LoveHurts88 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 (edited) So yesterday I decided to text my ex of 3 days now to let her know that she has some of her stuff at my place. She replied I'll get it another day. I mean I can drop it off or you can just come pick it up. Is she keeping me around? I am the dumpee, she said she lost feelings for me all that jazz.. I texted her of what I would sorta call it a closure. Although I told her I miss her and that there's this slight hope I have of us getting back together and me being able to hold her again but I know it's probably a slim chance. Never got a reply back, and I actually feel a lot better because of this for some strange reason. I feel like I don't really need her. But most likely she didn't reply was because she was out... My gut feeling tells me that there is another guy in her life already but who know I could be wrong but my instincts are usually quite accurate. Don't get me wrong I love her, but if I am correct and she's already seeing someone else than current feelings for her are almost gone, or so I think. I really hope this isn't so but there's no way of me finding out. I could be feeling better because when we first broke-up I was going crazy, needy, begging her back etc... I haven't done any of that because well I believe I've gotten stronger. Thoughts? I have a really weird feeling. Don't know what to do Edited August 12, 2012 by LoveHurts88
N64 Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 For right now, don't read into things. It's too 50/50. She could be keeping you around or she is just trying to prove how indifferent she is to you now. She cares so little that she'll just get it whenever on her time. It could be she's busy. Who knows? I don't think it should validate holding on to so much. Though, I understand that you keep faith a little. Whether or not she replies, I think you're just starting to accept that you shouldn't feel so hurt as you initially felt over someone you're starting to re-evaluate. Just try to not let that change if she does end up responding. I know it can make the heart race when you get a text back, but try to maintain this feeling you are growing. It comes off a lot less foolish and, sure, much more defensive, but you owe it to yourself to quit being so vulnerable to someone who hurt you- even if she broke up with good intentions. And if you're feeling better, then you are. I can relate to the feeling of doubting it especially when it can be so fleeting. I think because you broke up so recently, and depending on your relationship with her, that it will come in bursts. So, if you feel sad again, remember it will pass as long as you don't fester. Soon, it will be more consistent and you'll be more confident with the way you feel.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 For right now, don't read into things. It's too 50/50. She could be keeping you around or she is just trying to prove how indifferent she is to you now. She cares so little that she'll just get it whenever on her time. It could be she's busy. Who knows? I don't think it should validate holding on to so much. Though, I understand that you keep faith a little. Whether or not she replies, I think you're just starting to accept that you shouldn't feel so hurt as you initially felt over someone you're starting to re-evaluate. Just try to not let that change if she does end up responding. I know it can make the heart race when you get a text back, but try to maintain this feeling you are growing. It comes off a lot less foolish and, sure, much more defensive, but you owe it to yourself to quit being so vulnerable to someone who hurt you- even if she broke up with good intentions. And if you're feeling better, then you are. I can relate to the feeling of doubting it especially when it can be so fleeting. I think because you broke up so recently, and depending on your relationship with her, that it will come in bursts. So, if you feel sad again, remember it will pass as long as you don't fester. Soon, it will be more consistent and you'll be more confident with the way you feel. Thanks! After our first break up I was a mess then there was breakup in between and I got stronger since then. Right now I feel great to be honest. But once I see her again I'm scared that i'll be right where I started.
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