lostmy love mother to my son

[lost love of my life]

i am an emotional mess im lost my girlfriend of 3 years and mother to our 1 year old son has moved on after 3 weeks of being apart say she has no feelings for me ive begged for another chance i know when i had her the stress of being a parent and the only one working tore our relationship apart i stopped showing her how much she ment to me and its all i can think about we broke up cause we jus needed time to think she didnt let me have space so i told hr to leave me alone for a week so she jus moved on i ben writing her love letters not going out and jus trying to prove to her she and our son is all i will ever need she does still spend the night with me sometimes we sleep in same bed and i hold her all night but no sex wont kiss me and sends me mixed signals i jus dont know what to do to make her want me again cuase i promised to never let her go no matter what i want her to be mother of all my kids and jus want to be happy family again jus need some help

[Meg717]

First...future reference.. you really need to add some punctuation, I'm not saying you need to do it correctly, I'm just saying we need some periods, commas, ellipses, anything to break up that very long sentence.

 

Second... I'm a little confused.. correct me if any of this is wrong

you kicked her out and needed space..

you decided you wanted her back..

she sometimes spends the nights at home, sometimes not..

when she does stay at home, you share a bed and cuddle

 

So here is my advice is the above is correct:

You need to talk to her and see what she is thinking. You need to seriously figure out if this is a relationship worth fixing. To me it sounds like she is taking advantage of you. When her other, better sleeping arrangement doesn't work out, she comes home to you. This is wrong! You need to tell her it's either all or nothing. She can not be coming in and out as she pleases.

Staying like you are now it is a horrible environment for your son. He does not need to grow up seeing a mom that comes in and out when it's convenient and he doesn't need to see you allowing it to happen. Plenty of children grow up very healthy if they're parents don't stay together. You really need to think of what's best for your son.

Edited August 10, 2012 by Meg717

[leoc1973]

Ok you guys need some counseling. She was smothering the hell out of you! I know how that feels. Sometimes women don't understand that a guy needs a little alone time once in a while. For our own sanity. They take it as its an attack on them or there is something wrong with them when its just in our nature to need to be able to decompress once in a while.

 

So what does she do? She probably is trying to teach you a lesson. Its so hard when people are all or nothing. You guys need to talk to someone and find some middle ground.

 

Don't let her play this game with you. Give her the option of you either both go to counseling and try to fix this or completely cut her off. As much as you can with a child but she needs to know that this little passive agressive game isn't going to fly.