TooHonest123 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 5 Years ago while i was a junior in highschool me and my best friend (buddy) were going out to the movies. He said he needed advice as to how to handle a messy situation he had just gotten into. Apparently the night before he had gone to his friends party... there was alcohol, music etc. towards the end of the night everyone in the party was passed out. the only people awake was my Buddy and his friends girlfriend....So they started talking...one thing led to another and they ended up having sex that night. my friend said he had "feelings" for her.And so she did for him. he wanted to pursue the relationship.... My advice to him was to think of the pain his friend would go through. to not do to others what he would not want want done to him. And most inportantly that mother nature had a funny way of rewarding or punishing you for anything you do. He ignored my advice and proceeded to go through with the rrlationship. they dated for about two years. i remmember about 1 year into their relationship my buddy said he did not love her anymore and even cheated on her 2-3 times withiut telling her. My friend got enlisted in the army at about 2 and a half years into the rrlationship. he had to go far away and ended up breaking up with his gf because he liked someone else at the fort where he was training. about 5 weeks ago a recieved a call from my buddy...he was crying and feeling depressed. He told me that i was right when i said that life gets you back for anything you do. apparently his new gf at the fort was bisexual....he caught her having sex with his closest friend (at the port) who was another girl. He was devastaded because he said he trully loved her. Something that caught my attention was that when things went wrong at the fort. he started telling me how much he missed his first girlfriend whom he had met and slept with at the party all those years ago. He felt she was the only person that had been there for him tgrough thick and thin...in regards to this i only adviced him to be careful not to fall in a rrebound. because at this point he was emotional and lonely
KatZee Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Something that caught my attention was that when things went wrong at the fort. he started telling me how much he missed his first girlfriend whom he had met and slept with at the party all those years ago. He felt she was the only person that had been there for him tgrough thick and thin...in regards to this i only adviced him to be careful not to fall in a rrebound. because at this point he was emotional and lonely Sounds a bit like my ex. I'm not conceited or arrogant here, but I'm a catch. If I were to list my attributes it would probably be under "ideal girl." I was the only one there for my ex through good and bad, I was the only one who truly supported him, was there for him, believed in him. He threw me out like I was nothing. Believing because we had arguments ONCE every few months, that meant we were not right together. He thought he could go and find better. And so while he was with me, he met someone else at his new job. Almost three years together, he threw it out and got with this new girl. My ex also lied to me constantly, and cheated on me. So he left for this new girl, and how surprising, it was over in less than a month. I'm not sure if he realizes what he threw out and what he had just yet, but this gives me hope that one day, he really will recognize this, and it will be then that he realizes he got what he deserved for doing me so horribly.
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Sounds a bit like my ex. I'm not conceited or arrogant here, but I'm a catch. If I were to list my attributes it would probably be under "ideal girl." I was the only one there for my ex through good and bad, I was the only one who truly supported him, was there for him, believed in him. He threw me out like I was nothing. Believing because we had arguments ONCE every few months, that meant we were not right together. He thought he could go and find better. And so while he was with me, he met someone else at his new job. Almost three years together, he threw it out and got with this new girl. My ex also lied to me constantly, and cheated on me. So he left for this new girl, and how surprising, it was over in less than a month. I'm not sure if he realizes what he threw out and what he had just yet, but this gives me hope that one day, he really will recognize this, and it will be then that he realizes he got what he deserved for doing me so horribly. Yea, my ex was like that too. Just because we have arguments at times. (2 times in 3months or lesser) She told me she was tired of all the constant fighting. =.= each relationship is bound to have quarrels and constant? i didnt classify our arguments to be constant.
KatZee Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Yea, my ex was like that too. Just because we have arguments at times. (2 times in 3months or lesser) She told me she was tired of all the constant fighting. =.= each relationship is bound to have quarrels and constant? i didnt classify our arguments to be constant. Absolutely not. My ex thought a minor fight once every three months was "drama." Meanwhile he was oblivious to the fact his friends relationships had fights weekly or more.
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Absolutely not. My ex thought a minor fight once every three months was "drama." Meanwhile he was oblivious to the fact his friends relationships had fights weekly or more. oh why bother when they don't understand the fact that OCCASIONAL arguments are there to make the relationship stronger. I don't mind some arguments once in awhile as it allows me to take a peek into my partner's mind and know what she's really thinking
KatZee Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 oh why bother when they don't understand the fact that OCCASIONAL arguments are there to make the relationship stronger. I don't mind some arguments once in awhile as it allows me to take a peek into my partner's mind and know what she's really thinking Exactly. My ex's brother once said something that I'll always remember... "I'll never marry a girl I don't fight with." He wasn't talking about BLOWOUTS like throwing and cursing... but just those fights you need to strengthen the foundation, learn more about the person, etc. There will ALWAYS be disagreements and arguments, and anyone that has that much wool over their eyes to think that's a bad thing, or not reality, is only fooling themselves.
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Exactly. My ex's brother once said something that I'll always remember... "I'll never marry a girl I don't fight with." He wasn't talking about BLOWOUTS like throwing and cursing... but just those fights you need to strengthen the foundation, learn more about the person, etc. There will ALWAYS be disagreements and arguments, and anyone that has that much wool over their eyes to think that's a bad thing, or not reality, is only fooling themselves. Im pretty sure your ex will have a hard time settling down with that type of mindset. And sometimes arguments just bring back the spark into a relationship. Hah, I totally agree with your ex's brother. I will also never marry a girl that I don't fight with. It's going to end up like crap anyway, why bother XD
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