Bad_Feeling Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Going on day 100 of absolute no contact since she dumped me. Is there any hope left? I have more bad days than I do good ones. Just want some advice.
LoveHurts88 Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Going on day 100 of absolute no contact since she dumped me. Is there any hope left? I have more bad days than I do good ones. Just want some advice. There's always hope but don't wait for it.. Move on with ur life.. I'm trying to do the same right now. Don't let them hold u back and let it stop u from what u love to do..
big bear Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Going on day 100 of absolute no contact since she dumped me. Is there any hope left? I have more bad days than I do good ones. Just want some advice. Dude, maximum I have gone is 1 month NC. This time I won't break it. If you are not over her in 100 days, it seems I have a very tough battle in front of me
2muchlove Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Dude, maximum I have gone is 1 month NC. This time I won't break it. If you are not over her in 100 days, it seems I have a very tough battle in front of me took me 8 months to get over my first love. but I tortured myself with FB stalking and didn't even know about the NC thing back then. So I'm certain that's the only reason it took me so long. I'm just over 3 weeks NC with my current ex, still going through the violent wave of emotions but the bad ones are getting less and less frequent surprisingly. OP: If you don't even try and move on nothing will happen. But there will be a day when you've had enough of this crap feeling and decide to move on regardless. But after 100 days NC and hearing nothing from your ex I highly encourage you to move on by any means possible. Easier said than done, but you can't get to step two without taking step one first.
Dorian85 Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Going on day 100 of absolute no contact since she dumped me. Is there any hope left? I have more bad days than I do good ones. Just want some advice. Keep the faith my friend. There is hope. I got screwed so bad in my relationship, I though it was game over and I would NEVER recover from it. What was worse then feeling sadness, was feeling nothing at all. For me, that was the tough part. Feeling like absolute nothingness. No anger, no sadness, no pain...nothing. But days go by, you get on as best you can in the beginning. And that is the hardest part, the beginning. But what makes the beginning so unbearable is something that you are doing right now. You are counting. Counting the days since it was over. Counting the days since you got your heart stepped on. All that you are doing by counting the days is reminding yourself EVERY DAY of the pain you have gone through. That is no way to heal my friend. You need to distract yourself as much as possible with whatever you can for the next few months. Get rid of any items, big or small, that will automatically make you think of her. Its the memories that are going to be holding you back, giving you those constant feelings of loss. Instil the belief in your head that time heals everything. Soon enough, those bad days will be ok days...then better days....then good days... the great days. It'll happen. You just have to try and not impede the process by wallowing over what has happened. You healing process will begin by refusing to let all this B.S effect you any more then it already has. Good luck friend 2
Canadian731 Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 By hope do you mean that you are still sitting there hoping she will take you back? If sk I sure hope not because that's not something you need right now, it doesn't appear you have fully grieved the relationship, because it is dead. If you two WERE to get back together down the road, it wouldn't be the same relationship it was before and you would have to take it VERY slowly. But don't sit there and hope, move on with your life, I guarantee she is doing the exact same thing right now 1
weallfalldown Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 i agree, just let it go dude, 100 days is just over 3 months.......has she contacted you?.....she would if she wanted.....and prob hasn't....don't get me wrong i have felt the same, but letting go is the best option, and if she does come crawling back, then that's tough ****...
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