Says shes not ready for relationship, should i wait?

[Concho]

TL;DR: i love girl, girl says not ready for relationship. I honestly believe that she likes me, but is seriously just not yet ready to date. Acts like she doesnt like me, but is just using that as a tool to make me stop liking her, even tho thats not actually how she feels.

 

 

Full story:

So i met this girl who is very pretty. After playing "cool guy" i casually get her number, we start talking and texting, i see her at work, i start to get to know her and start falling hard. We very quickly became great friends and shared private info about each other. Shes VERY flirtatious, and does a lot of teasing.

 

After a party, saying bye she gives two of my friends hugs, but when i go for mine she gives me a peck on the cheek. I immediatly think shes into me, and keep playing cool and flirting and all that. I take notice of how she treats me compared to the other guys in our circle of friends, and how it seems she acts more flirty with me than anyone else. It seems like im on the right track at the time. We text back and forth all day and night and everythig seems perfect.

 

One night after an argument, i try to mend the situation with me telling her up front that i have strong feelings about her which she seems to act very hesistant about. Turns out she already knew (through one of my guy friends) that i liked her. After this, nothing changes about our relationship and we cotinue to talk, i take a much more aggressive role, using my crush on her as a flirting tool, while she plays the flirty role and continues to tease (talks about how her shirts are getting to small for her boobs, telling me about her skimpy track uniform).

 

I make a point to not ask how she felt, as i knew she had broke up with her bf of two years only 4 months ago (shes 18, im 20). On one depressed night, she says shes not ready for a relationship and that she doesnt want me to get hurt. Well i dont take the hint. I honestly believe she has feelings for me, yet she is still not over her ex (who broke up with her, against her wishes).

 

Im stil not letting up, yet being much less aggressive. She tells me to stop liking her, but then follows up with "once you get to know me, you wont like me". I believe its all a lack of self confidence. As in, its not that she doesnt like me, its just that she honestly doesnt think i would like her. I still continue. One night i bring her over, we get decently physical (cheek kisses, body rubbing, hand holding) which she doesnt seem to mind. We stare into each others eyes, i brush her hair and softly kiss her cheek and she takes it gladly. Afterwards she texts and says that we cant do that anymore, and that she doesnt want me to "get the wrong idea". Once again, perfectly fine with the physcality, yet wants me to back off later

 

She starts mentioning how much she wants sex (50 shades made her horny). We are both virgins so i bring up the idea of us losing it to each other, to wich she replys "with me? Really?" (self confidence problem) and i say yes. The next morning i bring it up and she says "im not having sex with you lol". Stings a little, but shes always use that as a way of teasing

Example: i say i wanna kiss her, she says "no way sir". Then on her birthday i promised her a cheek kiss. Didnt get to give it to her that night, and i get a text "i was fully prepared to kiss you tonight. On the lips). Bottom line is i cant trust what she says when it comes to keeping me at a distance.

 

She continues to tell me how shes thinking of her ex, and how she doenst like me talking about checking out other girls, and hating it when i dont talk to her. Ive never bought her anything of value, so i know shes not using me for money, she has a car, so i know she doesnt use me for rides, i dont do anything that could be "used" besides attention.

 

Final note: i think i love this girl, im very confident she likes me back, and when she says she doesnt like me, shes lying. Simply because she is ACTUALLY not ready for a relationship. Do i persist? Or drop all comunication? Just being a friend is impossible, so theres no in between. And as i told her, "if someone as awsome as you comes around, ill move on, but until then, making you love me is my mission"

Sorry its long and poorly written. Not an english majr

[yongyong]

She dated a guy for 2 years and she is still a virgin ROFL.