blue_jay_bird Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 So im trying get over my ex. and im rebounding with this new guy. Any advise with how to not feel sooo guilty. I feel bad, guilty when im with him, help. He left me, after 7 years. Out of the blue. I feel like im cheating.
Xestenz Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Wait Blue Jay - are you guilty because you feel like you're cheating on your ex, or do you feel guilty that you are using someone as a rebound? Is this new person fully aware of your situation, and has he acknowledged his role in your life right now (and that likely no matter what he does you ultimately won't be available to him?)
notsure252 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 If the guy realizes you are just dating for fun then I wouldn't worry about it. Dating for fun (as long as the other person fully understands you aren't there for anything serious) is great to get out there and regain confidence and see that there are more people out there. But if the other individual does not fully understand this then you will just break their hearts. The first date or two will feel like that for a while more-than-likely. You were with your guy for a long time. But getting out there is good, like I said.
awesomeusername Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 So im trying get over my ex. and im rebounding with this new guy. Any advise with how to not feel sooo guilty. I feel bad, guilty when im with him, help. He left me, after 7 years. Out of the blue. I feel like im cheating. This is a situation where you are going to be hurting yourself and this new guy. You need time right now. Rebounds hardly ever work, because you are still attached to your ex boyfriend. When you let him go, is when you can see other people. It's only fair to YOU and the other person. Why do you feel the need to have a rebound? 1. To get over your ex or.. 2. To supplement the sex you were used to having If you picked one...that won't work. You need fill that void with friends/family/things not other romantic relationships If you picked two...buy a toy
rach24680 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 i suppose it's just weird and unusual. Maybe if it feels so wrong, don't do it. Let yourself get used to being single for a while
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