Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Well I've been browsing your website for awhile and couldn't find the answer to this question. Basically my ex and I have been broken up for almost a year now (she broke up with me, incase you are wondering). We were kinda on rough terms for awhile. In March, I went NC with her for three months and in July we started talking again off and on. She kinda being "hot and cold" with me. Her birthday is today, I've sent an ecard and a ebook to her, so my question is, should I also send her a facebook message on her wall as well, or is that too much? or is the ecard just good enough? Well some stuff to add onto this is that when I call her these past few weeks she doesn't answer but calls me the next day. Sometimes she seems interested in me, sometimes she acts like she isn't. Not sure what to do.
Author Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 Well I've been browsing your website for awhile and couldn't find the answer to this question. Basically my ex and I have been broken up for almost a year now (she broke up with me, incase you are wondering). We were kinda on rough terms for awhile. In March, I went NC with her for three months and in July we started talking again off and on. She kinda being "hot and cold" with me. Her birthday is today, I've sent an ecard and a ebook to her, so my question is, should I also send her a facebook message on her wall as well, or is that too much? or is the ecard just good enough? Well some stuff to add onto this is that when I call her these past few weeks she doesn't answer but calls me the next day. Sometimes she seems interested in me, sometimes she acts like she isn't. Not sure what to do. For some reason can't edit....but I forgot to mention she has a twin sister, so if I put a message on her twin sisters wall and not hers, wouldn't it be wierd?
Follower Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Sounds to me that your looking for a second chance here sonny. I would recommend that you shouldn't worry about the whats too much and isn't stop playing games about it all. If you want a second chance come out and say it and let yourself receive whatever response you get. If you don't then what does it matter what seems weird and what doesn't? do what feels correct no more no less and no more thought about it you'll drive yourself round the bend otherwise.
SadPanda22 Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Being as that she is your ex, I'd say that the ecard and ebook are sufficient. I really don't even understand why you sent her those. I know my ex isn't getting jack from me on his birthday lol.
Author Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 Sounds to me that your looking for a second chance here sonny. I would recommend that you shouldn't worry about the whats too much and isn't stop playing games about it all. If you want a second chance come out and say it and let yourself receive whatever response you get. If you don't then what does it matter what seems weird and what doesn't? do what feels correct no more no less and no more thought about it you'll drive yourself round the bend otherwise. Well I did ask for a second chance before NC and she rejected me, because she did move to another state (one of the reasons we broke up), so I don't really want to push anything just yet because last time I asked, it turned out nasty. Yea I do, still care about her (dated her for almost 2 years and was engaged to her). I sent the ebook because I was talking on the phone with her, and a subject about the ebook came up, so I said since I have a copy I will send it.
Author Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 bumping to see if anyone else can give an answer...
WeirdExs Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Don't do anything more... you have already done the ecard which is enough. Posting a message on her twin sister's facebook wall is just weird and might creep her out even more. If you want a second chance, don't be too overbearing which is what posting a message on facebook would do.
Author Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 Well one thing I did leave out is that in March I wished her husband a happy birthday, and my birthday is a few days after hers, so yea wierd situation.
EM1985 Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 The ecard is enough. You acknowledged her bday and showed thatyou remembered it. Do not do anymore. I never say happy bday to an ex, but I believe it is the right thing to do (pride set aside).
Author Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 oops I meant her sister's husband, yea I think it's a little too much, don't want to push her away.
Author Chimu Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 anybody else have anything to say before I make my final decision?
Sameold Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 you shouldn't be sending anything unless the sentiment is real and I don't believe it is. Do you really wish her a happy birthday? Bearing in mind she finished with you and may as I type this be being done doggystyle by a different guy. Also, what do you want this message to achieve? It wont mean anything to her other than show her that you are still thinking of her which will if anything dimish your credibility. One thing I am learning is that as the dumpee the best thing you can do is vanish, completely go NC. One day if your relationship was good and she did have "GIGS" she might start to think ****, wtf did I do. It doesn't mean she will have the bottle to come back and fix it and even if she did it may be too late anyway but at least your pride is in tact. 1
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