SeventhFloor Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 (edited) I saw a picture of her on FB from a mutual friend. I think she's wearing a promise ring. They've been together one month and got together a week after we broke up. They also dated for a long time in highschool. Should I ask her? My friend has been telling me to contact her. She's been wanting to "talk," she's sent me a few emails and texted me a few times and when I was at the hospital, asked me twice in person. Each time I ignored it, and in person said no. So...should I talk to her to see what she wants to say? Should I ask her if that really is a promise ring? When we were breaking up, the guy was talking about how he wanted her to move in with him and how she was the only girl he's ever loved, something about her being the one, etc etc... We just broke up a month ago. They've been together for a month. I feel like if she did make that commitment to him...I need to know for real. She cheated on me...a few times, and led me on and lied a lot. So I haven't been talking to her. But I want to know if she is happy. I want to know if he treats her well, and if they've made a long-term commitment. Edited August 12, 2012 by SeventhFloor
weallfalldown Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 why?????????????//..............and what will that achieve??? nothing but more pain..............
veggirl Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 why do you need to know all of that stuff? like if she's happy or not. who cares? it should not be your concern. Why are you still FB friends? You really need to delete her. why would you assume a random ring she is wearing is a promise ring? Are promise rings like...common around where you are? I haven't heard of that since high school....seems very juvenile, esp after a month... 1
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 I feel like I need to know if she has made that promise to him. The same promise she made to me. I want to know if she is happy. If she thinks about me, and misses me, and maybe regrets breaking up with me. Their anniversary is the same day as ours.
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 I'm not FB friends with her, it was through a mutual friend. Also, she doesn't wear rings so isn't it strange that she would wear a ring on that finger?
CaliBabe Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 You gotta let it go man. If you ask it will look really bad on your part. Like you aren't moving on. Do not do it, their relationship is not your business. She left you, you have no say in anything anymore. Please try to move on, I know it hurts, but once you move on and live for yourself, you will find happiness.
2muchlove Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 She cheated on me...a few times, and led me on and lied a lot. So I haven't been talking to her. But I want to know if she is happy. I want to know if he treats her well, and if they've made a long-term commitment. Dude, f**k if she's doing well. Do you think she was worried about how happy you were when she was banging all these dudes behind your back? 3
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 She expects to get married in the next 2 years. I feel like, seeing that our breakup is only one month, and their new relationship (remember, they dated in HS) is 1 month old, well I feel as though I deserve to know if she's made that long-term commitment towards marriage with him.
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 Dude, f**k if she's doing well. Do you think she was worried about how happy you were when she was banging all these dudes behind your back? Every time she would come back crying, etc, saying she wanted to be with me, you know the whole story.
2muchlove Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Every time she would come back crying, etc, saying she wanted to be with me, you know the whole story. It's hard man. I've been there before. But that's just a face they put on to get what they want so they can possibly go back to cheating on you. I mean look where you guys are now. It's hard to come to terms with it, but you know what to do my friend. 1
weallfalldown Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 It hurts really bad It's pain.....emotional pain my friend.......it is not everlasting.... The old saying "better to have loved than not at all" Your so young....you'll be cruising in no time......
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 2 months ago we were talking about where we were going to be...we made an 8-year plan together.
weallfalldown Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 This is the hard truth..... She's full of **** mate!!!!! MOVE ON!
2muchlove Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 It hurts really bad I know man. I hate that anybody has to go through this. But with great pain comes great perseverance. And a man that has been beaten down is worth two that haven't. I still hurt every day too. Know your worth and understand you deserve wayyyy better than a good for nothing, cheating hooker. Mine was the same way and I was a sucker for it. But I learned something invaluable from it and I'm starting to pick myself back up. Try and enjoy the emotional roller coaster. It won't last forever. 2
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 I have been angry. I've been going thru all the stages. Now I am just...really depressed. I want her to miss me. I want her to think about me. And I don't want them to work out - they had a terrible start. How could they possibly work out? They started while we were still together, official within a week, moving super fast. If that's a promise ring they are moving way too fast for it to work.
BrokenAnna Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 I have been angry. I've been going thru all the stages. Now I am just...really depressed. I want her to miss me. I want her to think about me. And I don't want them to work out - they had a terrible start. How could they possibly work out? They started while we were still together, official within a week, moving super fast. If that's a promise ring they are moving way too fast for it to work. I have a friend whom are also going through such a breakup. His ex gf got engaged 6 weeks after their breakup and he hasn't made contact with her in 4 months. He told me the first month was hell but he soon realized how messed up she must be to make such a commitment and it helped him to move on. Your first priority should be focusing on yourself, whatever she is doing has no power on you nor does it define you as a person. 1
Author SeventhFloor Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 (edited) I'm trying...really, I am. I guess I won't be contacting her for her birthday. I shouldn't message that to her, right? Should I message one of her friends (who is close to me), and ask if it really is a promise ring? Don't you think that, even though they dated in highschool, this is still a rebound to be official exactly one week after we broke up? How could they have made this commitment already. Edited August 13, 2012 by SeventhFloor
weallfalldown Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 nah........NOPE.............NON..........c'est pas bon mon amis....... D'accord, c'est pas facile....... I know, just keep nc.
Plan 9 from OS Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I don't know your back story, but I saw in this thread that your GF cheated on you numerous times with numerous men. So if you decide to contact her and "miracle of miracles"...she wants to be with you again, what would you do? Get married? Honestly ask yourself this question: Do you think your XGF will stop cheating on her future BFs or husband? Knowing what you know about her, do you want to be her husband and wonder what is she doing when she's out with friends or who is she talking to online when you aren't around? If you want that life then go ahead and start talking to her. Who knows, you may get "lucky"... But...if you want to live a life where you find a woman that will love, honor and respect you as a person, husband, lover and best friend, then ignore this woman for the rest of your life. It may hurt, but in many cases the medicine needed to heal yourself can taste bitter. 3
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