libraamour Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 My ex of 3 years has been dating this girl for almost two months. Supposedly they're already "in love". Yeah I was devastated and hurt, but I like to think that my prince charming will come one day. Anyway, I keep trying this no contact thing and it's really hard. I don't have many friends so he's literally become my best friend. I made it to 5 days and cracked. I called we argued and that was that. I continued no contact for another 5 days and then I woke up to 3 missed calls from him. My curious/idiot self, called back the next morning and he didn't even answer. Anyway I continued on and then another few days went and I cracked again. He was telling me that his life is a mess and that he practically wants to give up. I'm so used to encouraging him and lending a helping a helping hand, so that's what I did. He hung up and then asked for me help. I was just happy he had hope again so I said sure I'll help. A few days passed and I've heard from the grapevine that he's ready to give up again. So, I started worrying again. I started off by stalking him and his girlfriend's twitter and got hurt with what I saw. My stalking has gotten really bad because his girlfriend continues to post pictures, his text messages, and all this lovey crap on her twitter. It's like she's obsessed. Stalking their twitter is like me just asking to get hurt. Next thing you know, I'm calling and sending lengthy texts to him. No responds of course. Why do I care so much about a person who doesn't give a damn about me? I feel so pathetic here. I'm about to breakdown. It's so hard seeing someone you really care about just up and fall in love with someone else so fast. Especially when a few days prior to their relationship we were talking about getting back together. It just hurts. And the saddest thing about it is he's doing nothing with himself. He just wallows in self pity doing nothing. There's absolutely nothing going for him. I know 19 is young, but he has no job, no car, still living with his mom, and practically doing nothing when it comes to an education. And here I am, ahead in college, job, car, and living on my own. Why am I so hooked up on this child? Everybody's telling me, move on you deserve better anyway. I believe them, but why does my heart tell me otherwise? I've been so depressed lately that I've lost 15 lbs from lack of eating. I don't have many friends and lately I've been having too much time on my hand that all I do is think and think and whined up even more depressed. It's so bad that I rather just sleep out the day then stay up and think. I know people would say go out and everything, but my car is currently in the shop, and will remain there for another week or so. I don't have much friends and I'm pretty far from everyone. I used to be so strong and I've never felt so weak in my life. It's very disappointing. I wish I can move on so bad, but I just can't. And can't usually isn't in my dictionary. What should I do?
Car10e Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 My ex of 3 years has been dating this girl for almost two months. Supposedly they're already "in love". Yeah I was devastated and hurt, but I like to think that my prince charming will come one day. Anyway, I keep trying this no contact thing and it's really hard. I don't have many friends so he's literally become my best friend. I made it to 5 days and cracked. I called we argued and that was that. I continued no contact for another 5 days and then I woke up to 3 missed calls from him. My curious/idiot self, called back the next morning and he didn't even answer. Anyway I continued on and then another few days went and I cracked again. He was telling me that his life is a mess and that he practically wants to give up. I'm so used to encouraging him and lending a helping a helping hand, so that's what I did. He hung up and then asked for me help. I was just happy he had hope again so I said sure I'll help. A few days passed and I've heard from the grapevine that he's ready to give up again. So, I started worrying again. I started off by stalking him and his girlfriend's twitter and got hurt with what I saw. My stalking has gotten really bad because his girlfriend continues to post pictures, his text messages, and all this lovey crap on her twitter. It's like she's obsessed. Stalking their twitter is like me just asking to get hurt. Next thing you know, I'm calling and sending lengthy texts to him. No responds of course. Why do I care so much about a person who doesn't give a damn about me? I feel so pathetic here. I'm about to breakdown. It's so hard seeing someone you really care about just up and fall in love with someone else so fast. Especially when a few days prior to their relationship we were talking about getting back together. It just hurts. And the saddest thing about it is he's doing nothing with himself. He just wallows in self pity doing nothing. There's absolutely nothing going for him. I know 19 is young, but he has no job, no car, still living with his mom, and practically doing nothing when it comes to an education. And here I am, ahead in college, job, car, and living on my own. Why am I so hooked up on this child? Everybody's telling me, move on you deserve better anyway. I believe them, but why does my heart tell me otherwise? I've been so depressed lately that I've lost 15 lbs from lack of eating. I don't have many friends and lately I've been having too much time on my hand that all I do is think and think and whined up even more depressed. It's so bad that I rather just sleep out the day then stay up and think. I know people would say go out and