Thornton Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 What would you do in this situation? -You lose your job and can't pay your rent, so you move into your partner's apartment because that's the only option available, even though you don't really want to and you're not sure there's any future in the relationship. -The relationship isn't ideal, and you know that you'd probably have ended it already if it wasn't for the fact that you have no money and nowhere else to go. -You feel resentful about the problems in the relationship, especially since you have to keep quiet and not voice your feelings, because you're scared that if you argue and break up you'll be homeless. -You're not sure you want to be with this person, but you have to smile sweetly and keep them happy because they put a roof over your head. This makes you feel like a prostitute but you have no other choice.
Ninjainpajamas Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 My advice to that situation This is just a situation you simply have to get out of or accept the consequences of living under these circumstances If you choose to. You may think that maybe you could ride it out to a degree...things may change or improve but really It's just a waste of time for you and them, in the end you'll both be dissatisfied with the outcome since you already know you don't really want to be with this person. Eventually this will break you down and make you feel trapped, not really free to be who you are and do what you want to do...however that's the price of sharing a life with someone, it's about considering them as a priority because you are sharing a life...don't learn the hard way with that one, regardless of how you see it there is a certain dynamic implemented by your choices alone and there's nothing you can do to change that with your own reasoning unless the other person is completely on-board and ok with it which is extremely unlikely for most people. Don't sacrifice your integrity to be more comfortable, you'll end up bitter and resentful towards that person and you'll blame them for your unhappiness...you can't put on the sweet smile forever, eventually It's going to crack...maybe not from the outside but on the inside and that's really not worth it...you're being fake to them and you're being unfair to your own happiness and repressing yourself. Do what you can to support yourself and be gainfully employed so you can move out asap, you'll be happier alone and free to do what you want then in what is supposed to be a more comfortable situation but essentially tied down. Don't lie to yourself, you know what you need to do...and there is no easy way around it or to make it right, you already know what you feel inside, that doesn't just go away.
Els Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Search for a new job like there's no tomorrow? There's always more that you can do. And there are always jobs available... if you're not picky. Not that there's anything wrong with being picky, but then you just have to live with the consequences of your choice of being picky.
Emilia Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 What would you do in this situation? -You lose your job and can't pay your rent, so you move into your partner's apartment because that's the only option available, even though you don't really want to and you're not sure there's any future in the relationship. -The relationship isn't ideal, and you know that you'd probably have ended it already if it wasn't for the fact that you have no money and nowhere else to go. -You feel resentful about the problems in the relationship, especially since you have to keep quiet and not voice your feelings, because you're scared that if you argue and break up you'll be homeless. -You're not sure you want to be with this person, but you have to smile sweetly and keep them happy because they put a roof over your head. This makes you feel like a prostitute but you have no other choice. I wouldn't move in. You would feel trapped very quickly as Ninja said and you would start resenting the person for it. It would make you very miserable, moving out then would be soul destroying for both of you. You need to find some kind of a job asap. Don't use your partner.
veggirl Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I would beg friends and family before moving in with the dude in this situation.
KungFuJoe Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I wouldn't put myself in that situation. Been there done that...but I was a boy back then. I'm a man now.
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