Occu3.14'd Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 At the risk of sounding shallow, I'm just going to put this out there... I think one of the things that is giving me such a hard time is the fact that my ex was gorgeous. She really would turn heads everywhere we went. She was one of those girls that guys dream about. But the hardest part for me was that she wasn't any bit at all like the stereotypes. She looked high maintenance, but never was. She was extremely conservative, classy, and intelligent. I loved how we could always have meaningful conversations about anything. She was generous and caring. And the intimacy was every bit amazing as I could have ever dreamed. Which is why this is so difficult. If you were to take all the great qualities you could ever imagine, and then put them in an absolutely gorgeous body, you'd end up with her. Seriously, the chances of ever finding this combination again for me are pretty much zero. And that sucks. 1
weallfalldown Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 At the risk of sounding shallow, I'm just going to put this out there... I think one of the things that is giving me such a hard time is the fact that my ex was gorgeous. She really would turn heads everywhere we went. She was one of those girls that guys dream about. But the hardest part for me was that she wasn't any bit at all like the stereotypes. She looked high maintenance, but never was. She was extremely conservative, classy, and intelligent. I loved how we could always have meaningful conversations about anything. She was generous and caring. And the intimacy was every bit amazing as I could have ever dreamed. Which is why this is so difficult. If you were to take all the great qualities you could ever imagine, and then put them in an absolutely gorgeous body, you'd end up with her. Seriously, the chances of ever finding this combination again for me are pretty much zero. And that sucks. i know i know......but balls you'll find another.... 1
2muchlove Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 At the risk of sounding shallow, I'm just going to put this out there... I think one of the things that is giving me such a hard time is the fact that my ex was gorgeous. She really would turn heads everywhere we went. She was one of those girls that guys dream about. But the hardest part for me was that she wasn't any bit at all like the stereotypes. She looked high maintenance, but never was. She was extremely conservative, classy, and intelligent. I loved how we could always have meaningful conversations about anything. She was generous and caring. And the intimacy was every bit amazing as I could have ever dreamed. Which is why this is so difficult. If you were to take all the great qualities you could ever imagine, and then put them in an absolutely gorgeous body, you'd end up with her. Seriously, the chances of ever finding this combination again for me are pretty much zero. And that sucks. I'm in the same boat man. She was tall, asian and an all around smokeshow. From now on we will just have to get girls uglier than we are.
Tree_Salmon Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 At the risk of sounding shallow, I'm just going to put this out there... I think one of the things that is giving me such a hard time is the fact that my ex was gorgeous. She really would turn heads everywhere we went. She was one of those girls that guys dream about. But the hardest part for me was that she wasn't any bit at all like the stereotypes. She looked high maintenance, but never was. She was extremely conservative, classy, and intelligent. I loved how we could always have meaningful conversations about anything. She was generous and caring. And the intimacy was every bit amazing as I could have ever dreamed. Which is why this is so difficult. If you were to take all the great qualities you could ever imagine, and then put them in an absolutely gorgeous body, you'd end up with her. Seriously, the chances of ever finding this combination again for me are pretty much zero. And that sucks. Yeah, i got it bad. She was not only a cool chick (when she wasn't crazy) but she was a ten with a body that'll stay good for another 20-30 years. Nothing shallow about it. Sex was incredible. We're all human. p.s: she was a Swedish model.
weallfalldown Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Yeah, i got it bad. She was not only a cool chick (when she wasn't crazy) but she was a ten with a body that'll stay good for another 20-30 years. Nothing shallow about it. Sex was incredible. We're all human. p.s: she was a Swedish model. "bull****":lmao:
Author Occu3.14'd Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 I can't even think about sex now. It just kills me to know I was with a woman like that, and that it's all gone. I've dated a bunch of good looking girls, but this one was far and away the hottest. It doesn't help when friends tell me how much it sucks that I lost her since she was so hot. But it's the combination of everything that makes her so amazing. She could gain 50lbs, and I'd still love her (I think)
Xestenz Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 After these descriptions any chance I could get some contact info? Just kidding...
KathyM Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. I'm sure it's hard to lose someone with so much going for them, but there are lots of quality people in the world with a lot to offer as a companion. Just gotta find the right fit. Apparently, this girl was not the right fit for whatever reason.
Jono85 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 no wonder she left u, the pedestal u've put her on doesn't sound healthy. u literally think she's the perfect woman. i mean i'm heartbroken too but i can recognize my exes flaws for sure. u need to start being honest with yourself. 3
Tree_Salmon Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Problem with the gorgeous ones is that they have tons of guys waiting for you to be out of the picture (not that it ever bothered me) and they are usually the craziest ones. Not only do you get used to the beauty but once the problems set in, it no longer matters how pretty she is. "for every beautiful woman, there's a man who can't stand her" -some guy 1
Dblock10 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 hmm i get this, i too get stuck in wanting the ex back cause i dont think i'll get with someone better looking, yet i already did but it didnt work out. then again im in love with my ex's smile and voice, oddly as that sounds..