everything, but my car is currently in the shop, and will remain there for another week or so. I don't have much friends and I'm pretty far from everyone. I used to be so strong and I've never felt so weak in my life. It's very disappointing. I wish I can move on so bad, but I just can't. And can't usually isn't in my dictionary. What should I do? Hi, I'm going through the same exact thing as you. Its crazy how similar our situations are. My ex bf left me and I found out he started dating some younger girl the same week we broke up. My ex bf was also my best friend, so its hard for me to pass time because we did a lot of stuff together. I have close friends that are helping me through this, but some are away at school and some don't really have any advice because of lack of experience. I have found ways to keep myself busy. Every morning I go for a jog, and I find that that helps clear my mind for a little bit. I pump myself up by thinking of how jealous he would be if he just saw me now. My ex bf also told me before we broke up that I wasn't motivated enough. Even though I am 22 about to finish college, and he is 25 also about to finish college. I have had a steady job since I was 17. He has been at the same position as a sales associate for 6 years without any promotions, and he still lives at home with his mom, where she cooks dinner for him every night. I guess that just how some guys are... I also see his new gf post stuff on facebook, but he always deletes himself from it. I'm guessing its because he doesn't want me to see it. But, she posted something about finding the perfect guy, the first week after my ex bf and I broke up. Its kind of funny really.
Author libraamour Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 Hi, I'm going through the same exact thing as you. Its crazy how similar our situations are. My ex bf left me and I found out he started dating some younger girl the same week we broke up. My ex bf was also my best friend, so its hard for me to pass time because we did a lot of stuff together. I have close friends that are helping me through this, but some are away at school and some don't really have any advice because of lack of experience. I have found ways to keep myself busy. Every morning I go for a jog, and I find that that helps clear my mind for a little bit. I pump myself up by thinking of how jealous he would be if he just saw me now. My ex bf also told me before we broke up that I wasn't motivated enough. Even though I am 22 about to finish college, and he is 25 also about to finish college. I have had a steady job since I was 17. He has been at the same position as a sales associate for 6 years without any promotions, and he still lives at home with his mom, where she cooks dinner for him every night. I guess that just how some guys are... I also see his new gf post stuff on facebook, but he always deletes himself from it. I'm guessing its because he doesn't want me to see it. But, she posted something about finding the perfect guy, the first week after my ex bf and I broke up. Its kind of funny really. 25 and still with his mom? Wow. That's pretty sad. Atleast he deletes the stuff she puts up. The two of them just embrace it all over twitter. It's pretty pathetic. My little bit of friends I do have are helping me feel better. I wish I can just cast a magic reset spell on all of us that are hurting on this site. It's just that I don't know what to do.
Car10e Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 25 and still with his mom? Wow. That's pretty sad. Atleast he deletes the stuff she puts up. The two of them just embrace it all over twitter. It's pretty pathetic. My little bit of friends I do have are helping me feel better. I wish I can just cast a magic reset spell on all of us that are hurting on this site. It's just that I don't know what to do. I know its hard to see that kind of stuff. In my case, I just think to myself, she is a rebound, its most likely not going to last. And if it does, thats fine, because I know I deserve better. You said your ex pretty much does nothing. He's making a huge mistake by letting someone who has a future go, and he will probably realize that one day. Who knows, he might also feel the same way you do when you find someone else, someone much better than him.
Author libraamour Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 He feels like he has something better because this girl lives in a big house and drives a nice car. Her parents hand her money like it's nothing and she's very pretty. She's one of those risque Spanish chicks. He even told me he thinks she's prettier than me and that all the guys are jealous that she completely caters to him. The girl is completely obsessed.
Car10e Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 He feels like he has something better because this girl lives in a big house and drives a nice car. Her parents hand her money like it's nothing and she's very pretty. She's one of those risque Spanish chicks. He even told me he thinks she's prettier than me and that all the guys are jealous that she completely caters to him. The girl is completely obsessed. Same with my ex bf's new girl. She does everything he wants. But believe me, that gets old. Especially, if she's obsessed. She's going to feel like she has to be everywhere and do everything he does. It will catch up with them sooner or later and they will start having problems, I'm sure. I say this from experience with my ex. In the beginning we saw each other too much. I became too attached and got mad if I wasn't included in every single plan of his. Luckily, we got over that problem, but some people don't.
Recommended Posts