Request for inspiration quotes

[leilab]

I thought it would be great to start a post for us OW/OM with inspirational quotes or phrases from OW that have helped us individually. What do you guys think? It would be nice to have this so that when we feel low we can read these one liners from this group. One of my recent favorites is by Fancy:

 

"MM did not abandon you because he was never committed to you in the first place"

[HokeyReligions]

Just Say No

 

 

 

I'm not trying to be mean, I just think this might be a good one.

[louielou]

Im pretty sure that Thomas Edison wasnt a woman, but I keep this saying in mind,

 

[color=blue][font=century gothic]The man who really wants to do something finds a way, the other finds an excuse –Thomas Edison[/font][/color]

 

also....... I wrote this in my diary the day after we broke up

 

[color=blue][font=century gothic]In a separation it is the one who is not really in love who says the more tender things – Marcel Proust[/font][/color]

 

I found the second quote particulary true to my situation.........

[shamen]

How about some just random inspirational quotes that relate?

 

One of my favorites is something from a short article I found years ago... a list of things we should all learn to do. One is...

 

"Learn to demonstrate initiative and to make decisions."

 

Making our own choices leads us into a direction of being complete and happy with ourselves, rather than letting the world happen to us.

[quankanne]

a paraphrase taken from a biography I'm reading:

 

[color=indigo]I have a responsibility to define myself ... I can either choose to live down to others' expectations, or live up to my own -- Montel Williams[/color]

[ICantStopLovinHim]

Here is one to live by......" God grant me the serenity , to accept the things I cannot change....The courage to change the things I can......And the wisdom to know the difference." IT was for members of AA but thats what i think i need is a twelve step program to get over my MM and each day that goes by that i dont write him is a day closer to my recovery

[ww]

A family is a unit composed not only of children but of men, women, an occasional animal, and the common cold.

[GUEST562]

this song helped me deal with alot of pain once, mainly because my love was tried and true. If it's meant to be and pure it will go where it is destined to go. If it's selfish and wrong, it was meant to teach us something.

 

"You Learn" by Allanis Morrisette.

[Stripey]

Was thinking about you the other day. Thinking your divorce must have well and truly happened and by now you are probably living seperately from your ex?? I lost all my old emails in a pc crash so had lost contact with you. How are you doing girl and what is happening in your life???

 

Here's a very brief update on me.

 

I feel a million miles from where I was when i last used this site.

 

I am living in my home - its been 8 months since I sperated from my hubby. WE are doing OK. Not alot has change - I still love him a a person, but still see us as incompatible as partners. He doesnt love me anymore - and to be honest I think he's still working thru it.

The kids are brilliant. Have adapted to the new routine just fine.

 

As for the ex MM - he went back to wife, they moved towns and are doing oK it seems. Ihave occasional contact with both as friends. Everything is out in the open, everyone knows where they stand and there seems to be not one ounce of anger from her. They have a ways to go - they seem to have good and bad days but are committed to getting there.

 

He still - having said that - sends me the occassional drunk text, or if he see's me in a social situation tells me he's confused....

 

Me on the other hand have nothing but a dull friendship for him. He left me and I moved on. I am not remotely interested in ever going there again as everything he offered me was based on lies - that has changed my perception of im permanently. I have not looked back.

I have dated a couple of guys - but nothing that felt right. Im sure Im not ready anyway - think I am just only now really begining to enjoy being alone. Everything else will sort itself out in time.

 

OK well I hope you get this.

And I hope it finds you in a really good place.

Stripeyxxxxxx

[immoralist]

How about this bitter gem from Alanis, when the affair is just over and anger reigns::

 

You seem very well, things look peaceful

I'm not quite as well, I thought you should know

Did you forget about me Mr. Duplicity

I hate to bug you in the middle of dinner

It was a slap in the face how quickly I was replaced

Are you thinking of me when you **** her

 

Or this, from Nickelback, when the affair's sexual obsession is at its intoxicating peak:

 

I like your pants around your feet

And I like the dirt that's on your knees

And I like the way you say please

While you're looking up at me

You're like my favorite damn disease

 

Last, Dido captures the feelings for many when the MW and MW go back to their spouses, and all the OM and OW are left holding are memories:

 

I know you think that I shouldn't still love you,

Or tell you that.

But if I didn't say it, well I'd still have felt it

where's the sense in that?

 

I promise I'm not trying to make your life harder

Or return to where we were

 

I will go down with this ship

And I won't put my hands up and surrender

There will be no white flag above my door

I'm in love and always will be

[Mr Spock]

I could see that girl was no good for me

But I was lost like a slave that no man could free

At break of day when that man drove away, I was waiting

I cross the street to her house and she opened the door

She stood there laughing

I felt the knife in my hand and she laughed no more

 

That's always been a personal fav of mine.

[immoralist]

She stood there laughing

I felt the knife in my hand and she laughed no more

 

Yeah, spock, those lines tug at my heartstrings and bring tears to my eyes. You're so romantic!

[Mr Spock]

Mortal lovers must not try to remain at the first step; for lasting passion is the dream of a harlot and from it we wake in despair.

 

 

 

A man can sleep around, no questions asked, but if a woman makes nineteen or twenty mistakes she's a tramp.

 

 

 

 

All men are frauds. The only difference between them is that some admit it. I myself deny it.

H. L. Mencken (1880 - 1956)

 

False words are not only evil in themselves, but they infect the soul with evil.

Plato (427 BC - 347 BC), Dialogues, Phaedo

 

 

 

Heaven has no rage like love to hatred turned,

Nor hell a fury like a woman scorned.

[izzybelle]

not sure if these are exactly inspirational but these two songs captured how i felt

 

Forever Gone, Forever You Lyrics

Artist(Band):Evanescence

 

I wanted you to be with me

For so long I don't even know why now

But now that I've given up on you

Defiantly you see me

 

Walking away I see the pain

You put me through

Lost in your game to change the same

Forever gone, forever you

 

There's something very wrong about this

I think you knew all along somehow

You'll only take me to change my mind

And leave me broken and defeated

 

So far away I see the truth

I see through you

Now that I know the way you play

I don't want to

 

Walking away I see the pain

You put me through

Lost in your game to change the same

Forever gone, forever you

 

 

and......just part of Avril Lavigne's My Happy Ending

 

It's nice to know that you were there

Thanks for acting like you cared

And making me feel like I was the only one

It's nice to know we had it all

Thanks for watching as I fall

And letting me know we were done

 

You were everything, everything that I wanted

We were meant to be, supposed to be, but we lost it

And all of our memories, so close to me, just fade away

All this time you were pretending

So much for my happy ending

So much for my happy ending

[ssssss]

Originally posted by izzybelle

and......just part of Avril Lavigne's My Happy Ending

 

It's nice to know that you were there

Thanks for acting like you cared

And making me feel like I was the only one

It's nice to know we had it all

Thanks for watching as I fall

And letting me know we were done

 

You were everything, everything that I wanted

We were meant to be, supposed to be, but we lost it

And all of our memories, so close to me, just fade away

All this time you were pretending

So much for my happy ending

So much for my happy ending

 

Oh that song is amazing. I think it perfectly describes how we all feel...

[The_Analyzer]

"The greater the love, the greater the tragedy when its over;

those two elements always go together."

 

Nicholas Sparks