Zippzy Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I've been talking to this guy I really like for about a month. After our first date he said he "wasn't looking for a relationship" but we still hang out and he flirts with me all the time. He knows I'm a virgin and he says he doesn't have sex with virgins unless it's going somewhere. Earlier today while we were texting he said "I'm not a fortune teller, I might want to date you soon, who knows." Sometimes I feel like he's stringing me along, but what would be the point? He doesn't get sex. And he could just easily say "let's be friends" if that's what he wants.
pteromom Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I don't believe his line about "I don't have sex with virgins unless it's going somewhere." To me, that just sounds like a setup, so when he does attempt to have sex with you, it'll be easier because you'll believe it's going somewhere. What's the point? Because flirting feels good and is fun. That's the point. And if there's the potential for sex too, bonus. Don't settle for a guy who "may want to date you soon, who knows." Look for a guy who is excited about dating you as you are about dating him.
mortensorchid Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 THis guy sounds like a big jerk. Don't bother with him, I don't believe that for a second "I don't date virgins unless it's going somewhere". Chances are even if you do decide to do IT with him, he'll pull some kind of mind scramble on you and say it wasn't what he was looking for, or something just as lame. Move on.
dropdeadredtx Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 Sorry, but he is playing you with hopes of being the one to crack your resolve. If that is not what you want, move on. I am sure you find the attention flattering, which is what he is counting on.
TheFinalWord Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 (edited) I've been talking to this guy I really like for about a month. After our first date he said he "wasn't looking for a relationship" but we still hang out and he flirts with me all the time. He knows I'm a virgin and he says he doesn't have sex with virgins unless it's going somewhere. Earlier today while we were texting he said "I'm not a fortune teller, I might want to date you soon, who knows." Sometimes I feel like he's stringing me along, but what would be the point? He doesn't get sex. And he could just easily say "let's be friends" if that's what he wants. Hi, don't worry about what he wants. He's conceited. It's all about him, while you wait for his beckon call. It's a manipulation tactic. Don't fall for it. What do you want? If you want a relationship, he isn't going to give you that. It doesn't take a guy a long time to figure it out. If you're thinking about him and posting about him, then he is accomplishing his goal: to get you mentally attached. Don't worry about his end game. It doesn't have your best in mind, so it's not a good direction whatever it is. Good luck! PS: Just my personal (perhaps fatherly) advice. Whenever a young lady is confused about a man, one big piece of advice. Get a male guardian that loves you and you trust to help. Have your dad, brother, or close male friend talk to him on your behalf. "What are you intentions with my daughter/sister/friend?" That will end the games fast. These games don't work on other guys. Then take the advice of that male guardian. If he says this guy is no good, believe it and move on. Don't ignore it. Don't let any man think he has direct access to your heart. I know you are your own woman, but a lot of times men can be very manipulative. Take some precaution right out the gate and get a male guardian to help with your decision (maybe after one date to see if you like the guy). That way you won't get take advantage of. Edited August 11, 2012 by TheFinalWord
Author Zippzy Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 I wish I hadn't even gone on a date with him. It hurts to know someone would do this to me.
TheFinalWord Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I wish I hadn't even gone on a date with him. It hurts to know someone would do this to me. I understand. Most of us have to learn these things the hard way. Sorry
Author Zippzy Posted August 11, 2012 Author Posted August 11, 2012 this guy sounds like a champ give him a high five for me ???????????
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