NYC-BigKat Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Um...it seems that way sometimes. When I went out last night to the city with my good friend girls looked mad when we wanted to approach. Some looked really really mean when we just looked. I dont know why . Um I'm getting over that girl from the dentist. We dont text anymore & its okay. I want to meet someone else but its so hard. Last night I try to make nice convo with 4 girls. I said hi to one girl & she looked at me & said bye. I'm annoyed with that. After the 4th girl I didn't have any more energy to get more rejections. It just seems that girls are angry more when lots of guys are around them .
ThaWholigan Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I can't say girls have often been rude to me when I've approached them. I'd say less than 10% of girls I've approached have been rude to me. Even the rejections I've got haven't always been harsh. I've been rejected harshly a few times, but it's never been a regular occurrence. Girls most times quite like being approached, depending on the scenario. 1
weallfalldown Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 you ***in love yoursel something chronic man.....
Author NYC-BigKat Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 I can't say girls have often been rude to me when I've approached them. I'd say less than 10% of girls I've approached have been rude to me. Even the rejections I've got haven't always been harsh. I've been rejected harshly a few times, but it's never been a regular occurrence. Girls most times quite like being approached, depending on the scenario. Girls aren't always rude to me either. I get rejected nicely alot but not last night. They just looked angry angry angry . Me & my friend was polite a lot to them & sometimes they be nice back & then leave but not last night to us nope. These girls got mad just 'cause guys were around them.
Cracker Jack Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Sorry that you had an outing like that, but it might've just been the venue you were in. Generally women enjoy being approached, as long as the guy isn't a total dumbass about it. I can't figure out why you're always having so much trouble with women. 3
udolipixie Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Some gals are tired of guys liking them and some aren't. Seems more likely that gals are tired of being liked by guys they don't like. The gals probably looked mean when you and your friends looked at them because they thought you guys might approach them and they wanted to discourage that by looking unapproachable. Some gals have a "b*tch face" to dissaude gals, some wear headphones, some hold up their cellphones, etc. Perhaps gals are angry more when lots of guys are around them as: - the guys want a piece of her based on nothing but her looks - the guys will approach her and she's dislikes the expectation of her being appreciative of a guy being attracted to her when she didn't ask for it or want it - the guys will approach her and she doesn't want to give her attention and time to a guy such as lengthy engaged answers and friendliness to placate his ego
threebyfate Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 If women are looking angry about your approach the majority of times, reconsider your approach which includes adjusting facial expressions and body language. 1
Shaun-Dro Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Girls aren't always rude to me either. I get rejected nicely alot but not last night. They just looked angry angry angry . Me & my friend was polite a lot to them & sometimes they be nice back & then leave but not last night to us nope. These girls got mad just 'cause guys were around them. Well, we're in NYC and that seems to be the culture for women: frown at us when we're coming at them. I know it's pathetic but what can we do?
Radu Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Why do you approach when they are expecting to be approached ? Meaning when they go out. They have the BS up [bitch Shield btw], and in a group they become vipers, very vicious ... they Why bother with that ? boost each other up. Those girls need to do groceries, ride the sub, pay bills, walk on the street ... don't approach a big group of them, especially in NY. The more they are used to being approached, the more powerfull that BS is, and the harder it will be to overcome it. Especially if they were going out, not going home from going out or late in the night in the club. That BS does get worn down, so it only makes sense that it's strong in the early evening.
USMCHokie Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Sorry that you had an outing like that, but it might've just been the venue you were in. Generally women enjoy being approached, as long as the guy isn't a total dumbass about it. I think there's a general correlation between the attractiveness of the men and the relative enjoyment experienced by the women...
