dark1san Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Say you meet someone, you really are into them, think they are really good looking, you feel comfortable being yourself around them, they really like you, they too feel really comfortable being themselves around you, yadda yadda yadda so on and so forth. Only 1 catch, they smoke. Could you, would you look past this because you really liked them? Or would you move on?
MrCastle Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Heh. Couldn't, in theory, your title be something like "Dating someone who smokes" or "Would you date someone who smokes?" 1
SmileFace Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I myself am a social smoker. I mean about 10 cigars a year at most. I rather not be with someone who is a chain smoker. However it wouldn't stop me from being with them. As long as they don't do anytype of drugs - including weed I am fine.
miss_jaclynrae Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I smoke, so I would be one of those people where people have to decide if it is something they are ok with. That being said, I have dated many NON daters. It is easy for me to not smoke though if around someone who has a problem with it. I really don't mind going all day if I am with a guy who hates it all day.
Author dark1san Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 It could have been, but it's 2 am where I am, my mind is basically mush right now.
MrCastle Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 It could have been, but it's 2 am where I am, my mind is basically mush right now. It's 2am where I am too. :bunny: 1
eleanorhurting Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 You guys should really look into not smoking anymore. Someone had to say it! Yes, I would mind. 1
nessaaa Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Say you meet someone, you really are into them, think they are really good looking, you feel comfortable being yourself around them, they really like you, they too feel really comfortable being themselves around you, yadda yadda yadda so on and so forth. Only 1 catch, they smoke. Could you, would you look past this because you really liked them? Or would you move on? Move on. My ex used to smoke weed on the regular.. And was very moody. He'd have a temper tantrum if he couldn't get it and took it out on me. And I can't date drinkers. Smokers stink too. U smell it on their skin, hair, clothes....not cute.
oaks Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 You really couldn't think of a better title? Must be true what they say about smoking killing your brain cells. 1
Author dark1san Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Um! I'm not the one who's smoking. She's the one who is a smoker. So what was that about smoking killing brain cells, because I'm pretty sure it's just I'm tired as all hell. I've never smoke a cigarette, joint, cigar, what have you in my life.
oaks Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 ok, serious answer this time: Are you going to find it annoying every time she smokes, or can you accept that she's a smoker? If the first one then let her go because it won't get any better. Don't make her quit "for you" either. Let her find someone who wants to date a smoker, while you find someone who doesn't smoke.
kaylan Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Smoking is a deal breaker for me. Im big into fitness and health, and smoking would super turn me off. It smells bad, it ages your skin and teeth, it screws up your lungs...no thanks. 1
ThaWholigan Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I'm OK about smoking to be honest - I used to smoke weed (and I still do on rare occasions ).
TLY22 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 If you like someone that much, smoking should never be an issue. If you let it be an issue, then that's pretty shallow of you. My only stance on smoking is, I have no problem if, when I met them, they were a smoker. That's part of what you get. But if they didn't smoke when we started dating, then started to while we're together, that would be a problem. Also, no big kisses directly after a smoke
SmileFace Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 If you like someone that much, smoking should never be an issue. If you let it be an issue, then that's pretty shallow of you. My only stance on smoking is, I have no problem if, when I met them, they were a smoker. That's part of what you get. But if they didn't smoke when we started dating, then started to while we're together, that would be a problem. Also, no big kisses directly after a smoke This makes sooooo much sense
NoMagicBullet Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 If they expressed a committment to quitting and were actively trying to, I'd see where it goes. Otherwise as a non-smoker, I'd have to move on.
mortensorchid Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 SMoking is a big issue with some. Quite honestly, I think people are far too uptight about it. Smoking is the new "hate" that is socially acceptable. Remember, if we were living in the 1920s it was alcohol. Hence the rise of the Speakeasy, but I digress ... I consider this situation : If the person is holding it over your head that you smoke, they might hold something else against you as well. So what if you smoke? They will also find some other fault with you. It might be your friends, your job, what you do for leisure time, etc. Learned that the hard way with my second to last serious bf.
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