Jaf15 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Hello again LS, so basically I am having a really down day today. My ex gf of 3 years (first everything for me, i am 20) and i broke up exactly 4 months ago. I am much better then I was 2 months ago, but today is an off day for sure. Idk, i have talked to a few other girls, went on a few dates, and am going on a date with a new girl this week but idk, it just doesnt feel the same. Idk how i still miss the ex so much. I have bettered myself as i lost 50 lbs since the breakup and hit the gym hard everyday, just am shocked im not over this yet. Everyone says this break up was a blessing for me, I look a lot healthier, and me and my ex argued all the time in the last part of our relationship. Its weird, like im not trying to be a shallow di**, but everyone says I can do much better then the ex ( she was a great girl, but put a few lbs on, and is a little bigger). My friends all say that I am out of her league now, and my family loved her, but even my dad said now, its time for me to raise the bar on girls since toning up and the weight lost. It doesnt make me feel better hearing this, although it should, we have been nc for the whole 4 months basically, besides her trying to get back together with me 2 days after dumping me(it was to late by then, I had to say no, she got her parents involved, I yelled at her and dropped the F bomb through a text). They said if we got back together counseling was a mandatory and all this other stuff. Her family has men issues, and is kind of broken so they over reacted, my family was pissed with how it was handled. Idk though, having a hard time today. Any thoughts or advice. thankss,, i could use it
BrokenAnna Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Quick question...when you lay in bed at night, what do you think about?
Author Jaf15 Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 hmmm.. how i am not happy yet. when this will all be over, what i can do to better myself, and i look forward to the day i find happiness again
lovehurts5 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Jaf15, I'm dealing with the same issues pretty much. My ex and I would have been together 4 years this month (broke up April 29th, so like 3.5 months). We've been NC about 2.5. It is extremely difficult and I wonder everyday when I will get over it and move on. I always wonder if I'm ever a thought in his mind. I feel for you... Thank god for this site because it's amazing how many people can relate/support each other. Best of luck to you.
Author Jaf15 Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 thanks lovehurts ! and i agree, this site gets me through the really down times. Crazy enough I just posted on your thread a second ago!
BrokenAnna Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 hmmm.. how i am not happy yet. when this will all be over, what i can do to better myself, and i look forward to the day i find happiness again It's been 4 months, approximately 120 days...by now you should be thinking about what you will be doing to better yourself as a person and make you an even better husband for the next girl. Do yourself a favor and create yourself a mental picture of what you want your dream girl to be like and when you go to bed think of ways how you will be winning her heart instead, create that fantasy for yourself and soon you will find your heart moving on. It's really a mind over matter thing...
Author Jaf15 Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 Very good advice anna, I will try that! It's amazing though, all my friends and family kind of jokingly give me crap, because im a big strong kid that can bench 360 lbs, but when it comes to this, and mental strength, well thats a different story hahaha mental strength>physcial strength 1
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