soccerrprp Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Centuries of men taking advantage of women comes to mind....now that women are much more assertive, a little payback, huh? Actually never, never been a target of rude stares or looks from women, but then again, I don't go around thinking that i'm the answer to women's needs and desires...do you? Frankly, most guys are looking for a score...let's admit it. It could become something LT, but men are initially looking for a score either way, so women sense that. Not all men, of course... 2
mesmerized Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 It's either your approach or your looks. I think if both are good, it's very unlikely to get such reactions. 1
Shaun-Dro Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 It's either your approach or your looks. I think if both are good, it's very unlikely to get such reactions. Perhaps and perhaps not. When doing cold approaches in NYC it's going to be a gamble. The dames here have their auto shields up so they pass on a lot of potential good mates just because of it. The best thing for women is to be neutrally guarded; in that sense they can be approachable, but also on guard and alert to anything unwelcoming. 1
Badsingularity Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Centuries of men taking advantage of women comes to mind....now that women are much more assertive, a little payback, huh? There are so many things wrong with this.
rocketman122 Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 (edited) if Brad pitt look alike walked up to them, would they give him dirty looks? the reason is 100% looks (maybe youre short, dont dress well, dont look fit, ugly) because youre not even approaching and they give you bad looks. theyre not letting you open your mouth and they already got the evil eye out and have a big NO sign out. if you looked good then they would give you chance. a girl that finds you attractive will be open and willing to help you along. they want you to talk to them. if you were with your friends and pretty girl walked up to the group..would you give her the evil eye? if youre good looking you can see the woman are interested..just watch their eyes..theyre eye fkking you. its your looks plain and simple. either that or they were all drunk. Edited August 11, 2012 by rocketman122 1
borkus Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Centuries of men taking advantage of women comes to mind....now that women are much more assertive, a little payback, huh? Actually never, never been a target of rude stares or looks from women, but then again, I don't go around thinking that i'm the answer to women's needs and desires...do you? Frankly, most guys are looking for a score...let's admit it. It could become something LT, but men are initially looking for a score either way, so women sense that. Not all men, of course... Young, drunk, party chicks don't think of centuries "of men taking advantage of women" when they get approached by Brad Pitt or Tom Brady. I don't think that Paris Hilton thinks about how patriarchy has ruined the lifes of her mothers and grandmothers. I'm thinking that they care more about whether that guy is cool and cute. When I go to bars and nightclubs, I see girls enjoying themselves when they get approached by guys that they find attractive. I honestly don't know how pointing out the evils of patriarchy is going to help the OP who has a problem being confident around women. Based on his catastrophobic thinking in his previous threads, I think women can see his lack of confidence through his vibe and get turned off. If you want to go deeper, nice guys like the OP aren't the ones who take advantage of women. It's the charismatic bad boys who are the ones that women get mad about, yet women are still attracted to these guys anyway. These guys who "take advantage of women" approach women, flirt, and seduce them. This might be something that nice guys like the OP needs to do more of. I think a lot of guys are nice guys because they are ashamed about their sexuality and don't want to make women feel uncomfortable. soccerprp, I think your post would be more appropriate for some guy who is a womanizer versus some nice guy who lacks confidence around women. OP, it's your vibe and appearance. If you take care of those two things, women will not only be happy when you approach them, but they might start approaching you despite the fact that women have been taken advantage by men for centuries. 2
udolipixie Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 If you want to go deeper, nice guys like the OP aren't the ones who take advantage of women. It's the charismatic bad boys who are the ones that women get mad about, yet women are still attracted to these guys anyway. These guys who "take advantage of women" approach women, flirt, and seduce them. This might be something that nice guys like the OP needs to do more of. I think a lot of guys are nice guys because they are ashamed about their sexuality and don't want to make women feel uncomfortable. I agree that nice guys aren't the ones who 'take advantage' of women as in my opinion they're the ones that want to or bemoan about how they're not rewarded for not "taking advantage" of women. I doubt nice guys are ashamed of their sexuality considering how often they bemoan not having sex treating women as a sexual resource to be divided equally amongt men. I highly doubt nice guys don't want to make women uncomfortable considering how often nice guys label women evil, parasitic, gold diggers, b*tches. Seems more like nice guys are socially awkward/inept and don't want to do anything that may risk his chance of getting what he wants rather than ashamed of their sexuality and don't want to do something to make women feel uncomfortable.