weallfalldown Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 yea they are beautiful.....but i also saw the HAG more so than not.... 1
Author Occu3.14'd Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 no wonder she left u, the pedestal u've put her on doesn't sound healthy. u literally think she's the perfect woman. i mean i'm heartbroken too but i can recognize my exes flaws for sure. u need to start being honest with yourself. No no. Only on this website. We had a very even keeled relationship. I wasn't needy or clingy at all. At no point did I act like she was the best thing in the world, and that I should consider myself lucky. It really was a mature relationship. And I'm not going to lie. I'm not unattractive by any stretch, and I have a lot going for me. Its just that this one was tough to lose. 1
Gulf-Delta Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I hear ya man. Same here. Stunning. And part of that bothers me because I can't really imagine getting someone as gorgeous as her :/
KathyM Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Problem with the gorgeous ones is that they have tons of guys waiting for you to be out of the picture (not that it ever bothered me) and they are usually the craziest ones. Not only do you get used to the beauty but once the problems set in, it no longer matters how pretty she is. "for every beautiful woman, there's a man who can't stand her" -some guy That's a myth that beautiful women are somehow lacking in other areas (i.e., intelligence, emotional health, personality, etc.) I know many beautiful women who are just as beautiful inside as they are outside. But of course there's competition, since the more you have to offer, the more people are interested in seeking a relationship with you.
Author Occu3.14'd Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 That's a myth that beautiful women are somehow lacking in other areas (i.e., intelligence, emotional health, personality, etc.) I know many beautiful women who are just as beautiful inside as they are outside. But of course there's competition, since the more you have to offer, the more people are interested in seeking a relationship with you. Right. And when you're in your 30's, there's a lot of truth to the notion that all the good ones are taken. 2
KathyM Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Right. And when you're in your 30's, there's a lot of truth to the notion that all the good ones are taken. True, a lot of them are taken by that time. No argument there. I think the average age for women to marry is 26. So your chances of finding someone with the total package does go down as people get older.
2muchlove Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 True, a lot of them are taken by that time. No argument there. I think the average age for women to marry is 26. So your chances of finding someone with the total package does go down as people get older. Difficult does NOT mean impossible. Don't lower your standards because of it.
Xestenz Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 True, a lot of them are taken by that time. No argument there. I think the average age for women to marry is 26. So your chances of finding someone with the total package does go down as people get older. Perhaps, but there is always a subset of these women, who so often seem to make poor choices in mates, that are now fed up and separating or divorcing. The problem then, as I've personally come to find, is that the total package is suddenly 'enhanced' by the additional baggage of a failed relationship.
Tree_Salmon Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 True, a lot of them are taken by that time. No argument there. I think the average age for women to marry is 26. So your chances of finding someone with the total package does go down as people get older. Funny how i dumped my gorgeous ex when she turned 26. But this is true. I've also learned that if you find a pretty one who's 28-35 and they AREN'T taken, then they usually have some massive issues that reinforce why they aren't. This is just from personal experience. I haven't found one to prove me wrong yet.
KathyM Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Funny how i dumped my gorgeous ex when she turned 26. But this is true. I've also learned that if you find a pretty one who's 28-35 and they AREN'T taken, then they usually have some massive issues that reinforce why they aren't. This is just from personal experience. I haven't found one to prove me wrong yet. I'd agree with that. The really good catches often don't stay single for long.
Tree_Salmon Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I'd agree with that. The really good catches often don't stay single for long. Well, even the crazy ones don't stay single long. But they jump from one guy to the next.
KathyM Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Well, even the crazy ones don't stay single long. But they jump from one guy to the next. True. A beautiful woman will always find it easy to have a man in her life, since beauty is probably the #1 thing that attracts a man to a woman. But it's the personality and character that will keep him. 3
Author Occu3.14'd Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Funny how i dumped my gorgeous ex when she turned 26. But this is true. I've also learned that if you find a pretty one who's 28-35 and they AREN'T taken, then they usually have some massive issues that reinforce why they aren't. This is just from personal experience. I haven't found one to prove me wrong yet. Lol. I thought that my ex would be one of those exceptions that happened to fall through the cracks. If you asked me a little over a month ago about my relationship, I'd have told you that I found a diamond in the rough. But obviously that wasn't the case. She's been in counseling for the past month, so I guess that qualifies as issues. And I was fooling myself, because I've known her for 14 years. I can't say that this was a surprise...
esteem-jam Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Dont get me started, She would beat all yours. But she rejected me, no date, no sex. As for sex... I think she wouldnt be into kinky stuff. Some kink yes, for the sake of checkbox, but not kinky. I can imagine doing 'better' things with other women, which on paper arent high on scores. She is late 20`s and I think she had issues. I agree with this quote "for every beautiful woman, there's a man who can't stand her" For some reason this movie comes to mind: To Die For (1995) - IMDb For the man who can't stand her, I think it refers to someone who has seen somebody`s real colors, and not the picture they portray (beauty, wealth... and of course how cruelly they dumped you). Remember: You can fool some of the people all of the time, and all of the people some of the time, but you can not fool all of the people all of the time.
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