Trouble sleeping

[Hindsight_is_20_20]

So it's been about 2 1/2 months since the breakup and now I'm having this weird issue with sleeping? In the beginning I would just cry and cry until I passed out. I slept through the night then though. Now, within this last week I have been waking up about every 2 hours and its not just "kind of" waking up but it almost feels as if I have downed a pot of coffee. I toss and turn for at least a half an hour before falling back to sleep, only to wake up again.

 

Anyone else having to go through this? It makes it hard to get through my days at work and being tired and trying to make it through the day is brutal...

[2sure]

Look into Melatonin . It's an herbal supplement . I take 2 an hour before I go to bed and it works pretty good.

 

It sounds like anxiety that is waking you.

[SadPanda22]

It has been almost 4 months since my break-up, and I have trouble sleeping too. I can't sleep because I am too emotionally aroused and/or have a million thoughts racing through my head. It is very frustrating to want so badly to sleep, only to toss and turn and lay awake in bed.

 

I have found that over the counter sleeping pills are pretty effective. It still takes me awhile to fall asleep, but when I do, I stay asleep the entire night.

[Hindsight_is_20_20]

I've heard of melatonin. I know my mom would take it when she'd travel to europe. I think it regulates your sleep cycle?

 

Anyways, ya. it probably is anxiety. I have the weirdest dreams. I used to dream about him very graphically. I could see his face, his body, his movements - it looked like him. Now that it's been a while it's like I'm forgetting little things. I know I'm still having dreams about him but when I wake up i forget them. I guess this is better than the alternative. I don't remember what they're about.

 

Maybe this is why NC works? Because you slowly forget? And then if and when you eventually see them again, it's like looking at a different person?

 

It's like a mixed emotion. Part of me wishes he'd show up on my doorstep and break down, tell me what a fool he's been and part of me hopes I get through the rest of my days without another word spoken or heard from him.

 

I'm ready to feel okay now, I'm so tired of him taking up so much of my thoughts. He doesn't deserve it. I need to find some way to knock him off this pedestal my mind is placing him on. 2 1/2 months feels like an eternity right now. i'm thankful for every day that goes by that gets me one more step away from him.

 

I just hope one day I will wake up and not miss him anymore.

[Buttercup84]

I had to take sleeping pills for a month or so to get sleep . But what also helped me was switching the TV off before bed , maybe read a book or listen to calming music .

 

I also put lavender oil on my pillow and made sure I showered before bed too . Do not drink anything except water or maybe a nice cup of tea .

 

Also exercise helped too , and yoga made me feel more calm .

 

Try as hard as it is , to think of something nice and happy .

[broken77]

I feel the same way. Every day torture

[Hindsight_is_20_20]

Seriously enough is enough already. Last night was the cherry on top to all of the nightmares that I am having. I don't check up on my ex, I don't want to know what he's doing but of course the thought of him being intimate with someone else sends shivers down my spine. I try my hardest not to go there in my head during the day. When I feel myself slipping, I force myself to think of something else.

 

But last night the dream was about him and another girl and as much as I tried to get away from them I couldn't. They were kissing, touching, doing anything and EVERYTHING I would never want to see nor hear about. This is seriously ruining my days following these dreams. I can't push THESE mental images out of my head. It's as if I actually saw this happening and it's imprinted into my thoughts.

 

I've been doing so well, trying to keep myself calm through all of this but this is sending me into panic mode. I can't function in this state at all. Is this part of the process of getting better? Or is this a setback? I thought I was getting stronger but now I just don't know anymore.

[weallfalldown]

yea i agree anxiety.......stress in the mind......hard to stop the thoughts.....

 

it will ease

[Sav]

Seriously enough is enough already. Last night was the cherry on top to all of the nightmares that I am having. I don't check up on my ex, I don't want to know what he's doing but of course the thought of him being intimate with someone else sends shivers down my spine. I try my hardest not to go there in my head during the day. When I feel myself slipping, I force myself to think of something else.

 

But last night the dream was about him and another girl and as much as I tried to get away from them I couldn't. They were kissing, touching, doing anything and EVERYTHING I would never want to see nor hear about. This is seriously ruining my days following these dreams. I can't push THESE mental images out of my head. It's as if I actually saw this happening and it's imprinted into my thoughts.

 

I've been doing so well, trying to keep myself calm through all of this but this is sending me into panic mode. I can't function in this state at all. Is this part of the process of getting better? Or is this a setback? I thought I was getting stronger but now I just don't know anymore.

 

Sigh, sometimes the harder we push something away, the more it comes to haunt us. Even after two years, I dream of my ex. It will go away like mine. Don't try so hard to fight it. Embrace it and it will just become another memory

[broken77]

Same thing happened to me. It was horrible, the depression, anguish combined with being tired all day. So unbearable. Unfortunately for me, xanax is the answer for now. It stops your mind from racing and you can usually get the sleep you need.