Do most women want a guy to be a challenge, before you start dating each other?

[Ross MwcFan]

I read what some woman said in the nice guys suck thread, about how she needs to be a challenge there before dating a man, and doesn't like it if they're willing to be yours as soon as you show interest in them.

 

I was just wondering if most women think like this.

 

Personally it sounds too much like game playing to me, and it makes it seem as though you've always got to do everything just right in order to keep her, possibly even throughout the relationship if you both end up in one with each other.

[Els]

Not personally. Some women do. Depends on who you're interested in.

 

From what I've heard from my female friends, the man acting uninterested or 'challenging' is an instant turn-off. Of course, there's a definite line between being 'not challenging' and just plain clingy. Some experience and practice will usually give you a firm idea of what that line is. Calling her 20 times a day when she isn't answering is being clingy. Calling once to ask if she'd like to go out on Friday is good.

[soccerrprp]

I take it as game playing, personally. I've actually had ladies ask me if i'm dating other women, not because they were necessarily concerned about exclusivity, rather, if i wasn't putting all of my eggs in one basket...another train of thought that befuddles me.... anyway, I don't know if what i'm saying is related, but some women feel that you should be dating multiple ladies for you to be "worth" pursuing...perhaps i'm reading wrong, but that has been my experience... it always turns out that i reply by asking whether she would feel more comfortable if I were dating others while dating her....the answer has been no (except once...just don't know what some women are thinking).

[fortyninethousand322]

The thing about game playing is women can tell if you're playing a game just to gin up attention from her vs just being hard to get naturally.

[morichu]

I think you need to find a good balance. I always play out the alpha male role when first talking to a girl.

 

When I get her number, I wait atleast 3 days to talk to her. Then when it's time to plan a date, I always wait atleast 4 more days telling her that I'm gonna be busy until then. Girls don't want you to always be available. Even when you're in a serious relationship.

 

Like I said though, find a balance. Don't be so hard to reach that she just gives up on you. Once you start dating then throw all this out the window. Every once in awhile though, take awhile to call/text her back. It'll make them want you more

[SJC2008]

What se meant to say was that if a girl says hi to you don't act like it's the first time a woman spoke to you. As far as being a challenge and all that crap don't come off as desparate that's all. These rule books have to sell so they gotta fill the pages with something but they're OTT IMO.

[without]

My question is do men want a girl to be a challenge?

[HeavenOrHell]

I hate game playing, I don't want a guy to be a challenge at all.

 

 

I read what some woman said in the nice guys suck thread, about how she needs to be a challenge there before dating a man, and doesn't like it if they're willing to be yours as soon as you show interest in them.

 

I was just wondering if most women think like this.

 

Personally it sounds too much like game playing to me, and it makes it seem as though you've always got to do everything just right in order to keep her, possibly even throughout the relationship if you both end up in one with each other.

[Titanwolf]

Yeah, there are a lot of women who want a challenge and a lot who don't. There are a lot of men who also want a challenging woman (I am one of them) and even more who don't, by nature.

[amaysngrace]

I was just wondering if most women think like this.

 

I don't. I like it when I know a guy really likes me and wants to get to know me and hopes to be with me and only me.

 

That makes it seem like he thinks highly of me from what he knows of me.

[Silly_Girl]

No games for me thanks. I find honesty charming