aanderson088 Posted August 28, 2012 Posted August 28, 2012 Don't give him a damn thing. He doesn't get those things back. A gift is a GIFT. It belongs to you now. He's delusional and he is trying to manipulate you again. I did that "break/up-get back together" thing a lot with my ex too... I never asked her for anything but chances. Now I feel like she is in the same boat as you are. Numb and indifferent. Either way, he is being a jerk and you really shouldn't pander to any of this ridiculous behavior. 1
Author BeautyRush Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 UPDATE: As usual, I wokeup to about 20msgs and 20 miscalls from my ex. And I have enough today. I finally broke my NC. After 1 month and 6 days of NC, I finally texted him..... Please, let me know what you think guys. I know I sounded furious and a bit egocentric but I guess, that's what he needs right now --- A tad bit of pig **** slathered onto his pretty face WARNING: This is too long. I do hope you will find closure after reading my last message to you. Yes, obviously our relationship is over. It ended on July 23rd. And yes, there is no point of you joining us on our trip. Guess, you need a rehash, huh? Looks like you suffer from temporary amnesia. Oh well, it was you who called it off, alright? It is always been YOU who always threatened to end the relationship, remember? To the extent of telling me that it might be better if you will just find hookers instead so I will stop running after you. You, literally, flushed my self esteem down the drain. You never RESPECTED me at all and you treated me like a bitch! Yes, a female dog. While still in relationship with me, you went around telling people that you already broke up with me and *that I should stop running after you. Plus the fact that you never fail to remind me of how much money you've already shed in the relationship. Now, did I ever force you to spend a peso for *me? Accusing me of using you financially? Why don't you take time and research about my family's financial networth? You always blame everyone for every dirty deed you made. You never manned up and take the blame and responsibilities of your actions. It is always the fault of others. You think of yourself too highly that you have no respect left even to your crappy self. You have ZERO empathy - *a self-loathing- emotionally detached- self-righteous- misogynist-misanthropic- calloused-hypocrite-narcissist who thinks of himself as God, the powerful; who is always right with everything and always play the role of a victim; uses his looks as the advantage to everyone. Really? If you look that good, how come you don't have exes that looks like hollywood actresses? Except me, of course. Knowing those girls you've courted here in B------, it made me laughed til my stomach hurts. Not that I'm being a vaunt here but with my caliber, I don't think you could still find someone better than me , here in B-----, in all aspects. Enough of that, I hope it is clear with you now that IT'S ALL OVER. No Excuses. No buts. I'm done putting up with your cruel ways. How dare you treat me like a pus? I tried SO HARD to work things out between us even if everyone is AGAINST our relationship. But what did you do? Pushed me to the edge of a cliff? Where were you when I needed you the most? Those few days before our break up, those were the times I was too helpless and I was desperately trying to reach out for you. Instead, you kicked me to the curb like I was some pesky garbage. Now, who do you think you are for doing all these to me? Don't you realize you're just a mere dirt under my fingernails? Besides, why keep on pushing about the trip when you were so enraged that I booked you in the first place? Ranting about the costly tickets and the overall expense and that you can't leave your sick dad? When was the time you reached out and realized that I was over you? 3 weeks after you broke up with me? Because you got lonely and horny? Is that what a relationship for you all about? You know what, with your current state of mind, I really don't think you can handle a normal healthy relationship. You need years of therapy. Even then, it would be hard for you since you never recognize how evil you are. And for the record, no one is brainwashing me. I don't need to be brainswashed because I am not stupid to continually put up with your visciousness. It doesn't take a fool to realize what a douchebag you are. Right now, I'm perfectly happy and enjoying my single life. I hope this time its clear to you that we are done and over. Please, stop following me around and for christ's sake, stop contacting me. You don't exist in my memory anymore. And to remind you, I don't owe you anything. Period. Have a great life. God bless! 1
Author BeautyRush Posted August 29, 2012 Author Posted August 29, 2012 Now, how do I feel after sending that message? Down and drained... I feel powerless... Kinda defeated... A bit disappointed and full of remorse. :( Ughhh... Back to square one, I guess? Whatta waste! *SIGH*
TaraMaiden Posted August 29, 2012 Posted August 29, 2012 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,no!!!! You did really good hun!! You got it all out your system, you gave him what for, you held nothing back, you told it like it is - and brother, if he dares, now, to come back with ..."So.... you think we still have a chance then...?" I'll come over and cut his balls off myself!! You did exactly the right thing, and I think the reason you feel drained, is because that is exactly what writing something like that, does to you - it drains you of every last vestige of animosity, anger, resentment and hate. But pleas, please don't let what has 'drained' be replaced with remorse. Look at this thread... Read it again - from start to finish... look at all the things he did. Look at all the tools, weapons and actions he took to absolutely bury you in his psychotic, schizoid s.hi.t! How can you NOT feel justified in what you wrote?? Absolutely, you are! And I know it's harsh, and so do you. But maybe, it's exactly what he needs to shut him up for good. And let's hope it damn well does!
aanderson088 Posted August 30, 2012 Posted August 30, 2012 Yea. Good job. It was very clear. He might keep trying because he's a tool, but now you have to continue to ignore. I suggest finding new hobbies and friends. If you two share a circle then he'll try to make your life hell. Shield yourself for his childish manipulations and attempts at breaking you down. It's nothing but his pride and pain that will be saying those things and they mean absolutely nothing. Stay strong and do not let him affect you anymore. 1
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