LoveHurts88 Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 (edited) Hey guys for those who don't know.. me and now my ex girlfriend got back together after our first break up.. It's been a year now and now we broke up today... I had a feeling it was coming although I didn't not think it was going to be like this. Basically she went out with her friends who came to visit (her ex) which is one of her good friends. She didn't come home so I got worried and she said she slept at her friends house all of them did. Okay so I question her and she doesn't like it etc.. so she hates it when I question where she is or who she's with... After we had a talk and she says that she's feeling like she has to report to me etc... We'll I ask her because I sort of don't trust her but I love her.. Weird... She told me she's been wanting to end it for a while now kinda and that she sort of lost feelings for me and that her feelings are not strong enough for us to continue. There is no point if her feelings aren't the same I agreed. So here I am it ended because of me questioning her all the time.. And I guess it's because we don't do much we don't go on vacation or go anywhere special (my fault). My feelings for her has slipped but I do still like her. She says it's not because of anyone else but who knows... During this time I had a weird feeling this would happen and that she was kinda shady... She says we can be friends but I know it's going to be quite hard... She also said that we could be friends but it's kinda hard seeing her especially if she's going to be with another person if that is the case.. She also said that I should give it sometime let her really think about it but I'm sure she's thought about it cuz she said she has before but didn't want to end it but today just gave her the reason.. I guess I should go NTC? Just move on for good? I have no idea what to do although this time was a lot easier than the last... I was crazy the last time we broke up.. Although I want to be with her if her feelings are there then there is no point. One major point was that before she had a choice between another guy and I and she chose me... She told me today that they went for dinner or something before and he seems really happy and she feels like she made the wrong choice which really hurt me.. Im not rich.. I try to give her everything I can but it's not enough. In the end I believe she's bored of me and I think it's time for us to move on.. Thoughts? or what can I do to ease my pain? Thanks Edited August 10, 2012 by LoveHurts88
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Hey guys for those who don't know.. me and now my ex girlfriend got back together after our first break up.. It's been a year now and now we broke up today... I had a feeling it was coming although I didn't not think it was going to be like this. Basically she went out with her friends who came to visit (her ex) which is one of her good friends. She didn't come home so I got worried and she said she slept at her friends house all of them did. Okay so I question her and she doesn't like it etc.. so she hates it when I question where she is or who she's with... After we had a talk and she says that she's feeling like she has to report to me etc... We'll I ask her because I sort of don't trust her but I love her.. Weird... She told me she's been wanting to end it for a while now kinda and that she sort of lost feelings for me and that her feelings are not strong enough for us to continue. There is no point if her feelings aren't the same I agreed. So here I am it ended because of me questioning her all the time.. And I guess it's because we don't do much we don't go on vacation or go anywhere special (my fault). My feelings for her has slipped but I do still like her. She says it's not because of anyone else but who knows... During this time I had a weird feeling this would happen and that she was kinda shady... She says we can be friends but I know it's going to be quite hard... She also said that we could be friends but it's kinda hard seeing her especially if she's going to be with another person if that is the case.. She also said that I should give it sometime let her really think about it but I'm sure she's thought about it cuz she said she has before but didn't want to end it but today just gave her the reason.. I guess I should go NTC? Just move on for good? I have no idea what to do although this time was a lot easier than the last... I was crazy the last time we broke up.. Although I want to be with her if her feelings are there then there is no point. One major point was that before she had a choice between another guy and I and she chose me... She told me today that they went for dinner or something before and he seems really happy and she feels like she made the wrong choice which really hurt me.. Im not rich.. I try to give her everything I can but it's not enough. In the end I believe she's bored of me and I think it's time for us to move on.. Thoughts? or what can I do to ease my pain? Thanks Sorry to hear about that breakup. But my advice? Move on. Break ups happen for a reason and the cracks will always be there. I believe in reconciliation but only once. Since you guys tried and failed again, I daresay it's high time you bail and move on. Tough luck bro but you'll get through this
Author LoveHurts88 Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Sorry to hear about that breakup. But my advice? Move on. Break ups happen for a reason and the cracks will always be there. I believe in reconciliation but only once. Since you guys tried and failed again, I daresay it's high time you bail and move on. Tough luck bro but you'll get through this Thanks, it's hard... I just really don't know what to do.l ill try to move on.. Easier said than done... She seems fine when I left her place... Grabbed all my stuff.. Safe to say its really over?
