Alban Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I am in a LDR for 4 years.. Fast forward she came the last month and we had a great time together till yesterday, the last day. I love her with all my heart and never considered breaking up with her, and she had a time where she wanted to break up with me but that changed when she came here, she fell in love with me again and much more than in the past ! Her family doesn't know about us and that complicates things quite much like our time together (3 hours max. a day), our culture is old time where the parents have control over the daughter's till they're 18..she's 16. So yesterday was our last day together, she promised me earlier that we will have more time together that day, and she was convinced that it would be like that, it turned out to be the other way around (just 1.5h) and to be honest I expected to be like that. Much of the time we spoke on phone, and that gave me the hardest night of my life. I asked her how can you be so cruel to me ? I came for you every where, any time but you even couldn't say goodbye to me ? She cried and said sorry to me then I told her that I don't know I can't be like this, she cried and begged me to stay with her, please don't leave me she said. I forgave her and said I won't leave you, I love you more than anything. Later while speaking her mother came to her room so she had to turn off, then sending me a message telling me to wait 20 min. I waited...waited and waited, called her 20 times, sending messages etc. I was afraid something happened so I got to her place and watched if something happened, I was waiting 2 hours outside, calling , texting but she never replied until 3 am in the morning. I asked her is everything alright, and she told she fell asleep and then said to me me sorry it can happen she was in bad mood and crying then fell asleep ? HOW COULD SHE SLEEP, SHE KNEW I WAS OUTSIDE WAITING FOR HER CALL, I FELT LIKE A DOG. I fell down in tears of how miserable I am, how undeserved it was, how much love and care I gave her, but life is never good to the people who deserve good. I broke up via text message, she will arrive tonight and probably will contact me, what should I do I love her so much and really don't want to lose her though she broke my heart so many times now .. Someone give me advice please
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I am in a LDR for 4 years.. Fast forward she came the last month and we had a great time together till yesterday, the last day. I love her with all my heart and never considered breaking up with her, and she had a time where she wanted to break up with me but that changed when she came here, she fell in love with me again and much more than in the past ! Her family doesn't know about us and that complicates things quite much like our time together (3 hours max. a day), our culture is old time where the parents have control over the daughter's till they're 18..she's 16. So yesterday was our last day together, she promised me earlier that we will have more time together that day, and she was convinced that it would be like that, it turned out to be the other way around (just 1.5h) and to be honest I expected to be like that. Much of the time we spoke on phone, and that gave me the hardest night of my life. I asked her how can you be so cruel to me ? I came for you every where, any time but you even couldn't say goodbye to me ? She cried and said sorry to me then I told her that I don't know I can't be like this, she cried and begged me to stay with her, please don't leave me she said. I forgave her and said I won't leave you, I love you more than anything. Later while speaking her mother came to her room so she had to turn off, then sending me a message telling me to wait 20 min. I waited...waited and waited, called her 20 times, sending messages etc. I was afraid something happened so I got to her place and watched if something happened, I was waiting 2 hours outside, calling , texting but she never replied until 3 am in the morning. I asked her is everything alright, and she told she fell asleep and then said to me me sorry it can happen she was in bad mood and crying then fell asleep ? HOW COULD SHE SLEEP, SHE KNEW I WAS OUTSIDE WAITING FOR HER CALL, I FELT LIKE A DOG. I fell down in tears of how miserable I am, how undeserved it was, how much love and care I gave her, but life is never good to the people who deserve good. I broke up via text message, she will arrive tonight and probably will contact me, what should I do I love her so much and really don't want to lose her though she broke my heart so many times now .. Someone give me advice please You have lowered your head, dropped your dignity and what you get in return? A face full of crap. You sound like a really great guy and in my pov, you dont deserve such bull. However, love messes with our head every single time and stands in the way of rational decision making. Can you see a future with her? Can you stand being treated like that in the long run because it seems to me she's not going to change. Can you honestly say you will put up with all these in the future? Answer all these questions truthfully and you will have your answer
Rorschach64 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I've been in your shoes before, traveling a great distance to be together only to be blown off but to break up with her over it may have been quite rash. You should always try to work things out to the end instead of just throwing in the towel. Only thing you can do is talk things out and that's it. Hopefully she will be open to it.
Rorschach64 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Sav is also right about her behavior being less than acceptable. If she is acting like this it probably is major issue.
Author Alban Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Thanks for the responses, but she isn't really that bad, it's more like she is like this from nature, I will talk to her tonight and tell her that she needs to change for the sake of us, I forgot to mention she swore she will never do this to me again but I won't buy it she will have to prove it to me, she will have to sweat to win me back. If she won't fight for me, then it's just the end. I had a war with myself for her, and now it's her turn. I am happy with her, she is great when we are together believe me. And I see my future with her, I see her with me raising kids and having the life we both talked about when she was here.
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