Teknoe Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I recently met this girl at a convention, got her info and we talked off and on for the past couple months. She does have a BF, though. Tonight we met for the first time other than that one time at the convention. It was a more formal meeting. We had a light dinner, talked and then I showed her my classroom. We spent about 1.5 hours decorating it. Playing music on our phones... cool night breeze flowing in. Good banter. Drove her back to the parking lot and wished her a good night. It wasn't a date, but it felt like one. It was just a really enjoyable evening. Maybe I should start seeing some single girls, lol. It seems all the girl friends I meet these days are already taken, and while 1 on 1's with them are fun, it'll never go anywhere since they are unavailable (I'm no home wrecker) Anyway, it's been a while since I been out on a date, so tonight felt really good. I really enjoyed her company and some of our shared stories were very similar. I feel like we have been buddies since junior high. Anyone else have experiences like this?
Titanwolf Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Women/Men operate differently in friendships, than they do in intimate relationships. I've found that women make great friends, but things become complicated when they develop romantic feelings for you. Appreciate the bond of friendship 1
Author Teknoe Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 Women/Men operate differently in friendships, than they do in intimate relationships. I've found that women make great friends, but things become complicated when they develop romantic feelings for you. Appreciate the bond of friendship Mmm. Wise words my friend. That is true. You just have to take whatever comes as it is and learn to enjoy it for what it is.
Author Teknoe Posted September 8, 2012 Author Posted September 8, 2012 That friend and I hung out again tonight. We grabbed some dinner on a Friday night and then she invited me back to her apartment. We were alone for about a minute until her roommate came home. Yes, she is someone's girlfriend, so nothing was going to happen, anyway. But, it was a fun night hanging out with an attractive woman. As always, I gravitate toward unavailable women. Most of my female friends are already unavailable.
SJC2008 Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 She's feeling you out because she's ready to leave her man IMO.
carhill Posted September 8, 2012 Posted September 8, 2012 If she was a friend, it wouldn't have felt like a date. Having had female friends for many years, as well as having had unrequited infatuations for females who were friendly and loving, big difference, IME. You don't have to gravitate towards unavailable women. It's a choice, as much as how you process your feelings around such dynamics. If you're looking for to date someone, have a LTR, get married, etc, make different choices. ETA, I also got used as a 'test dummy' a number of times by women preparing to leave their relationships, most recently while I was married, but 'test dummy' is the operative phrase. They were merely seeing if they 'still had it' and I was a convenient and 'safe' test dummy to do it with.
Author Teknoe Posted September 8, 2012 Author Posted September 8, 2012 She's feeling you out because she's ready to leave her man IMO. It might be possible. She did, interestingly enough, mention tonight that her boyfriend has not been as supportive this year as he was last. She dropped this in too "I wish I could move away farther from him!" (tongue in cheek but still an interesting comment on her part) The craziest thing though... she offered me to sleep over. Yes, her roomie was there, but she said she has a nice air mattress I could sleep on. I declined, though. Looking back though, I think she would have set the mattress up in her room. Huh. I can't tell if she's just uber friendly or if she's testing the waters. I won't try to overanalyze though, as it's helpful to take these things as they come. When I start overthinking it, things get bogged down, mechanical and usually bombs or goes nowhere. If she was a friend, it wouldn't have felt like a date. I think my thing is, if I find a girl attractive, and I make an emotional connection as well, I fall easily. I haven't fallen for this girl yet, but when I think about her, she's the kind of person I like to see (i.e. even if I'm tired I'll make an effort to go see her in person).
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