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Should you resent people who ignored you when you were overweight?

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irc333 Established Member

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....or just society in general for that matter?

 

It's common that most people who are attractive get the most discounts, attention, discounts at places, etc.

 

I was hearing how a woman, who did herself right by loosing a lot of weight, and all of a sudden getting ALL this attention.

 

But now hating the fact they only liked her for appearance, and ignored her when she was overweight?

 

Why the animosity? Just smile, giggle, and pat yourself on the back for a job well done.

MCMLXXXIX Established Member

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I do tend to resent people who ignored me when I was overweight back in high school.

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silicone Established Member

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Whilst I can't relate to being overweight, I have a trait which disqualifies me from a hell of a lot of women, from the physical side; I am very short.

 

Honestly, I have resented girls who put me down when I asked them out with them citing my height. It's my game now, and she's not a part of it.

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....or just society in general for that matter?

 

It's common that most people who are attractive get the most discounts, attention, discounts at places, etc.

 

I was hearing how a woman, who did herself right by loosing a lot of weight, and all of a sudden getting ALL this attention.

 

But now hating the fact they only liked her for appearance, and ignored her when she was overweight?

 

Why the animosity? Just smile, giggle, and pat yourself on the back for a job well done.

Great idea, similar to short or skinny men getting over themselves!
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USMCHokie Established Member

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Great idea, similar to short or skinny men getting over themselves!

 

Or those of a less desirable race...? :eek:

dreamingoftigers Established Member

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Really, why would I want to hang out with someone who ignored me before?

 

Why would I want to hang out with someone like that?

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threebyfate Established Member

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Or those of a less desirable race...? :eek:
This too, particularly since a lot of this is in your mind, perhaps like Woggle, looking for external validation.
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irc333 Established Member

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Really, why would I want to hang out with someone who ignored me before?

 

Why would I want to hang out with someone like that?

 

I dunno, turning the other cheek? Making amends? etc. Are you willing to take the high road if they want to go out with you NOW?

 

Besides....the people that are giving you attention now (that are total strangers), how are they any different than the people who had no interest in you before?

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....or just society in general for that matter?

 

It's common that most people who are attractive get the most discounts, attention, discounts at places, etc.

 

I was hearing how a woman, who did herself right by loosing a lot of weight, and all of a sudden getting ALL this attention.

 

But now hating the fact they only liked her for appearance, and ignored her when she was overweight?

 

Why the animosity? Just smile, giggle, and pat yourself on the back for a job well done.

 

Because it wasn't/isn't generally only lack of attention.

 

In some cases it comes with some abuse as well.

Either that or she might just be angry at having lost a lot of time before she slimmed down.

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dreamingoftigers Established Member

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I dunno, turning the other cheek? Making amends? etc. Are you willing to take the high road if they want to go out with you NOW?

 

Besides....the people that are giving you attention now (that are total strangers), how are they any different than the people who had no interest in you before?

 

I would turn the other cheek if THEY made a change to accept me.

 

But I wouldn't want to date someone that was rude etc. To me as an overweight person. Nor would I want to date someone that had a bitter attitude about overweight people if I were thin.

 

I wouldn't want to make amends with someone rude and ignorant just because they'd "accept me" now.

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Hawaii50 Established Member

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Obviously it's the first thing people see. I think obesity (not just having a few pounds) is a clear sign of lack of discipline and an unstable mind. nothing different than any other addiction. It's just way more visible.

 

but in a nutshell.. most people are highly ignorant and inconsiderate of other peoples feelings, struggles, and because they're not nice to look at... existence.

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No, because in my case I was not the same person I am now when I was overweight. I was depressed and unnaproachable .. I generally kept to myself. I was insecure and didn't like myself much and it showed. I was ignored because I wanted to be so no I will not ignore someone for treating me in the way I acted. I will not judge someone for not being attracted to me when I was overweight - that is their perference and I respect that.

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