Brokendude Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Im in school full time and pay for it so i dont have money for therapy rt now but i will be fully done in march. If ur in therapy or even if not can any of u guys please share any techniques or processes to stop our brain from revisiting awful thoughts. Anything will help at this point, breathing? Meditation? I am willin to try anything at this point to do anything that would help me constantly entertaining painful thoughts and memories, thank you guys!
soccerrprp Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Aside from therapy, keep yourself busy with hobbies, activities, new friends and old, that help to reaffirm yourself. Too much idle time can be dangerous. I'm not into meditation, but couldn't hurt as long as you are able to completely close yourself off from the negative thoughts.... good luck!
Author Brokendude Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 Im a very busy guy, mon to sat i leave my house at 8 am and get home at midnight, gym, work, school, but on my day off i need to rest my body and my mind wanders horribly
weallfalldown Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 ditto that......but on the flip side, sometimes being alone can help you to think things through....... when your lying in bed at night, when most of us have thoughts..... Listen to the sound of rain.......go to you tube and find some.... try and imagine yourself somewhere far away........ clear your mind......not easy, but if you can train yourself to do it...it quite often works.
Appleness Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Hi Brokendude, I did a few sessions of therapy. It's offered free through work so I figured I didn't have much to loose. If you're in school, they probably offer a counseling service that may also help. I can't say that there is a definite "one size fits all" technique but I can tell you that the whole not think about them thing is all about control. I had friends tell me that if things got bad enough to just look up local AA meetings and to just sit in on one. Sometimes, the thought that you're not alone in feeling helpless, alone, and (let's be honest here) addicted is enough to get you by. I find that what helps me personally is to develop and hone my self-esteem. This may require me to go out of my comfort zone such as working out consistently or meeting new people. Build yourself back up if you feel to all you have are broke pieces. Good luck
BrokenAnna Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 I found it easier to forget when I fantasize about how I want my life to be and then work towards it. I would lay in bed at night and think how I want to change my image and how I want to decorate my home, this keeps my mind occupied and keeping any thoughts of the ex at bay. Hey I even went as far as fantasizing about winning the lotto 1
blotter Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 I think at most colleges they offer psychological help in the student health center.
villageman Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 If you've got a little time I'd recommend a book called, "A Mindful Way Through Depression," By Mark Williams, John Teasdale, Zindal Segal and Jon Kabat-Zinn. It's all about learning how to interact with your own mind and how to deal with negative patterns of thinking, and can be pretty helpful. Pretty sure you can pick it up as an ebook from amazon for pretty cheap. There's also a website called moodgym, MoodGYM: Welcome, which is a place where you can do cognitive behavioral therapy exercises for free, which can also be pretty helpful. Good luck!
Canadian731 Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 I've learned one thing in therapy after my breakup, you can't run from your feelings, you have to properly grieve the relationship. It's like someone dying, there was a huge loss in your life and now you feel empty inside. But don't go to therapy and expect them to make everything better for you, all they can do for you is give you advice and help guide you in right direction but the problems are yours and yours alone to deal with my friend
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