awesomeusername Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Hey Guys, I'm new here. I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 30. We have been dating just over a year...We don't live together, and it took him a long time (8 months) to tell me that he loves me, but I know he is sincere. I've been thinking, I'm older now and I'm ready to find someone I want to spend my life with, not just meaningless dating. Which brings me to the question... How do you know if your SO (significant other) is the one or not? Sometimes, I think he is the one for me and other's I'm just not sure, I'm confused by my thoughts. And how do you treat your SO if they are the one?
InJest Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 You can't know if they're the one or not. You can feel it, but no one else can say what that feeling is going to be like for you. If you are looking for a long term relationship, you should treat the person with the utmost respect, whether you think they are the one or not. You sound really immature and posts like this make my head hurt.
veggirl Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 What are the issues in your R, or qualities about him, that make you question whether or not he is 'the one'? I have also been with my BF for a bit over a year, we actually had the same time frame as you and yours with saying ily We moved pretty slowly in that regard, I am sooo glad we have taken things slowly and got to know each other the way we did. I don't have ANY doubts about my BF. I don't know why *exactly* that is. We just click. We communicate well. We don't fight. We have fun together. I don't know, it just works and it is EASY. 2
MrCastle Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 It's interesting, you're only a year older than me but we're at two completely different places in our lives. I'm not even looking for an exclusive relationship, let alone looking to spend the rest of my life with someone. I just think the sheer odds of finding "the one" at such a young age are pretty slim. Even if you add twenty years to your life, you'd only be 45. That's still relatively young in my opinion. I always do the 15-20 year fast forward in my head. Can I see myself being with this person 20 years from now? So far that answer has always come back "no." In regards to knowing. I think it's more about feeling. Someone above already discussed it so I don't have to go too deep into it. Bottom line is it's a feeling you get that you've never gotten before, and that feeling will be all you need to know. 1
dropdeadredtx Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 If you aren't sure, then he's not. Simple.
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