kourix Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 we all want fairytale meetings. "oh we met at the grocery store, when i first saw her i knew..." etc etc. those movie moments, you know? we want a great, romantic love story to tell friends, family, and especially to our kids. but in this day, it's getting harder to have such movie moments. you might have met online or at the club - not so romantic. i respect who OLD, but from where i am, there's still a stigma associated with it - (desperate/creepy people). especially because i'm in my 20s and accordingly "should not have to resort to going online to meet men" a guy i previously dated were discussing stuff, and he mentioned in passing that it was hard for us to work out (there were a plethora of other reasons, but this reason stuck in my head) because he still believed in fairytales. he wanted that magic moment, and he hated that we met online though he didn't regret it. it didn't feel natural and it felt desperate. truth be told, i lied to my friends too. i told them i met him in a club (not romantic, but not as 'sad' as having to resort to online dating) and i agreed with him - it sucked, the way we met. i didn't like it either, and if we ended up together, i would probably have continued lying. so i'm just wondering, how do people feel these days? would that be a dealbreaker for anyone, not meeting your SO in the "right way"?
USMCHokie Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I don't think it's super important, but when you have a good one, it's pretty cool.
AlexCross Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 With the online dating snafu i wouldnt mind saying oh we met at Barnes and Nobles, not everyone is comfy with that. If you mety your significant other as a product of an affair or any other infidelity I wouldn't be proud. It all depends on the circumstances. Dating has changed majorly in the past 10 years since the emergency of social networking.
dreamingoftigers Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I love and treasure my "how we met" moment (it's hilarious). But I think if you don't have a good "how we met" there's always a good "when I realized I was in love" 4
Star Gazer Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Meet cutes are...cute. My SO and have a pretty awesome meet cute. It lasted 23 hours.
cerridwen Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 so i'm just wondering, how do people feel these days? would that be a dealbreaker for anyone, not meeting your SO in the "right way"? Dealbreaker, no. But then again I reject the idea that there's a "wrong way" to meet. Other than "I was her favorite john", I consider most "meet stories" romantic and lovely. For OLD situations, I enjoy hearing about the first face-to-face meeting and the magic that ensued. 3
yongyong Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I just met one of the most attractive (in and out) woman from the club couple weeks ago. She is not a club girl but she happened to be there that night. she is smart and only kissed two guys before me. (still virgin too at 23 years old). sad thing is I met her before she was moving out of state in couple weeks. If she was staying, I would've dated her and wouldn't mind tell people where we met. They might guess she is some type of a whore if I tell them we wet at a club. But I know they will change their assumptions as soon as they meet her. So it's really about the person, not about where you guys met. you can meet whores in innocent places like book stores lol
dreamingoftigers Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Dealbreaker, no. But then again I reject the idea that there's a "wrong way" to meet. Other than "I was her favorite john", I consider most "meet stories" romantic and lovely. For OLD situations, I enjoy hearing about the first face-to-face meeting and the magic that ensued. I have a friend with that meet story LOL. Actually it would have been quite tragic if it wasn't for him. He went to NA and got clean. He kept in contact with her. She got a helluva beating from her pimp and called NA Dude saying she needed out of that lifestyle because she was going to die. She got clean and later they got married and had a kid. 2
cerridwen Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I have a friend with that meet story LOL. Actually it would have been quite tragic if it wasn't for him. He went to NA and got clean. He kept in contact with her. She got a helluva beating from her pimp and called NA Dude saying she needed out of that lifestyle because she was going to die. She got clean and later they got married and had a kid. I "like" that happy ending, DOT! 1
threebyfate Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 While I've never used dating sites beyond one fake profile (with the knowledge of my then fiancé) to figure out what all the LS angst in reference to it was about, wouldn't bother me in the least to tell friends how a partner and I had met. At one time, I had met someone online on a mutual interest site. Told my friends and showed them a picture, who all said I was nuts to even consider getting involved with someone through cyberspace. The girls did say he was cute though.
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I have zero problem saying that I met someone online. I even forwarded my friends his OKC profile 1
Silly_Girl Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I have zero problem saying that I met someone online. I even forwarded my friends his OKC profile Agree! My 2 best friends and my sister saw his profile before I met him. It's cool as far as I'm concerned. In a couple of weeks my boyfriend is best man at his friend's wedding and they happily chat about how they met. What matters is that they found someone who makes them really happy. And there will always be romantic or cute tales of first/second/third date or other stuff. It (how you met) is not at all important in the grand scheme of things, in my view. 1
EasyHeart Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 What kind of person even thinks about this kind of silliness?
Radu Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 What kind of person even thinks about this kind of silliness? Consider the gender of the posters so far and their answers ...
phineas Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 If you count Barny Stinson as one of your friends? Ill grab the beer & stay for a spell. Otherwise, i like got grass to watch grow.
CarrieT Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I met my BF online. Although we have tweaked our story a bit; having met on a BDSM site, he asks that we tell his friends and family that we met on Chemistry.com so we appear vanilla in public... But the whole allure for both of us was that we each wanted to find a kinky partner who would match all of our other needs: Intellectual, spiritual, morally, hobbies, etc... The fact that we have had our other mutual interests met beyond the sex is a happy ending for us! :D
Star Gazer Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Consider the gender of the posters so far and their answers ... Not in my experience. When I did OLD, half the guys would say something about having to make up a story of how we met because THEY were too embarrassed to say we met online. Lame. 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Not in my experience. When I did OLD, half the guys would say something about having to make up a story of how we met because THEY were too embarrassed to say we met online. Lame. Same here. One wanted me to go along with his made up story that we met at a "gallery opening"
amaysngrace Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I have a cute story to tell. My sister started teaching and met and fell in love with another teacher who also happened to be a varsity basketball coach. They were married for about ten years when they were going through her old photo album and came across a picture. She was cheering in the picture and in the background was her now husband coaching his team on the sideline. Turns out he was in the family photo album years before he was ever in the family. I think that's kind of cool. 2
tigressA Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I have a cute story to tell. My sister started teaching and met and fell in love with another teacher who also happened to be a varsity basketball coach. They were married for about ten years when they were going through her old photo album and came across a picture. She was cheering in the picture and in the background was her now husband coaching his team on the sideline. Turns out he was in the family photo album years before he was ever in the family. I think that's kind of cool. I love stuff like that. That's adorable. And I also echo the frequency of men wanting to lie about how we met if we met through a dating website. All but one of the guys I met online wanted to create some other story. Super-lame.
amaysngrace Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I love stuff like that. That's adorable. Yes I think so too. It's like God wanted their paths to cross or something.
grkBoy Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 It's not important at all to me. I think those who think it's very important are more in love with the fantasy over the person. It's like when you see some people who are more in love with a wedding than marriage.
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