villageman Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 Hey all, I guess most people who are on here are here because they're suffering from the end of a relationship, but I'm wondering if there's anyone out there who has any success stories, not about getting back with an ex, but about getting over an ex, moving on, and finding another great relationship? I want to believe it's possible, but there are a lot of times when I don't think it'll ever happen. I'm really curious to see if there's anyone on here with that kind of story or not. (also bonus points if this happened after you were 30)
Author villageman Posted August 12, 2012 Author Posted August 12, 2012 Haha, well it looks like this was maybe not the right place to come looking for success stories.
Silly_Girl Posted August 12, 2012 Posted August 12, 2012 I wrote 6 paragraphs but lost signal on my phone and lost my text. So here's my short answer: Yes. I'm mid-thirties. I had heartbreak so bad I thought I'd never recover, and it triggered (with something else) a bout of depression. Yuck. I got well, met a guy, he's wonderful, it's so easy and natural, we're in love and I believe we're going to have a great life together. He's awesome! Life can turn around. There could be a nice surprise for you just round the corner 1
Author villageman Posted August 13, 2012 Author Posted August 13, 2012 Hi Silly Girl! Thanks! Only one, but it does a world of good to hear, I hope every thing works out fantastically for you 1
hopeful4someday Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 Hey all, I guess most people who are on here are here because they're suffering from the end of a relationship, but I'm wondering if there's anyone out there who has any success stories, not about getting back with an ex, but about getting over an ex, moving on, and finding another great relationship? I want to believe it's possible, but there are a lot of times when I don't think it'll ever happen. I'm really curious to see if there's anyone on here with that kind of story or not. (also bonus points if this happened after you were 30) Mine happened when I was ALMOST 30. I posted about it in breaks & breaking up. The gist is this: I was with a guy for about 5 years who I thought would evolve into something serious. He never wanted that and ultimately let me down hard, after I was planning our wedding and stuff. I decided after the breakup to take some time and get in touch with myself, figure out what I liked and do it. So I did. I went to this group event (through meetup.com) that I wanted, and I met my current boyfriend. Interestingly, I gave him the once over while I was there but ruled him out. He was attractive but seemed kind of average and I didn't think it was worth getting excited about. But he emailed me that night and then kept dropping me little notes now and again and I found out that he was pretty much everything I ever wanted in a guy. It's funny how first impressions can sometimes be wrong. So we've been together for almost a year, are talking about marriage, and honestly I have never been with and can't imagine ever being with a better man. Every once in a while I still think of my ex. Usually it's when my new bf does something really nice that my ex wouldn't have done, and I think if I ever saw him again I'd tell him off. Occasionally it's because his company does something naughty and makes national headlines for the fines they've racked up. It took a LOT for me to let go. I fought it every step of the way. And then when I had no other choice but to do it, I found out that the love you don't think you deserve is out there and you can find someone with whom you truly connect. My boyfriend isn't just a guy I see sometimes -- he's a huge part of my life, an inspiration and motivation for me to be the best person I can be. It doesn't hurt that we share a ton of the same interests and just click. So my story is that there is a better person out there. You just need to follow your own interests to find him or her.
newmoon Posted August 13, 2012 Posted August 13, 2012 of course there are success stories!! we are not doomed to live loveless lives just because we suffer heartbreak. i was dumped at age 31 by a long-term boyfriend; we went on vacation together and came back alone. he abandoned me on our trip 3 days into it. it was awful - heartbreaking, i cried for months, and even a few years after still longed for him. with time, i let him and the memories go, and it took forever for me to even date again. then, at age 36, i met someone i was really interested in and it's been about 15 months for us now. it's a healthy, mature relationship and makes me happy. plus, we've been on vacation together twice now and we came back together :-)
madtek Posted August 14, 2012 Posted August 14, 2012 I'm over thirty and have dated many women and had many relationships. I don't know if this makes me any more wise or intelligent than my friends who may have stuck with a single childhood partner? Or simply damaged... How would you have met the person in your previous relationship if the one before that hadn't ended? You will ALWAYS meet someone again as long as you're worthy of it (i.e. have something to give)... don't lose hope, like I am too right now!
blondie 12345 Posted August 16, 2012 Posted August 16, 2012 Hey all, I guess most people who are on here are here because they're suffering from the end of a relationship, but I'm wondering if there's anyone out there who has any success stories, not about getting back with an ex, but about getting over an ex, moving on, and finding another great relationship? I want to believe it's possible, but there are a lot of times when I don't think it'll ever happen. I'm really curious to see if there's anyone on here with that kind of story or not. (also bonus points if this happened after you were 30) Hi I was in a relationship for 10 years with a son and 1 day my fiance left and the day after I sin him with this other women at time I was devaststed n couldn't eat sleep etc how could he walk out for another women. Fast forward 5 years and they are still together n have 3 kids together now my son goes at weekend. I am the happiest I have ever been I have my own relationship and am so happy that things happened the way they did I wouldn't change a thing and wouldn't go back.
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