Coyoteloco Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Hi, so im doing better, it doesnt hurt so much, and i just realised today its 3 weeks since we broke up, and im feeling sooo soooo much better than in the first week, that seems years ago. i still think of her alot, and sometimes i think im better with out her, i dont want her back, but when i come home at night all i want is to be with her and i miss her like hell. During the day while im doing stuff i feel better, i even felt something like love again with some girls from my class, and i know they like me, and they came and sit next to me, that sure makes me feel better knowing that other girls are interested in me and i get hope that i might fall inlove again, i wish that could be as fast as possible And it makes me realise that i wasnt so happy with my girlfriend, cause she made me angry and she wasnt suuuch a good girlfriend, and i had to fix most of our problems because when something was wrong she didnt know how to act or how to make things work and at the end of the day i was always the one that made things right. But today this is the question in my head, will she ever regret her decision? i know she loved me, and everyone keeps telling me she wont find some1 like me ever again, even her family tells me so, and she herself told me so, and everyone said like i was a really good boyfriend and that i would make a really good husband. And to tell the truth when things were bad i was the one that saved her life and now that things are doing well for her, she decided to leave me to go and "have fun". So she thinks shes young and free but for me she is more like young and stupid. i dont know, are there any kind of signs that can point out that she is regreting her decision? today is the 4 NC at all day, and almost second week of limited contact. Im doing alot better and i came home with a big smile in my face tonight, but when i get online and start remembering her i feel bad and sad and nostalgic :/
Gulf-Delta Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 But today this is the question in my head, will she ever regret her decision? i know she loved me, and everyone keeps telling me she wont find some1 like me ever again, even her family tells me so, and she herself told me so, and everyone said like i was a really good boyfriend and that i would make a really good husband. And to tell the truth when things were bad i was the one that saved her life and now that things are doing well for her, she decided to leave me to go and "have fun". So she thinks shes young and free but for me she is more like young and stupid. i dont know, are there any kind of signs that can point out that she is regreting her decision? today is the 4 NC at all day, and almost second week of limited contact. Im doing alot better and i came home with a big smile in my face tonight, but when i get online and start remembering her i feel bad and sad and nostalgic :/ Who knows man. If you guys really had something great, she may regret it sooner or later. When is the question....it could be years I wonder the same about my ex. The things we talked about, ("You're gonna be the best daddy") and all that stuff...I don't think serious, big feelings (instincts?) just disappear like that...IMO, my ex's priorites got ****ed up, and building a family and future with me took second place to...whatever the **** she's doing now. Eventually, she'll regret things...but I'm not counting on her coming back, even if she did regret it.
blue_jay_bird Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 I hope they do, i hope he wake's up one day, and thinks, iv made a huge mistake. I hope it hurts like hell. But that day is not today or tomorrow or the next day. Cause you have to live your life like worst case scenario. Don't ever expect anything, ever again from them. What is the worst case? She is happy, and she will never wake up one day and regret what she did. If you live your life thinking she will, your in for big disappointment. I still wake up hoping today is the day he will contact me. It's been two months. Don't hold your breath.
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 Yes, i know what ur saying, i wont take her back even if she regrets it, after how she made me feel, i know she will do this again if she gets back together with me. And i know that next time i see her she will want to kiss me and she will remember everything, but im going to be strong and dont do it. aslo she posts facebooks status and i know she does that for me to read them, but they are confusing like what does this mean??? "Everything will turn out alright in the end, and if it's not alright, then it's not the end " i know it is from a movie, and it has something to do with finding a new love, but would you take this as a sign she is regreting something or the other way round?
Gulf-Delta Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 (edited) Yes, i know what ur saying, i wont take her back even if she regrets it, after how she made me feel, i know she will do this again if she gets back together with me. And i know that next time i see her she will want to kiss me and she will remember everything, but im going to be strong and dont do it. aslo she posts facebooks status and i know she does that for me to read them, but they are confusing like what does this mean??? "Everything will turn out alright in the end, and if it's not alright, then it's not the end " i know it is from a movie, and it has something to do with finding a new love, but would you take this as a sign she is regreting something or the other way round? You're stronger than I, my friend. The thing is, I would take my ex back if she asked. But she'd have to change back to the women I know she can be and was. Our situations sound very a like, and our emotions seem pretty similar too. I held my ex up in her worst times. I encouraged her to go to school. I drove her there every morning when her car blew up, and then would drive 2.5hrs to work. Everyone says she's crazy for leaving me, the "only guy who would tolerate her weirdness"...she left me to go "have fun" The weird thing is, there are MANY stories here about "my ex left me to have fun", but no threads about what happens to the dumpers AFTER their "fun" is over. Edited August 10, 2012 by Gulf-Delta
blue_jay_bird Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 The weird thing is, there are MANY stories here about "my ex left me to have fun", but no threads about what happens to the dumpers AFTER their "fun" is over. Yeah i find odd, that there are sooo many stories of, she/he dumped me, so much pain, im trying NC. Not alot of posts about the ex crawing back- not even in Second Chances Form. No posts about the ex, trying even that hard to get back together AFTER their "fun" is over. Makes me think is doesn't happen.
