LostGirl11 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Going to keep this short. Basically I had an argument with my boyfriend last night that lead to him breaking up with me! It seems quite petty to me but would like your opinions. So when we first got together he told me about these two friends he has, they're married couple, he told me that that they are always trying to set him up with women ect. So anyway, he told how he is going play some jazz with them at her sisters wedding and how they want to take him out afterwards, he said something like, 'Mia wants me to go, I don't know why, but I'm gonna go anyway' So I said something like, 'Maybe she wants to set you up' (I meant this in a completely playful way) But it didn't go down well at all, he pretty much flew off the handle and told me that I think I'm more morally correct than him! I tried to calm him down and told him I was only messing around, I went on to say something like 'If my friends done that or if I got chatted up I'd tell you' He didn't like this at all! Said something like, 'Oh so that happening is a possibilty' At this point I was like 'Whoa' you need to calm down! He was yelling at me at this point by the way. So yeah, this all seems even more petty now that I've written it! Was I in the wrong? Did he over react? I want to say sorry but at the same time I don't. He is giving me the silent treatment at the moment, yes he broke up with me but it just seems crazy! A part of me doesn't even want to talk to him, I mean it's like he wants me to be scared of asking him anything ect, hmmm, do I really want to be with someone like that?
lumi Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Certainly no...what kind of guy would just walk up to his girlfriend and just say he will be going out anyway without even asking her own opinion...that is just not boy friend like...i don't think you were wrong at all and yes he over reacted...i mean it was just joke..most guys tend to interpret some things in the wrong way when they are guilty of something...since you guys have broken up and i know definitely it will be hard for you to let go...but all d same just let him be and see how long it will take him to actually leave you..gdluck:)
pteromom Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Sometimes, people get emotional. Sometimes, we all get involved in dumb arguments and look back later wondering what it was all about. The concerning part to me is that rather than take some time to cool off then come back for a rational discussion, your boyfriend broke up with you. So yes, if you get back together with him, you'll have to live in constant fear of him leaving if you make him mad. So - it isn't that he isn't worth it. It's just that he has a lot of maturing to do before he is ready for a serious relationship. I'd move on.
pteromom Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 His reaction to the comment about "setting him up" followed by a break-up also makes me suspicious that his friends really did have a date for him and he knew about it. 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I agree with petromom. The whole thing is entirely shady. A normal boyfriend would have said, "Don't be silly baby. And even if they were, I told them I am with YOU." I think it's a red flag that they invited him but not you anyway. It's also a red flag the way he completely flipped out. And finally it's a red flag that he is giving you the silent treatment. This guy sounds really unbalanced. I don't think you really want to be in a relationship with a person like this. This is the small stuff. If this is how he acts with the small stuff, think how he acts with the big stuff. 1
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