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Thanks, it's hard... I just really don't know what to do.l ill try to move on.. Easier said than done... She seems fine when I left her place... Grabbed all my stuff.. Safe to say its really over? Dont harbor any hopes of reconciliation. Even if she has some feelings for you, the fact is you guys broke up. There's no more "we", no more "us", only "I". So do yourself and focus on yourself and heal. That's the only way for you to be a better person
Author LoveHurts88 Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Dont harbor any hopes of reconciliation. Even if she has some feelings for you, the fact is you guys broke up. There's no more "we", no more "us", only "I". So do yourself and focus on yourself and heal. That's the only way for you to be a better person Yea tbh when we argued she never tried fixing things it was all me.. She said we can be friends etcc but of course they'd say that... Maybe NTC is the way to go... 2 yrs next month... Longest relationship she's had.. I just can't picture her with anyone else.. Although I think I'm feeling fine it hasn't hit me yet
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Yea tbh when we argued she never tried fixing things it was all me.. She said we can be friends etcc but of course they'd say that... Maybe NTC is the way to go... 2 yrs next month... Longest relationship she's had.. I just can't picture her with anyone else.. Although I think I'm feeling fine it hasn't hit me yet As some people who have said the same thing to me, you're still in the shock phase. It will hit you and trust me, it will hit hard. The thing is to really hold your head high and cling onto whatever dignity you have left. DONT be her friend (at least for now). Concentrate on healing and go NC right now. The sooner you start the sooner you heal. There are loads of awesome support right here on LS and everybody understands the pain you're going through (we really do). Anytime you feel like texting, calling, stalking her, just come onto LS and say whatever you want to say. Just dont break NC. You'll make things worse 1
Author LoveHurts88 Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 As some people who have said the same thing to me, you're still in the shock phase. It will hit you and trust me, it will hit hard. The thing is to really hold your head high and cling onto whatever dignity you have left. DONT be her friend (at least for now). Concentrate on healing and go NC right now. The sooner you start the sooner you heal. There are loads of awesome support right here on LS and everybody understands the pain you're going through (we really do). Anytime you feel like texting, calling, stalking her, just come onto LS and say whatever you want to say. Just dont break NC. You'll make things worse Thanks, tbh this is our 2nd break up first one hurt like hell... This one not so much ATM... Just sucks knowing we aren't together anymore... So far there's no contact haha 2 hours? Arggggg need to get her off my mind.. At least I'm not tearing.. 2 years now this.. She's in the party n have fun mode I can tell
Author LoveHurts88 Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 And as a bf shouldn't I have the right to know where sheis ? Or is that just an excuse for her to breakup
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 And as a bf shouldn't I have the right to know where sheis ? Or is that just an excuse for her to breakup I'm not her so I can't really say what goes on in that head of hers. But to be fair, It could be an excuse or It really might be that she feels suffocated. It can work both ways. Thing is, it has already happened. Do not think of the "What ifs" and "Maybes" because they are only fantasies. The truth is that you guys broke up and that is reality. The way I see it, both of your personalities clash hence the relationship would not work out even if you guys didnt break up now. Focus on improving yourself for yourself Loads of girls out there mate, you just didnt meet the right one yet
Author LoveHurts88 Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 I'm not her so I can't really say what goes on in that head of hers. But to be fair, It could be an excuse or It really might be that she feels suffocated. It can work both ways. Thing is, it has already happened. Do not think of the "What ifs" and "Maybes" because they are only fantasies. The truth is that you guys broke up and that is reality. The way I see it, both of your personalities clash hence the relationship would not work out even if you guys didnt break up now. Focus on improving yourself for yourself Loads of girls out there mate, you just didnt meet the right one yet I think I did suffocate her.. She never really said anything but honestly if I did what she did shed question me etc? Hypocrite for sure..l she has everything her way in our relationship I babied her... I guess she was wearing the pants in our relationship ... Shouldn't let that happen
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I think I did suffocate her.. She never really said anything but honestly if I did what she did shed question me etc? Hypocrite for sure..l she has everything her way in our relationship I babied her... I guess she was wearing the pants in our relationship ... Shouldn't let that happen Well, to me, both parties are at fault during a breakup. So take this time to focus on your faults. Let her faults be someone else's problems . Dont worry, emerge a better person and a better person will come your way. The most important thing from a break up is to learn where you went wrong and improve yourself. Dont worry bro, as you improve, your taste will improve too and so will your love life
Author LoveHurts88 Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Well, to me, both parties are at fault during a breakup. So take this time to focus on your faults. Let her faults be someone else's problems . Dont worry, emerge a better person and a better person will come your way. The most important thing from a break up is to learn where you went wrong and improve yourself. Dont worry bro, as you improve, your taste will improve too and so will your love life I know whatur saying but it just sucks knowing that we aren't together anymore.. Like even yesterday we were still fine.. And now all of a sudden one argument.
Sav Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I know whatur saying but it just sucks knowing that we aren't together anymore.. Like even yesterday we were still fine.. And now all of a sudden one argument. Yea I understand man. But its what she chose and you have to respect it. I know it really sucks so bad but move on, not for her but for yourself. You deserve it.
Author LoveHurts88 Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Yea I understand man. But its what she chose and you have to respect it. I know it really sucks so bad but move on, not for her but for yourself. You deserve it. Thanks man,, much appreciated... Her loss not mine 1
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