess what had me confused what the making out so fast .I guess I tried not to act overly interested cuz I didn't wanna come off as clingy/needy You're so afraid of acting clingy/needy that you end up acting disinterested and flakey. Stop with the mixed messages. Just go on the date, show interest, get to know her as a person, and give her a nice, tender kiss at the end of the date. That's how you build an actual lasting relationship. You don't play games. You show genuine interest in a person. And you get to know them over time, keeping the momentum going. No hot and cold signals. Build the momentum.
Author OCCDAVE Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 Thanks Kathy for all the advice .guess with my track history ive tried acting very interested no luck then play it cool still no luck .guess the whole rs thing is just a gamble but I'll take ur word and do what you said .she text me again and like I've said has shown a lot of interest in me so no reason to act cold. Btw I'm talking to another girl is it still ok not to put all my eggs in one basket ?
KathyM Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Thanks Kathy for all the advice .guess with my track history ive tried acting very interested no luck then play it cool still no luck .guess the whole rs thing is just a gamble but I'll take ur word and do what you said .she text me again and like I've said has shown a lot of interest in me so no reason to act cold. Btw I'm talking to another girl is it still ok not to put all my eggs in one basket ? No reason to act cold. Show interest, but don't try to move too fast too soon. Guys who come on too strong from the start come off as needy/desperate, and are a turn off. I've seen it happen with my sisters and friends. So don't bombard her with texts and attention, but do show interest and arrange a date once or twice a week. Build momentum. And at this point, when you've only had one date with the woman, I don't see any reason why you can't date others. At the stage where you realize you want to pursue a relationship only with one and the one has shown she has potential to be long term, THEN you have the exclusive talk and be exclusive. It's too early in your dating this girl to reject all others. Some people may not agree with me on this, but I don't believe in focusing on dating only one person at a time, until you are farther along in the dating process with the person.
Author OCCDAVE Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 I see sounds like a plan only thing I will refrain from is making out I'd hate to be dating around and swamping spit wit all these girls lol.text I'll keep them limited and stuff.I kinda hope this one out of the three I'm talking to works will see
Author OCCDAVE Posted August 18, 2012 Author Posted August 18, 2012 Bit of an update Wednesday night she invited me over just to hang out which we did.we talk a lot more as well as made out.we cuddled and she's like if you want just stay here tonight but I got cold feet and left lol.i text her Thursday make sure she got there safe but since then I've made nc.Should I be I mean your on vacation even if I'm thinking of you to send a text/call won't it look bad
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