livelife Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Me and my ex- since the breakup, arguments, saying we are going to try to work on things, then I get upset due to lies (which he constantly denies and tries to jump through hoops to make up some situation in which it isn't a lie) Today I had it. Normally, I get mad at him and say mean things, but this time, I had told him that I was disappointed in myself, for letting it ruin my whole summer, that I really had been a bad person to my family because I wasn't happy, and that he really hurt me this time. We had talked earlier about something adn then I sent that message, I know I shouldn't have. When I told him "never mind, I shouldn't have even texted you." He told me to look online, since "I always go there for answers" and maybe I would find some. So I go to his twitter account, and on there he has tweeted about 5 things about me. 1. " You ask me how much I care and I remain silent because I can't even put it into words." (He would never tell me how he felt about me. Would only say he wanted it to work when I would ask him." 2.The last three months have been extremely humbling. I guess he means since the break up. Although we have been broken up for 2 months... What does this even mean? 3."January 29, 2012." The day we met. 4."We're both too attractive to be apart." Haha. Really? 5."I'll take the blame for everything if that's what it'll take to make you happy." 6. "I'd give anything to be able to look you in the eyes and tell you goodnight." And that's all. Although I had seen them, I'm moving out back to school tomorrow so I said I would look then because my computer was put up. He said that I would understand when I looked at it. I said Understand what? He said "a lot." I said we'll see. What do you guys think of these tweets that he posted? I told him that whatever they say, that actions speak louder than words, and whatever they say should be backed up with actions in order for them to be validated. Thoughts?
not-a-drive-by Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Were these tweets consecutive or over the course of time while you were broken up? I'd say he misses you and you have been on his mind. He just wants you to be happy and for you to know that it's not all smiles and sunshine for him. He is going through the same pain too. 1
Author livelife Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 Were these tweets consecutive or over the course of time while you were broken up? I'd say he misses you and you have been on his mind. He just wants you to be happy and for you to know that it's not all smiles and sunshine for him. He is going through the same pain too. These tweets were just posted tonight. a couple minutes after the other. Posted after I texted him that I was disappointed in him, in everything, and then I said actually I take that back. I'm disappointed in myself. Then somewhere after or at that text he tweeted that
Author livelife Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 The thing that makes me not believe him, is that he has made another twitter account that I found and I know its him due to information on it and a picture found last night, that had tweets like "i'm single. Who wants to go on a date?" And "so and so *some anonymous twitter account girl* needs to get over here. And I'm looking for an attractive lady that will come cuddle tonight. he did post one that said "she gets me all worked up" after I had left his house a couple hours after. but still. Crap like that. When two nights ago,we were talking, I told him look its either me or its nothing. and told me he wanted me, but he felt like he never did anything good enough, due to me getting upset about a lot of things. I had told him that I would appreciate it if we actually went out every now and then, I would feel a little more secure that he wanted to be with me. and he said he had no money at the moment, (he just got a new job and has to pay for rent and everything) So seeing this really upset me. He denies that it is him though and is acting like he will figure out who the guy is and will get the account deleted because "he wants it settled once and for all.: Then I see these tweets, and I acted like I had to see them tomorrow because I don't know what to say to him.
TaraMaiden Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 First of all we need to determine ages, because he sounds like a 12-year-old... he's just writing things which he hopes you want to hear. If you're broken up, quit responding and stop engaging him in discussions. You have to ignore stuff like this, because it's just juvenile and confusing. And broadcasting rubbish like that on Twitter, just comes back to bit you in the azz.... If he's your ex - he's history, and you should consign him to the past. Read the Caliguy No Contact guide in my signature, and put it to good and complete use.
Author livelife Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 TaraMaiden, We are both 20, he is almost 21 in a month. I broke up with him during a fight on impulse, instantly regret it after and literally 20 minutes later went to his house to say I didn't mean it at all and I wanted to take it back. he was so hurt he didn't want to talk, and wanted space and time. So then that puts us here, saying we were working on things, and all this stuff.
TaraMaiden Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 You're young. follow your gut reaction. Breaking up with him was probably a head decision. going back to him was probably a heart decision. Actions speak louder than words. Talk is cheap. If he wants to really invest in this relationship, then he has to show you he's serious, not yabber some stupid brief words on Twitter. and you young lady - get some dignity and self-respect. You're blossoming into womanhood. Teach guys how to treat you well, and don't settle for something that looks good, but works like a crock... Good god....! 1
Author livelife Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 You're young. follow your gut reaction. Breaking up with him was probably a head decision. going back to him was probably a heart decision. Actions speak louder than words. Talk is cheap. If he wants to really invest in this relationship, then he has to show you he's serious, not yabber some stupid brief words on Twitter. and you young lady - get some dignity and self-respect. You're blossoming into womanhood. Teach guys how to treat you well, and don't settle for something that looks good, but works like a crock... Good god....! Couldn't have said it better myself. He gets upset when I tell him he doesn't show me, because he claims he is trying and that he doesn't have money to really take me out. I'm going to repeat to him tomorrow though and say yes I've seen the tweets but honestly I need actions to back it up because words don't mean much until actions back it up. I need to word it around though. I agree, I've recently started to stand up for myself! I used to just get knocked down and tell him how much I wanted to be with him but this time that hasn't happened. All I could tell him was that he really hurt me. Maybe he is actually starting to realize it. Because he knows he is in the wrong.
TaraMaiden Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Personally? I would strongly advise you to knock this one on the head. How much of yourself do you want to invest in someone you already know is low on the Action level? Why do you want to work that hard, when he obviously doesn't? You do realise that even at this age, guys are about three years behind on the maturity stakes... though, in most cases it does level out after about 25 years of age..... You can't fix him - and he has to prove himself BEFORE you commit to anything further. Only when he demonstrates he can change his ways - for good, not just for show and to get you back - he has to maintain it.... only then might he be worth a second bite. Read the No contact Guide in my signature. It's worth its weight in gold.
Author livelife Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 Personally? I would strongly advise you to knock this one on the head. How much of yourself do you want to invest in someone you already know is low on the Action level? Why do you want to work that hard, when he obviously doesn't? You do realise that even at this age, guys are about three years behind on the maturity stakes... though, in most cases it does level out after about 25 years of age..... You can't fix him - and he has to prove himself BEFORE you commit to anything further. Only when he demonstrates he can change his ways - for good, not just for show and to get you back - he has to maintain it.... only then might he be worth a second bite. Read the No contact Guide in my signature. It's worth its weight in gold. So, what do you suggest I do when he asks me about seeing those posts tomorrow? Which I know he will if I don't say anything. But I totally agree with you, he needs to prove himself.
TaraMaiden Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 "Yes, I read them, what do you want me to say? Am I supposed to be impressed by a few random tweets? How about you talk less like the perfect romantic and start acting more like the perfect boyfriend? Put your money where your mouth is - talk is cheap." And trust me - I WOULD say that. No reason at all why you shouldn't, except for your own fear.... 2
Author livelife Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 "Yes, I read them, what do you want me to say? Am I supposed to be impressed by a few random tweets? How about you talk less like the perfect romantic and start acting more like the perfect boyfriend? Put your money where your mouth is - talk is cheap." And trust me - I WOULD say that. No reason at all why you shouldn't, except for your own fear.... Love it. Maybe I wouldn't be so harsh, just as thats the kind of person I am. No matter who it is. But I'll definitely say something close to those lines! I like it!
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