chickenleg Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 I think I might have blown it with my ex.... we broke up a year and a half ago, and still have to see one another everyday at university. Its been awkward and really we haven't spoken at all- we tend to pass by awkwardly, he avoids me slightly but keeps a watch on where I am. Over the last 1.5 years I did try (at the start of the break up) to talk to him, but he refused, I sent him a couple of emails telling him how I feel and about 8 months ago a letter telling him the score. Then... I left it well alone. Things have been calm, but still awkward. I dated another guy during this time- that has ended. Beofe i dated this guy I had a dodgey one night stand with a guy we both know.... I hate myself for that. (that was also after the break up- but I think it damaged my exes ego...) Hes not been with anyone since me. So this week I decided to talk to him on a social networking site- surprisingly, he was quite chatty! And we chatted for half an hour or so. Great! I thought- Ill try again soon. Last night I did again, and he seemed less responsive... colder, back to one word answers and then logged off asap... didn't come back online... I didn't talk about the past, just tried friendly conversation- it still lasted half an hour, but it wasn't nearly as friendly as the first... HAve I blown it? :\
Author chickenleg Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 I think I might have blown it with my ex.... we broke up a year and a half ago, and still have to see one another everyday at university. Its been awkward and really we haven't spoken at all- we tend to pass by awkwardly, he avoids me slightly but keeps a watch on where I am. Over the last 1.5 years I did try (at the start of the break up) to talk to him, but he refused, I sent him a couple of emails telling him how I feel and about 8 months ago a letter telling him the score. Then... I left it well alone. Things have been calm, but still awkward. I dated another guy during this time- that has ended. Beofe i dated this guy I had a dodgey one night stand with a guy we both know.... I hate myself for that. (that was also after the break up- but I think it damaged my exes ego...) Hes not been with anyone since me. So this week I decided to talk to him on a social networking site- surprisingly, he was quite chatty! And we chatted for half an hour or so. Great! I thought- Ill try again soon. Last night I did again, and he seemed less responsive... colder, back to one word answers and then logged off asap... didn't come back online... I didn't talk about the past, just tried friendly conversation- it still lasted half an hour, but it wasn't nearly as friendly as the first... HAve I blown it? :\ oh by the way- we broke up because he didn't feel the same anymore, things had become awkward since we went to university together, he had new friends whom I didn't fit in with. I wasn't sure how to fit him into my life and vice versa, the communication broke down and as a result the relationship sort of broke down and things got weird... But I still loved him very much, we were both too shy and scared to sort things out... and hes not a great communicator of feelings anyway!
qxmbati Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Hey there. Your situation seems extremely similar to mine. Except i'm the Male and my ex-gf is with another guy. I'm probably not the best person to give out advice, but it does sound like you both have some feelings for one another. In your case, it sounds like you are both single right now (my situation is different bc my ex is with someone still). So I would imagine that there is still some chance here. He probably still feels hurt and confused. But if you feel like the two of you have the ability to make things work again, then go for it - it might be slow to ease back into, but its better to try than to never know. You might want to make certain that he's not seeing someone else otherwise you might be hurt further. Either way, Trust your gut.
Art_Critic Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 HAve I blown it? With your ex.. no.. he is your ex so there isn't any blowing it..as it seems you are not meant to be together and you keep trying to force it.. IMO.. what you are blowing is any chance with a new guy.. Stop carrying a torch for an ex that isn't part of your future and put that same energy into someone new.. A new guy for you is around the corner... 1
Recommended Posts