Author SeventhFloor Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 I don't know your back story, but I saw in this thread that your GF cheated on you numerous times with numerous men. So if you decide to contact her and "miracle of miracles"...she wants to be with you again, what would you do? Get married? Honestly ask yourself this question: Do you think your XGF will stop cheating on her future BFs or husband? Knowing what you know about her, do you want to be her husband and wonder what is she doing when she's out with friends or who is she talking to online when you aren't around? If you want that life then go ahead and start talking to her. Who knows, you may get "lucky"... But...if you want to live a life where you find a woman that will love, honor and respect you as a person, husband, lover and best friend, then ignore this woman for the rest of your life. It may hurt, but in many cases the medicine needed to heal yourself can taste bitter. No I would not marry her. Here is the thing that kills me: she did all this terrible **** to me, and yet always strove to "be better." Now she's going to fix herself up and be loving, loyal, and respectful to this guy instead of me. She learned her lesson, cheating on me and destroying our relationship - she won't do that with him :/ I highly, highly, highly, HIGHLY doubt that she wants to "get back with me," because her new boyfriend is giving her all of these great things. She told me when we broke up, she was in love with him, and she wanted to be loyal to him, and regretted that she never felt the same kind of love with me.
2muchlove Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 She told me when we broke up, she was in love with him, and she wanted to be loyal to him, and regretted that she never felt the same kind of love with me. WOW! To hell with her man. Be grateful someone else put the promise ring on instead of you. 1
Tree_Salmon Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 No I would not marry her. Here is the thing that kills me: she did all this terrible **** to me, and yet always strove to "be better." Now she's going to fix herself up and be loving, loyal, and respectful to this guy instead of me. She learned her lesson, cheating on me and destroying our relationship - she won't do that with him :/ I highly, highly, highly, HIGHLY doubt that she wants to "get back with me," because her new boyfriend is giving her all of these great things. She told me when we broke up, she was in love with him, and she wanted to be loyal to him, and regretted that she never felt the same kind of love with me. She WILL do this again. Probably quicker than she did with you. Don't fool yourself. She hasn't learned s**t. My ex cheated on her new man with me. Trust me, they don't change.
2muchlove Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 She WILL do this again. Probably quicker than she did with you. Don't fool yourself. She hasn't learned s**t. My ex cheated on her new man with me. Trust me, they don't change. I've come to the conclusion that most people under 30 just aren't ready for a real relationship. This isn't 1910.
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 Yeah, check this out. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/340793-these-messages-she-sent-me-re-reading-them-wow She sent me those messages, I think like, under a week after we broke up.
Tree_Salmon Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Yeah, check this out. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/340793-these-messages-she-sent-me-re-reading-them-wow She sent me those messages, I think like, under a week after we broke up. She doesn't know anything. Shes just infatuated with this guy. When he gets boring she will go off to the next thing. Stop giving her credit. Where are your balls man? Who gives a f**k what shes doing. She's clearly a girl with no integrity. Why would you want any of this? She'll do the same thing to him and to every other guy she gets with. 5
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 She WILL do this again. Probably quicker than she did with you. Don't fool yourself. She hasn't learned s**t. My ex cheated on her new man with me. Trust me, they don't change. I dunno man. She seems really happy with him.
2muchlove Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I dunno man. She seems really happy with him. She didn't seem happy when she was with you in the beginning?
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 She didn't seem happy when she was with you in the beginning? She did. She even seemed happy (and was telling people she was happy) with me a few weeks before our break. All of the sudden he comes along and she admits to him "I'm so unhappy!" I think she wants to change for him because she "loves" him - more than she loved me - you can read it in the link I provided earlier - and she sees him as marriage potential. She's big on spirituality. She went to an astrologist who told her she would meet her "soulmate" in July, and she would get married to him within 2 years. Well, July comes around and they are together. She ****ed him July 1st... called me over to cuddle right after... I had no idea... what a ****ing bitch... my god... What have I put myself through. On the flipside, another "astrologer" told her that I was the one for her
flitzanu Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 She expects to get married in the next 2 years. I feel like, seeing that our breakup is only one month, and their new relationship (remember, they dated in HS) is 1 month old, well I feel as though I deserve to know if she's made that long-term commitment towards marriage with him. by what reason do you deserve to know anything about her life? the minute you split up removed any respected sharing of information. she doesn't owe you anything, and it's incredibly naive to believe you have any right to know anything about her.
lovehurts82 Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 Man, you really really need to let her go. She's NOT worth your time nor your feelings. No, you shouldn't call her, you shouldn't go to her birthday party, nor even TELL her that you aren't. You need to cut off all ties and leave her alone. It's apparent that she doesn't know what she wants and doesn't understand the meaning of "love" if she can hop from one man to the next to the next without giving any of you a second thought. She's stringing you along just as it seems she is the others.. keeping her playing field open in case one relationship or ****buddy falls through.. she'll have a backup. Is this the kind of life and relationship you really want to be in? Where you can't trust her to be away from you? That you have to worry about her leaving your bed one minute and going to someone else's the next? You deserve better than that. We ALL do. So, get yourself together.. pick up the pieces.. and move on! She apparently has no problem doing so. It's MUCH easier said than done, I know. I was in a 7 relationship with a guy.. we talked marriage, he'd asked my parents, we'd made plans, were looking to move to another state and start our life together, thought of kids names.. He broke up with me three weeks ago and a week later posted on Facebook that he was engaged. I found out through a friend who texted me asking wtf.. he had thought we'd broken up. Talk about a HUGE slap to the face. But.. you seriously just have to cut ties and start working on yourself. The wounds will heal and you'll be a better person for it. Good luck!
Radu Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 So...should I talk to her to see what she wants to say? Should I ask her if that really is a promise ring? When we were breaking up, the guy was talking about how he wanted her to move in with him and how she was the only girl he's ever loved, something about her being the one, etc etc... We just broke up a month ago. They've been together for a month. I feel like if she did make that commitment to him...I need to know for real. She cheated on me...a few times, and led me on and lied a lot. So I haven't been talking to her. But I want to know if she is happy. I want to know if he treats her well, and if they've made a long-term commitment. She did all of that crap and the new guy gave her a 'promise' ring ? OMG, he is food for the beast now. Just hang back and enjoy the inevitable fireworks. If you have undeniable proof of her cheating, send it to him or his family slightly before the wedding. 1
veggirl Posted August 15, 2012 Posted August 15, 2012 She is an immature drama queen who NEEDS as much attention as she can get. pathetic. good riddance. don't call her or text her or anything on her birthday, or any other day. she is crazy immature, she can't be alone and she is bad news for any guy unlucky enough to get involved with her. a habitual cheater!! who "strove to be better" ?? bulls.hit. it's NOT HARD to NOT CHEAT. she sucks, I feel sorry for her latest victim. 1
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