Gulf-Delta Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 Yeah i find odd, that there are sooo many stories of, she/he dumped me, so much pain, im trying NC. Not alot of posts about the ex crawing back- not even in Second Chances Form. No posts about the ex, trying even that hard to get back together AFTER their "fun" is over. Makes me think is doesn't happen. Eh, you could be correct. But many of the older posters that were dumpees who were dumped so their SO can "have fun"...they say "the dumper ALWAYS comes back" and my first thought is "Show me dude!" lol
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 well yeah we seem pretty much alike, "The thing is, I would take my ex back if she asked. But she'd have to change back to the women I know she can be and was." same with me but i know that wont happen so its a no. and i got the exact same thing ("only guy who would tolerate her weirdness") and i know something happened to her, i dont know what went through her mind, but i know its no good, cause when i last saw her she was craysier than ever lol, and i know that if she gets into another relationship she will get hurt cause i was sweet with her, and never did someething bad to her. but well it was her call. Andd im not going to sit here till she understands she ****ed things up, ill go and find someone that loves me and that doesnt take me for granted. I know we are all going to get through this and be happier than ever in some time. But for now one day at a time seems fine
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 well and for the thing of the dumper coming back, my mother told me this story, that when she was going to get married, this ex boyfriend of her that dumped her, came and asked her no to marry because he still loved her, she told him to **** off. But well it seems that the dumper haves the balls to break it up but not the balls to get back together, until its too late. 1
Eddie Edirol Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 If everyone told her that she made a bad decision by dumping you, and she was a bad girlfriend, then youre better off. She could be broken and looking for someone that is also broken. Whatever the reason, she probably had reasons that she was turned off to you. She probably wont regret the decision, as it probably was a decision that went on in her head for months.
Author Coyoteloco Posted August 10, 2012 Author Posted August 10, 2012 well she actually told me that as soon as she felt like leaving me she did so, she felt weird for 1 week and then she finally told me, and she also told me this could be the worst mistake in her life and that maybe in 1 month she would be begging me to come back together. She also told me that if she sees im happy with another woman she would die, and that she still loved me but she was going through some bad times right now. what i think is that we been together for so long, that maybe it was time for a break. But well the best is to think of the worst case senario so i dont get hurt anymore :/
blue_jay_bird Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 She probably wont regret the decision, as it probably was a decision that went on in her head for months. I hate when a ex does that WTF. Months, maybe a year/s. What is wrong with you why didn't you talk to me about it. 3
Xestenz Posted August 10, 2012 Posted August 10, 2012 It is hard, I know -- been going through it myself. But the key is that at some point you will reach a point where it won't matter to you one bit if she regrets it or not. Nor will you care what she's doing or who she's seeing, etc. It might seem like a long way off right now, and it might be, but there is power in indifference. Wish you the best!
Eddie Edirol Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 well she actually told me that as soon as she felt like leaving me she did so, she felt weird for 1 week and then she finally told me, and she also told me this could be the worst mistake in her life and that maybe in 1 month she would be begging me to come back together. She also told me that if she sees im happy with another woman she would die, and that she still loved me but she was going through some bad times right now. what i think is that we been together for so long, that maybe it was time for a break. But well the best is to think of the worst case senario so i dont get hurt anymore :/ You NEVER believe them when they are breaking up with you, thats when they lie the most. If she tells you she is going throu8gh bad times, and then next thing you know she is hanging with someone new, then you know you were duped. Very few times when people are going through such bad times that they cant take solace in you, and break it off. They usually just want to move on. I hate when a ex does that WTF. Months, maybe a year/s. What is wrong with you why didn't you talk to me about it. I've done this. People dont tell you for two reasons, they gave up on the relationship and arent trying anymore because they know you turned them off too much to make it work. Or they are waiting for someone new to peak new interest to dump you for. Some people cant be alo9ne. But they can never tell you that.
chrisusarmy2005 Posted August 11, 2012 Posted August 11, 2012 I feel the same thing Gulf, I would take her back in a heart beat because shes worth it. I went though everything with her and she dropped me like a rock. She had gastric bypass and she got really skinny and she left me. As much as she hurt me, I still would do anything for her. Maybe she will wake up and realize she screwed something great up. I know im better then that, but like I said shes worth it and she would have to impress me again. I never go by looks but because shes skinny now she said she didn't need me anymore. It was a bad breakup im just getting back out there which is nice. I do think she will regret it and is it wrong to kind of hope that she learns the hard way and realizes what she had. We will make it through this.
SpiderxMan Posted August 18, 2012 Posted August 18, 2012 I once was the dumpee, but many times been the dumper. Im grateful to had been the dumpee for once, it humbled me a lot. It showed me not to go around playing with these females feelings. Which made me the person I'm today. And yes the dumper do come running back, but for me it was out of curiosity. I feel once someone comes in contact with another human being,(relationship wise)there's always going to be a chance of reconnecting.
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