udolipixie Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I hardly ever see guys approaching random girls when I go out (and for good reason - it's a waste of time). Girls all stick to their little cliques, and every single guy ends up going home empty handed. The bar/club pickup is an urban myth. It's an mythological for some. It's a reality for the guys in my social circle while they don't approach women and they do go home empty handed they do get approached by random women who they hook up with at the club or in the parking lot.
yongyong Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Let me ask you, what was your intention? did you really want to get to know the chick and just have a conversation? or did you want to bring her home, f- the **** out of her and cum on her face? Although your true intention was first, you were at the wrong place. It's inevitable to run into bitches at night. That's just the way it is. The same girl would react differently during day time though. Um...it seems that way sometimes. When I went out last night to the city with my good friend girls looked mad when we wanted to approach. Some looked really really mean when we just looked. I dont know why . Um I'm getting over that girl from the dentist. We dont text anymore & its okay. I want to meet someone else but its so hard. Last night I try to make nice convo with 4 girls. I said hi to one girl & she looked at me & said bye. I'm annoyed with that. After the 4th girl I didn't have any more energy to get more rejections. It just seems that girls are angry more when lots of guys are around them .
borkus Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I agree that nice guys aren't the ones who 'take advantage' of women as in my opinion they're the ones that want to or bemoan about how they're not rewarded for not "taking advantage" of women. I doubt nice guys are ashamed of their sexuality considering how often they bemoan not having sex treating women as a sexual resource to be divided equally amongt men. I highly doubt nice guys don't want to make women uncomfortable considering how often nice guys label women evil, parasitic, gold diggers, b*tches. Seems more like nice guys are socially awkward/inept and don't want to do anything that may risk his chance of getting what he wants rather than ashamed of their sexuality and don't want to do something to make women feel uncomfortable. Those aren't nice guys according to my previous post. Those sound like bitter, reactionary, men's rights guys who blame women for their problems and want to turn the clock back to the 1950s. When I'm talking about nice guys, I'm talking guys who are shy and passive around women. 1
threebyfate Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I hardly ever see guys approaching random girls when I go out (and for good reason - it's a waste of time). Girls all stick to their little cliques, and every single guy ends up going home empty handed. The bar/club pickup is an urban myth.Because you don't get laid, no one else does? So everyone's a virgin unless they pay hookers? What an odd world view.
threebyfate Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I hardly ever see guys approaching random girls when I go out (and for good reason - it's a waste of time). Girls all stick to their little cliques, and every single guy ends up going home empty handed. The bar/club pickup is an urban myth. Retard, learn to read more carefully. I'm saying the vast majority of guys won't get laid from clubs and bars. That's all.It's a good thing I actually understand what I read. Probably best to learn how to write. 1
ThaWholigan Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Retard, learn to read more carefully. I'm saying the vast majority of guys won't get laid from clubs and bars. That's all. On planet Bob Funk maybe. You should come to Shoreditch some time.........
ThaWholigan Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 When was the last time you pulled a girl from a club? That's what I thought. Twice in the last 3 months. Just because I didn't get laid by them, doesn't mean I couldn't. I also have a social circle full of guys who pull at clubs. It isn't easy, but it can be done, and happens a LOT more than you say it does. Oh, and I would caution you against trying to pull rank by way of "I get laid more than you". It's very unbecoming, and makes you look retarded. Besides, going by your logic, I could say that I had sex with a "8" () without having to pay for it, while you can "only get obese 3s and 4s". But that would make me as retarded as you..... 1
udolipixie Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 What do these women look like, and are they having sex? I mean, I could go out and make out with the odd drunk fat chick after approaching a bunch, but I wouldn't exactly call that a success. The women are above average looking in my social circle's opinion. They usually have sex though most of the guys prefer oral for him out of STD fear. Going out and making out with the odd drunk fat chick after approaching a bunch would be disproving the bar/club pickup as a myth. I thought I was addressing your statement that the bar/club pickup was a myth not what you would call a success.
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